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thatbags Wed 18-Nov-15 12:36:52

PS If you're ex used your mental health probs to be contolling, he had mental health probs as well.

Luckygirl Wed 18-Nov-15 12:35:37

Is it deemed offensive?

thatbags Wed 18-Nov-15 12:35:37

That is how it is commonly seen, vamp, but my point is that I don't see it like that at all. And people getting outraged (see the article I linked to) when someone says that someone with mental health problems is 'disturbed' and should see a doctor is what causes the stigmatising.

I'm probably not putting it very well, but we have to 'allow' people to have mental illnesses in exactly the same way as we allow, by accepting it, that people get pneumonia or whatever. And that in either case medical help would probably be a good idea.

We won't get rid of the stigma attached to mental health until we are more up front about it as something that just happens, like common colds and other infections.

vampirequeen Wed 18-Nov-15 12:28:21

Maybe it's because of the stigma attached and the fact that referring to someone being 'mental', 'mad' etc. is often used as an insult.

My ex used my mental health issues to keep me under control. He told me that if I left I'd lose my girls because no judge would give custody to a 'mad woman'.

People are afraid of being deemed different and admitting that we have mental health issues makes us different.

thatbags Wed 18-Nov-15 12:20:16

stigma

thatbags Wed 18-Nov-15 12:19:39

Why is it deemed offensive to tell someone to go to a doctor (psychiatrists are doctors) if they have a mental illness? Asking because I don't think it is deemed offensive to tell someone with an injury to go to A&E or someone with a chronic physical condition to go and see their GP.

I regard our brains as part of our physical bodies so if things go wrong with them (i.e. we get a mental illness), surely we need to go and see a doctor who might be able to help us deal with it, or even cure it? Why do we persist in making mental health something quite separate from other health? That is what makes a stugma about it, not the illnesses themselves. They are just illnesses, like measles or mumps.