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Agoraphobia.

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Falconbird Sat 17-Jan-15 20:19:23

After two and a half years of turmoil, bereavememnt, moving house three times and other problems, I have ended up with agoraphobia. I have to go out to do shopping etc., and I'm OK if I am in control of where I go and when I leave. I have been asked to go on trips with various friends but the thought of it fills me with real fear and I haven't gone. I have managed the cinema a few times.

I think this has been discussed on forums in the past but I thought there might be some new thinking on the problem. My main fear is falling ill when I'm out knowing that my DH would be there to help me. We were such a support to each other when we had little ailments and we would jolly each other along. I think it will pass in time but I do got fed up with myself.

lilian1 Fri 27-Feb-15 20:54:34

Hi vampirequeen I am new on here and have been looking at posts in the forums just to say I suffered slightly myself with this for a short time and found stopping drinking coffee (too much caffeine) helped an awful lot if you drink coffee give it a try when I stopped I was able to go out on my own which was great I also got a dog which I had to take for short walks think that helped too ...you think you might get ill if you go out I used to think that but if you did feel ill going out its the best place as you would get immediate help ...

Falconbird Fri 13-Feb-15 09:55:26

Thanks Mishap. Hope you are doing OK? flowers

Falconbird Fri 13-Feb-15 09:54:57

Thanks Mishap. Hope you are doing OK? flowers

Mishap Fri 13-Feb-15 09:49:17

Don't panic falconbird - these sort of problems go in for setbacks - the improvement is never linear. But the general trend is up and that is what you need to concentrate on. Don't let yourself be downhearted if there are one or two downward blips on the way to full recovery. You really are getting there. Have faith in that.

Anya Fri 13-Feb-15 07:53:52

I've not seen this thread before. Anniebach and Falconbird flowers stay strong inside

nannieroz111 Fri 13-Feb-15 07:41:07

Thinking of you flowers

Falconbird Fri 13-Feb-15 07:22:03

Thanks so much everyone flowers I don't feel so strong again today. One step forward one step back, but generally the way seems more hopeful.

I'm going to try the tip about natural yogurt and hot chocolate powder. sounds yummy.

My middle son has been really helpful about panic attacks (when he's in the mood) which he suffers from because of his circumstances.

He says that after a trauma the mind is set on full alert - and sees danger everywhere. He has this way of telling his mind that he is very grateful for wanting to protect him, but he is OK and will carry on.

I've tried it once or twice and it does work.

annodomini Thu 12-Feb-15 18:04:40

Falconbird, I don't know if chocolate yoghurt still exists - perhaps M&S? but I have made my own by stirring instant hot chocolate powder into natural yoghurt and that is very yummy indeed!

Katek Thu 12-Feb-15 17:56:32

Anniebach, for you flowers

You are a brave woman. X

Mishap Thu 12-Feb-15 17:07:52

And when the spring comes those walks will be longer and brighter still.

loopylou Thu 12-Feb-15 17:02:09

That's lovely to hear Falconbird, well done, it can't have been easy but really big step for you flowers and ((hugs)) x

Falconbird Thu 12-Feb-15 16:57:31

It's early days but I went for a long walk today and almost felt relaxed - not quite and I did have a few frightening moments but it felt better than it has for two long years. Small steps.

Nelliemoser Thu 12-Feb-15 12:45:58

Annibach Falconbird and others. It seems quite obvious when reading your stories how you have got into this situation.

In many ways it's the body's "logical" response to repeated stress to want to "hide" from any more of it.
flowers to all with this and keep strong.

Mishap Thu 12-Feb-15 12:21:06

That is good news falconbird - time is indeed a healer.

daffydil Thu 12-Feb-15 11:30:24

Falconbird I am so pleased to hear that you feel you are improving. I was agoraphobic a few years back and it is miserable. I remember feeling that I was not really part of the world any more. I got there in the end and you have already started to do so. Good luck. flowers

Falconbird Thu 12-Feb-15 06:58:24

Thanks for the link Grannyknot. I think my agoraphobia may be improving - fingers crossed. Time is a great healer.

Grannyknot Wed 11-Feb-15 20:50:15

I meant to add it's a research project 're help for agoraphobia, using an app.

Grannyknot Wed 11-Feb-15 20:47:40

HI falcon and others - I'm posting this in case it's worth looking into:

virtually-free.com/agoraphobia-landing-2?UTM_Source=Landing&UTM_Medium=Publi&UTM_Campaign=Ad

I haven't read the info in detail, but it looks interesting.

Falconbird Sat 24-Jan-15 16:40:20

Grannyknot smile

Mishap Sat 24-Jan-15 15:09:48

It is about control - feeling in or out of control; so I guess the bike put you in control and gave you more choices.

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 24-Jan-15 13:50:04

When I had agoraphobia quite badly, I found I was better if I went into town on my bike. Somehow knowing the bike was there ready to flee on, without waiting in a bus queue, helped. That was many years ago now. I know cycling is not for everybody these days.

Grannyknot Sat 24-Jan-15 13:37:59

falcon smile. So now I can picture you hurrying along to get home, peeking into your shopping bag as you go.

Falconbird Sat 24-Jan-15 09:17:49

The Morrison's eggs are quite small.

We seem to have gone off track here but never mind. Anyone want to start a comfort food thread - food does help with the nerves. I kept thinking during a bad agoraphobia attack - soon be home eating my egg sandwich, I even peeped into the bag to check it was still there.

rosequartz Fri 23-Jan-15 17:48:04

I haven't seen chocolate yogurt for ages. I love chocolatey stuff, cakes, puds, anything - but not chocolate yogurt!

I usually have eggy sandwiches if I am having a sandwich when I am out. I hope the hens are happy ones.

Ana Fri 23-Jan-15 17:30:55

So they've been around since 2009 yet I've never noticed them - wonder if it's just Morrisons?