My daughter died ten days ago

It's good you have someone who's empathetic and to whom you can relate.

Take care, and love to you x

M came here this evening and we had another chat, showed her the pictures on the Order of Service.....we commiserated with each other on other losses in our families....we both miss them still.

I am going to the U3A meeting on Tuesday with her.

Ah Alie it's done, no more anxiety about the day looming. It must be comforting for you to know that it went well - and what a lovely touch for the boys to fill in the grave, so much more personal than having strangers doing it after you've all left.

Now it's time for you to take care of yourself, Alie. Keep posting here, so we know you're all right

I am pleased that it all went well and that you were able to read your tribute. It will help the grandchildren to have played an active role in the ceremony - and so much better than strangers doing it. I am glad that your friend was there for you today - just what was needed. I do hope that you sleep a little better tonight.

Thank you for telling us about it all Alie it sounds as though it was a lovely funeral. And keep talking to us won't you.

Sounds as though it was a lovely funeral and just what your DD would have appreciated. I like the idea of your grandchildren filling in the grave.

Still.....

Take care!

AlieOxon, I think its the personal bits that stay with you and they do help to sort of punctuate the misery and allows you to remember better in the long run.

Take it easy as best you can...but I can recommend going down the physically exhausted route just to get some sleep...just don't over do it too much.

X

Trying to relax and clean house at the same time...has got a bit out of hand and I will feel better when I have cleaned up.

Friend M rang this morning and I went over there for a cuppa. This was very helpful as I had an awful night, woke at 3 and couldn't sleep until 7.
(Usual with me when a lot of things have happened.) I got up and went on a downer, and then M rang. Feel better.

Yes things went ok. White hearse carriage with white horses - sounds over the top and not my idea, but seeing it, decided Jayne would have liked it.
My tribute and song went well, I think, I felt happy with it.
Too much God in the service, but the Christians liked that.

And at the burial, in Wolvercote, Jayne's sons filled in the grave. Apparently this is the West Indian way. Unexpected but I felt good with the hands-on approach, rather than leaving it to strangers with machines.

Thanks for the support on here. I haven't always answered right away but have been hearing it.

Hope you aren't feeling too drained today Alie, take it easy

Alie, thinking of you today.

Morning Alie, how are you today?

I'm glad it all went well. Time to rest for a while now and look after yourself.

(((Hugs))) from us all xx

Thanks all, for your flowers and love and thoughts.....it went pretty well.
Exhausted though. Back tomorrow.

You were in my thoughts all day today Alie. I hope all went to plan.

Sending love Allie

I hope that you have come through this difficult day Alie and that the funeral was a fitting tribute to your DD's life.

alie
I don't think you ever get over losing a child, but you will have your memories forever. Thinking of you today.

In my thoughts, alie.

Thinking of you today Alie

Thinking of you Alie

With you, Alie. xx

xxxxx Alie

Thinking of you Alie

Thinking of you. X