I've a long standing friendship with a friend who confided in me once DH had retired to bed.
She has become a door mat - by trying to please her husband. She has no self confidence, or self anything. That evaporated over 40+ years. She won't tell their girls. She believes the result will be divisive. She's isolated as no one visits, except his friend. 
I advised
1. Stop acting (like a puppy) by* trying to please*.
2. Stop becoming a *Bottomless Pit*by ignoring the "elephant in the room". It will get worse
The way I've written the above sounds cold. It has to be a précis.^ I
can't divulge more^.
Before she drove of, I suggested she ask her Doc for anti depressants and counselling. Also said to contact Citizens Advice and possibly the/her local vicar.
Bearing in mind her present state, what would you dare to do?
{sad] 
Thank you for read this, 
Please respond.
Disappearing contributors - part 2
CKD stage 3 - no support only leaflets.
