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DH diagnosed with cancer - why am I so calm?

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KatyK Tue 22-Jul-14 18:27:56

Thank you Soutra - most appreciated. Yes I have had a few wobbles, but kept only when by myself. We know we are in for a long haul but hopefully with a positive outcome. All health professionals we have had dealings with so far have been kind, honest, efficient and compassionate. We have never, in 9 or so appointments, been kept waiting for even 5 minutes over our appointment time. My DD has said 'mum you have had so much c**p in your life you have had plenty of practice. Maybe she is right.

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Soutra Tue 22-Jul-14 18:20:21

Not DS! DDs! Sorry girls!

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Soutra Tue 22-Jul-14 18:18:34

First of all my commiserations - this has been, is and will continue to be a hard time for you both. I hope you have every confidence in the people treating your DH as you willl be seeing a lot of them and they will be a big part of your life. Why have you not fallen apart? I imagine that you are finding strenths you maybe didn't know you had. Cancer IS no longer the death sentence it was years ago, the "big C" that people were afraid to even say out loud. When DH was diagnosed with Lymphoma 5 1/2 years ago I had several wobbles but took great comfort in knowing that something was going to be done and the specialists were brilliant at being absolutely straight wth DS and me. I admit it came as a shock to realise this was indeed what I had signed up for when I took my marriage vows. I wish you strength, compassion from your friends, patience becsuse you are in for the long haul but most of all a positive outcome for your DH . sunshine

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KatyK Tue 22-Jul-14 17:52:28

In May this year my DH was diagnosed with prostate cancer. As a lot of you know, the shock of hearing the C word is beyond belief. He has had blood tests, a horrible intrusive biopsy, a pelvic scan, an MRI scan, a bone scan, several trips to hospitals. I am sure this is familiar to a lot of GNetters. Waiting for the results to see if had spread (it hasn't) was torture. I had always thought that if I had news like this (we have been together 47 years) that I would fall apart and be a gibbering wreck. I seem to have gone into robot mode. DH didn't want the family to know as we were going on holiday with them and he didn't want to spoil it. So for over 3 months, I have been smiley and chatty and 'normal'. We have now told people (we told our daughter on diagnosis) and they are totally gobsmacked and said that they can't believe we have acted so normally. I did this for him as it was what he wanted. I can't believe how I have reacted. I can only assume that something 'kicks in'. Has anyone else experienced this reaction? I have always been a bit of a panicker so I am rather shocked at my own reaction! His prognosis is good by the way, he has to have several weeks of radiotherapy and hormone treatment.

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