dealing with sad and happy news at the same time..

I have just returned to GN after being away for a couple of weeks. I was so sorry to hear your sad news bikergran. Not sure what I can add to what others have already said, other than that I am thinking of you and your family.

Once again a big thank you to you all, one of my dds and myself went up earlier to say goodbye for the last time, my other dd couldn't face going again, I don't know why but I don't feel upset tonight, I feel calm and peaceful, Mr Biker looked so peaceful as though he was just sleeping, we went up this morning as well, but having gone up after tea, his features had changed slightly and I felt that it was right to make it the last visit, the funeral is at 9-40 tomorrow so quite early, not sure if that is good or bad, at least we won't be moidering all day getting into a tizz, as my stomach tends to start if I am stressed.
I let one of our dd choose the one piece of music, not my choice but!

"Heaven needed a hero" as the first piece
" Love is blue" by Paul Maruit
and the end song "somewhere over the rainbow, Eva Cassidy"

Cant believe that in approx. 2 hrs time, it will be a week since that awful night, I just cant remember what I have done this last week.

I must get to bed now and prepare for tomorrow, goodnight all. take care all.

Hope all goes well tomorrow, biker, when you say your au revoirs. Be strong for one another and the new baby.

If ever there is a tomorrow when we are not together,
there is something you must always remember.
You are braver than you believe,
Stronger than you seem
And smarter than you think.
But the most important thing to remember, even if we are apart,
I'll always be with you.

Winnie the Pooh
A.A.Milne

Thinking of you NanKate

Best wishes for tomorrow biker, a sad day for you all

Be brave Biker. We are with you in spirit and sending lots of vibes to get you through.

Thinking of you too, Biker. I hope the knowledge that all the Gransnetters are with you in spirit, will help a little bit.

So sorry Biker. Like everyone else big (huggs). So many of us are thinking of you.

Best wishes for tomorrow, Biker. I hope it all goes well

Biker just caught up with your news. So sorry. Hope all goes as well as it can tomorrow

Will be thinking of you also x

Very moving biker. Thank you for posting. I will be thinking of you tomorrow!

Will be thinking of you tomorrow

I've only just picked up this thread & been moved reading through your story & the comments. I do hope all goes well for all of you on Tuesday & send lots of love & support. Give your grief time to flow so you'll be able to enjoy the baby & support your daughter. It will be a time of joy tinged with sadness that MrB isn't there but a time where the future is full of happiness - & probably lots for you to do too.

Thinking of you all

We will all be with you in our thoughts on Tuesday morning. I am sure that you will have organised a fitting farewell, and you will have your family and those he loved around you.

So sorry to read your sad news biker.

Such a gentle and moving post biker. Thinking of you.

It is good you have an early date. In our area it is about a three week wait and you are in a sort of limbo for that time. Will be thinking of you on Tuesday together with the rest of GN I suspect.

Thankyou once again for all your kind words,

things have been arranged, music sorted, and the day has been booked
for early Tuesday morning, DD (the one who is expecting) came last
night and we went to see Mr Biker...we wasn't sure what to expect and it
was a shock seeing him again, and I just wanted to pick him up and bring him home, he was so cold, he hated being cold, but we were happy with how he looked,I have just been up to see him on my own, and felt a bit better this time, if that is the right word. Our elder DD went up this afternoon, but couldn't cope and was distraught when she came back.
Bye for now all you lovely people, and will pick up GN again in the near future I'm sure, take care all.

Biker, so sorry, but not sorry in a way. You knew that once those medicines came into the house, that it would not be long, as I did when it happened to my husband. Doesn't make it any easier, and for a long time I wondered if it was right, and should I have tried harder to keep my husband alive.
I know how you feel as this was how my husband died over two years ago. I have managed to see that it was a good way to go, eventually, and no longer blame myself, or anyone else, for how he died. It sounds like your husband was peaceful at the end. That's all we can hope for ourselves.
When my father died, he had just been told that my youngest son's partner was going to have another child. He was very happy for them.

Me too.

Biker, I am thinking of you tonight

biker I have just come onto Gn for the first time for a few days and I found your post. I am so sorry I cant add anything to the posts from the others, apart from never ever feel that you shouldnt be here on Gn, we are here if you need us. {{{hugs}}}

So sorry to read your sad news Biker, condolences from here too.