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On A Brighter Note....

(25 Posts)
Greenfinch Sat 05-Jul-25 11:22:14

I was in Lidl yesterday buying a few items. The queue in front of me all let me go first. I would always do this but was very happy to see it reciprocated.

Crossstitchfan Sat 05-Jul-25 11:20:48

Great thread but it worries me how few comments there are on here! Surely there are more good deeds being done than these?

henetha Sat 05-Jul-25 11:14:26

I agree, Jennajim. Just smiling and being pleasant to people can lift their whole day. I've been on the receiving end of loads of little acts of kindness, most people are just lovely. So I try to pay back by being nice to people I come across in everyday life.

kinjil Sat 05-Jul-25 11:09:10

I'm a carer and feel a bit isolated but out of the blue a neighbour gave me a bunch of flowers 💐 she had noticed lots of ambulance visits!

Jennajim Sat 05-Jul-25 08:08:48

Just smile at people, 9 times out of 10 they smile back.For a lot of people that's the only interaction they have.

Just pass it on,

Mt61 Wed 02-Jul-25 20:18:19

I helped an elderly woman who had fallen on an escalator. The lady had cut her shin, which was bleeding badly. I often wonder how she’s doing.
I fell a few weeks ago, two nice young lads helped me to my feet. What goes round, comes round in a good way though 😊

Diplomat Wed 02-Jul-25 20:07:52

What a great thread. We should keep it as a daily thread. Simple acts of kindness can mean so much.

grannybuy Wed 02-Jul-25 19:06:25

I sent a note to my local Lidl manager in praise of the young lad at the till who came out to look for me in the car park after I’d left my bank card in the packing area. We should probably show appreciation of positive acts more than we do.

Momac55 Wed 02-Jul-25 17:20:50

I did the same a few weeks ago and 3 random members of the public came over checked I was ok and helped me up

Momac55 Wed 02-Jul-25 17:19:47

I volunteer with a literacy charity, I teach adults to read

sandelf Wed 02-Jul-25 16:58:29

Yesterday 'toiling' home uphill in the heat after a tiring day, I tripped on an uneven paving stone. In the moments I was just checking no harm done, 3 cars passed and every one slowed and offered help. Very reassuring to think that had it been needed - help was very much there.

Philippa111 Wed 02-Jul-25 16:18:20

It’s so uplifting to read all of these messages. It reminds me of the saying ,’It is in giving that you receive’… so true reading these posts.

ViceVersa Wed 02-Jul-25 16:07:40

My FiL passed away a couple of weeks ago after a few very difficult weeks for the family and the funeral was last week. I was stunned to receive a beautiful bouquet of flowers and lovely card from a company I have a subscription with and support on social media. It was very unexpected and honestly was just the tonic I needed - it really lifted my spirits.

FranP Wed 02-Jul-25 16:00:06

Hubby went fishing, so I set about doing some sorting out. Then a friend who had been recently retired contacted me for some info and I asked her about lunch - we had a lovely meal and cuppa at the local garden centre while she told me about her pending trips to Taiwan, Cambodia, Wales and Malta. Sitting now in the sunshine reading your lovely positive messages.
Enjoy your day

Chicklette Wed 02-Jul-25 15:28:43

Where to start? I find that kindness breeds kindness. Last year my closest friend died of cancer, and my other close friend spent a year many miles away due to a seriously ill grandchild. During these most difficult days I joined a new yoga class where I knew no one except the instructor. I have never felt so welcomed. At the end of the session one lady came to invite me to hers for coffee, along with others. Now, a year later, I consider this group to be good friends. In fact I now live a few doors away from the lady who invited me!

At the church we used to attend there was a couple who we were polite to but barely knew. Last year they turned up at the church we now attend. We made a point of befriending them as the wife is often unwell, and they have also become friends who share the bounty of their allotment with us as well as inviting us to tea.

Otherwise I make a point of smiling at strangers and I usually get one back. A wise woman once told me that not everybody has a smile so I should give them one of mine.

All this to say, I am actually an introvert, but these interactions are opening my world up.

jocork Wed 02-Jul-25 14:40:25

I do deliveries a couple of times a month for our local food bank to people who can't get to the hall to collect. Many are really grateful and I've been offered a drink by one client on a hot day after I'd climbed 2 flights of stairs to her flat. Only occasionally the recipients seem ungrateful, complaining about the contents of their bag - which I'm not responsible for - I'm just the driver! Fortunately the grateful ones are definitely in the majority.

CountessFosco Wed 02-Jul-25 10:48:16

A women who stands in the local queue for free handouts [or otherwise they will be put into a landfill]! told me her benefits had been stopped so she had had no money for three weeks.
We raided our cupboard, found tins of vegetables, fruit, also some packets of pasta and one bottle of washing-up liquid. etc. We gave this to her yesterday. She was grateful, kindness costs nothing but means so much.

TheWeirdoAgain1 Wed 02-Jul-25 10:39:23

I just love making till workers laugh when I arrive at their till and ask ''how are you?'' and I reply with ''subnormal today and was abnormal last week!''

JaneJudge Tue 01-Jul-25 19:03:05

I’m so positive I wore an expensive dress to work today 😅

crazyH Tue 01-Jul-25 19:01:09

Blossom - What a lovely ‘fitizen’ she is and I hope new and lasting friendships were formed …

Astitchintime Tue 01-Jul-25 18:54:23

Oh blossom, how lovely ! And I hope new friendships were forged too.

blossom14 Tue 01-Jul-25 18:50:47

This afternoon our fitizens exercise class was cancelled at short notice due to the weather.

Immediately, one of the members messaged us all to join her for tea in her garden. We are all in the 70/80's age range and not really linked socially.

It was such a kind and unexpected gesture and cheered us up as we found lots of topics in common to natter about.

Beechnut Tue 01-Jul-25 15:48:00

I think it does Asitchintime 😀

Astitchintime Tue 01-Jul-25 15:39:28

I’ve been messaging someone who I met at a wellness group……they were struggling with motivation and we swapped phone numbers so we could check in on one another a couple of times a week……….does that count?

Philippa111 Tue 01-Jul-25 12:10:21

I see there are posts about how negative people are becoming.

I'd like to start a thread where people can say how they were helped or helped someone in their daly life or anything that reminds us of the resilience and beauty of the human spirit. These can be small acts of kindness that might not be mentioned otherwise.

Yesterday there was a man doing some work on the house. I listened to him as told me about his wife's alcoholic son who was stealing, destroying things etc. I just listened and allowed him to express his anger and sadness. He felt heard and I felt useful.