dealing with sad and happy news at the same time..

My father died when I was five month's pregnant so I know how difficult it will be for you and your DD.

Such a tough time for you.

Biker

(((Hugs))) and [flowers[ biker. Take care and talk to us!

Bikergran ((((hugs))))

You sound like a very strong woman biker. I send all my love to help with what's ahead of you and your DH. Congratulations to your DD and I wish you all the best for the future.

Oh dear Biker - isn't that life? Full of ups and downs, happiness and sadness, joy and pain. I'm so glad that you have a joyful event to look forward to even as you deal with the sad reality of your husband's situation. Sending you (((hugs))) and .

biker, there are few words any of us can give you that will cheer you at all - and normally you are the one who's so light-hearted. The joy that will come with your new grandchild will hopefully help you all through this time. xx

Biker, we have known you so long now as a lovely, cheerful, friendly gran and now we know the burden that has been gradually building up to this very sad situation. Meanwhile, it's good to be able to look to the future and a new grandson, when you had never expected another. I'm glad you have shared your joy and your sorrow with us. Don't go away - we are here for you.

Sent with love x

Oh bikergran, what a poignant and heart felt post. I'm joining other posters in sending you virtual hugs, and supportive thoughts and feelings.

It's hard to find words, bikergran. I would give you a hug if I could.

Dear biker. I am so pleased to hear of your DD's good news, and hope this will help ease and comfort Mr. biker. Take care. x

bikergran - I send all my fondest wishes to you in this very difficult situation. It does sound as though you have excellent professional support there - I know that will be a great blessing. There are so many people on here who are sending you strength and are thinking of you.

I do understand the bitter-sweet situation - my mother passed away two days after I was present at the birth of my dear GD. It was a strange time, but in a way it felt that we were a part of the cycle of life and it was comforting.

Biker like you we have had to cope with sadness and happiness together and I am sure you are right, there is a reason and a season for everything.
You sound such a strong woman and I hope that you and your OH will get all the help and support you need.
Thinking of you

biker big hug. I am humbled by what people deal with on a daily basis and still find time to do "normal" stuff like post on GN forums.

When my mom was really ill, she would sometimes almost sort of daydream out loud or fantasise about e.g.planning her next holiday, or about the next time she would go to visit her sister, well knowing that it would never happen, as did those of us who were sitting with her. We just carried on the charade (interspersed with some heart to hearts about what was really going on) because it was comforting for her and for us to indulge in the dream.

biker When the hospital bed and the drugs were delivered, Dh and I too found that it was all becoming just too real.

Keep steady. The nurses and carers are worth their weight in gold and will steer you through the rapids. Don't be slow to take all the help that is offered, and come onto Gransnet for support. All the best.

I have some understanding of your feelings biker DH lost his mum when I was pregnant with her 1st GC. We had tried for 10yrs to start our family. It was a bitter sweet time for us all. My heart goes out to you

My DiL found she was pregnant just a few weeks after losing her 15 month old toddler to SUDC. You can only imagine her feelings. But you and your family will find a way through this. It's amazing what the human spirit can cope with.

(((Hugs))))

Sending you and the whole family every good wish.

for you bikergran and I hope your DD stays calm for the baby's sake at this distressing time.

bikergran
A new baby always helps, congratulations.

So sad for you bikergran and think you deal with everything in a very stoical way, but it must be very hard indeed for you, and of course for your DH. Good news about your new DGS2 though! Hope that all continues well for your DD.