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Mishap Tue 16-Dec-14 17:01:57

I just do not know what to do. I have got so much worse and just spend my time sitting about sobbing. There is no fleeting moment day or night when I feel well. I just do not know what I can do.

I tried the sertraline but became weepy and agitated and very nauseous, so I had to stop it. The beta blocker is stopping the heart arrhythmia but I fear might be part of the reason for my depression getting so much worse. I have decided to try going back on the dosulepin that I used to take for my migraine - it is an anti-depressant too and I just have to hope it will mix OK with the beta-blocker. My GP is away at the moment and I don't want to talk with his partner as he is so gung-ho - I really feel I could not cope with him. But I cannot do nothing.

I feel completely desperate - this illness is just taking my life away and I can see no end to it. I was having good days and bad, but now it is all bad and I do not know what to do.

If anyone else has been in this situation and has even a glimmer of hope to offer me I would be so grateful.

NfkDumpling Fri 02-Jan-15 21:27:47

Wow, Mishap you must be psychic. I was just wondering about half an hour ago how you were getting on!

Brilliant! Hopefully the new year and returning sun is helping the pills work their magic!

pompa Fri 02-Jan-15 21:19:40

That's great to hear Mishap, about time you had some good days.

Mishap Fri 02-Jan-15 21:12:37

For the last week there have been signs of progress with a reasonably good day followed by others that I would rather forget. But I wanted (with some trepidation) to report back that for the first time in 14 weeks I have had 2 good days in a row; and that today I went out to lunch with 2 of my DDs and their children, and all went well.

I hardly dare say this, and feel I might be tempting fate - but I do seem to be getting somewhere at long last. I feel a bit dopey at times, as I get used to the treatment, but my OH says "better sleepy than weepy" - he is right of course.

Your support has been so crucial to me - and I ask now that you keep your fingers - and anything else - crossed for me!

Nelliemoser Fri 26-Dec-14 23:08:01

Well done Mishap see this good day as a bit of progress. Think that you have managed this family gathering and that you can do it again even if you do have another difficult day or two on the way. (((hugs)))

etheltbags1 Fri 26-Dec-14 22:57:43

Glad your ok mishap and had a lovely day
x

MiniMouse Fri 26-Dec-14 21:54:02

Glad to hear you had a good time Mishap tchsmile

Lona Fri 26-Dec-14 12:30:56

Keep smiling Mishap tchsmile xx

NfkDumpling Fri 26-Dec-14 12:28:37

Yay!

loopylou Fri 26-Dec-14 09:35:18

Really good to hear Mishap, especially when you were full of trepidation, well done!
Lovely that you were spoiled too, you certainly deserve it. tchsmile

MariClaire Fri 26-Dec-14 02:20:53

Good for you Mishap! You made it through a very difficult day. I hope your new regimen turns the light back on soon. (Beta blockers threw me into an awful hole but I came back after a year of misdiagnosis and unnecessary mental health treatment. I thought I had lost my mind! I was lucky to recover completely and in a few months after a simple change to calcium blockers and my usual anti depressant).

We are all here for you. Hang in there, you WILL be better. Hugs!

Agus Thu 25-Dec-14 21:32:40

So pleased to,hear you enjoyed your day Mishap

We had a lovely day with DD1 and our two lively GDs who had Mummy up at 6am. By 7.30pm all three were flagging and left for home at 8pm.

All tidied up now and ready to settle down to Downton whenever it is finished recording.

Crafting Thu 25-Dec-14 21:23:58

Well done Mishap glad you had a good time with your family flowers

Mishap Thu 25-Dec-14 20:22:50

Thank you for your kind thoughts. We are just back from my DD's house. All the girls and the GC were there and they all had a lively time. I have managed to keep it together all day, which is a huge relief. The mornings and evenings are usually the worst, so we went over at lunchtime and have just come back - we were there when I was at my best and I did not spoil the day for anyone with my weepiness - which is what I had been worrying about.

So - a good day with my lovely kind family. The children loved their presents and I was given some wonderful thoughtful gifts. I am a lucky lady. All I have to do is get well and start to play my usual role in the family. Fingers crossed for the new year.

I hope everyone on Gnet has had/is having a wonderful Christmas.

MiniMouse Thu 25-Dec-14 11:59:35

Hope the sun's shining for you today Mishap tchsmile

Lona Thu 25-Dec-14 09:53:37

Thinking of you Mishap, hope it's going to be a good day for you tchsmile

NfkDumpling Thu 25-Dec-14 08:57:37

(((Hugs))) and best wishes for a good day for you. wine - if you're allowed one with your pills.

Agus Wed 24-Dec-14 22:07:40

Every step of the way with you Mishap

Hope you will be feeling stronger tomorrow to spend a lovely day with your family and all the best for a much healthier 2015 tchsmile

mrshat Wed 24-Dec-14 21:43:09

Mishap, I'm not saying much, if anything, but I am walking beside you all the way and wishing you well, strength and positivity. It is a tough road, and you are having a tougher one than most. Hang on in there and have a happy and hopefully healthy Christmas day. Here's hoping 2015 will bring better things for you. flowers, hugs and smile

Crafting Wed 24-Dec-14 21:08:16

Well done Mishap you will treasure the time spent with you DGC. I do hope that you have a happy Christmas Day. A few weeks ago I was really struggling and didn't think I would be able to feel more positive but things did pick up and I wish the same for you too. As Galen said we are all rooting for you. Those who have been in the same place know how you feel flowers and ((huggs))

Galen Wed 24-Dec-14 18:52:56

We are all rooting for you!

Mishap Wed 24-Dec-14 18:39:41

Thank you.

Rowantree Wed 24-Dec-14 18:17:37

Mishap, please don't feel bad about posting sad and hopeless thoughts and feelings. I have done so many times in the past and only had compassion and support from Gransnetters and it really, really helps - maybe doesn't alter the depression but it relieves the feeling of not knowing where to turn to unburden yourself. It's essential to do that, so please don't stop sharing. Someone on here will have been in a similar place, and I can relate to your feelings even if the circumstances are different.
You deserve nothing but kindness and compassion but you also need to give that to yourself and allow yourself to feel this way for the time being, instead of trying to fight it (like baling the sea out with a sieve!). Accept that this is how it is for now, and that you are doing your best. i don't mean 'give in', and of course you want to find medication which helps, but don't wear yourself out trying to change your feelings. Stop fighting, just for a while.
I hope the horrible darkness eases for you soon. I am sure it will lift, in time, but for now, keep posting and big hugs to you from one who also suffers.
flowers

whenim64 Wed 24-Dec-14 18:02:52

Great that you went, Mishap. Another achievement to notch up! flowers

Mishap Wed 24-Dec-14 17:55:04

Thank you so much - it is comforting to have people walking alongside me in this battle.

Kiora Wed 24-Dec-14 17:54:35

mishap I hope your feeling a little better, well enough to be able to enjoy Christmas a little.