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dealing with sad and happy news at the same time..

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bikergran Fri 27-Jun-14 14:34:09

as most of you know Mr Biker is very poorly (he hasn't got a bike by the way)!
this week we have had the hospital bed delivered, and lovely nurses coming and talking and sorting OH out, he is under the impression I am going to get him better like I have always done in the past when things have take a turn for the worse, but unfortunately yesterday when certain drugs arrived from the chemist It sank in that I can't make him better this time,the nurses are coming later to talk me through the drugs and side effects etc, they really are so kind, OH half has managed three spoonfulls of custard today.

On the other side of the coin my DD whos has one and only GS announced 3 months ago she is pregnant (after being told it was unlikely she wouldnt have any more children) GS is 7.
OH was sooo ....... chuffed to hear the news ( I didn't announce it any earlier as DD has had 2 scares) and has now had 20 wk scan and it seems we are to have another GS smile she has to go for another scan as baby was lying awkward, but apparently he likes "showing his bits!
I am finding really hard to concentrate on either situation, I feel so sorry for DD having to cope with her dad so ill,s it's difficult to focus on the baby, a few days after OH had heard the news he said "I want to hold this baby"..but the way things are going it is very unlikely.

I do think things happen for a reason and maybe that having a new life to focus on will ease the way.

NfkDumpling Thu 03-Jul-14 07:41:29

I somehow missed this thread until now. So sorry Biker. Be kind to yourself. (((Hugs))).
Here's some more flowers (cellophane removed) to put with the array sent by the others.

seasider Thu 03-Jul-14 07:30:49

Sorry to hear your news Biker. Be reassured that you did all you could for DH. He will have died happy about his new DGC and home with his family. Thinking of you flowers

DebnCreme Thu 03-Jul-14 06:56:24

bikergran I am so sorry to read your news. You have been very strong and amazing (((hugs))) flowers xx

suzied Thu 03-Jul-14 06:42:34

So sad. Hope you can find comfort from your family and friends (flowers)

rosequartz Wed 02-Jul-14 23:20:04

Dear biker so sorry to hear your news and please accept my condolences. It sounds as if it was all so peaceful and he was at home with you with him.

The new baby will give you all something to focus on and look forward to in the difficult days ahead.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. flowers

Galen Wed 02-Jul-14 22:55:06

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Galen Wed 02-Jul-14 22:54:46

B iPad [floweres]

Galen Wed 02-Jul-14 22:54:11

Just heard. So sorry [fowers]

Deedaa Wed 02-Jul-14 22:38:07

I am so sorry biker at least he was at home and went peacefully with you beside him. The next few weeks will be very hard for you, but there are always people here to talk to. I hope the coming baby will be a consolation for you flowers

KatGransnet (GNHQ) Wed 02-Jul-14 21:58:41

Such sad news. We send all our best wishes to you and your family bikergran flowers flowers

yogagran Wed 02-Jul-14 21:42:46

Just caught up with your sad new biker - Condolences to you.
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Marmight Wed 02-Jul-14 21:38:14

Biker I am so, so sorry. flowers The next few weeks and months will be difficult but you have your wonderful new grandson to look forward to and that will help ease your grief.

Ana Wed 02-Jul-14 20:51:55

bikergran, I'm so sorry.

janeainsworth Wed 02-Jul-14 20:48:01

bikergran I'm so sorry, you must feel devastated, but I hope you can feel comforted by the thought that you were there for him to the end, you could not have done more sad

chloe1984 Wed 02-Jul-14 20:44:37

So very sorry thoughts are with you

Lona Wed 02-Jul-14 20:40:39

bikergran Such sad news biker, I am sorry, but you were there to comfort him and love him when he needed you, so don't have any guilty thoughts. flowers

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 02-Jul-14 20:32:15

bikergran so sorry. sad

grandma60 Wed 02-Jul-14 20:02:17

flowers so sorry

sparkygran Wed 02-Jul-14 18:35:50

Biker I`m relatively new to GN but have seen your name before so I`m sending big hugs flowers and keep on doing what you are doing and congrats to DD

janerowena Wed 02-Jul-14 17:13:36

I am so very sorry, bikergran. I don't think anyone could ask for a better death than he had though, safe at home with someone loving and caring for him and keeping pain from him. x

KatyK Wed 02-Jul-14 15:56:22

Oh biker so sorry flowers

dustyangel Wed 02-Jul-14 15:34:14

Just caught up with your sad news Biker and would like to add my condolences. flowers

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Scooter58 Wed 02-Jul-14 11:06:29

So sorry to hear this Biker,thoughts and condolences to you and yours flowers x

Grannylin Wed 02-Jul-14 11:01:18

Dear biker sending you lots of love and virtual hugs...we all wish we could give you real onesxflowers

newist Wed 02-Jul-14 10:30:31

This is such sad news biker I can not say anymore than has already been said on here. You and your family are in my thoughts and I offer my sincere condolences flowers