Someone's come for my dad.

Is the antibiotic penicillin?

You can develop an allergy to it at any time, so best to check with the GP just in case. It could be part of the viral infection but best to be on the safe side.

Dear Rubylady,

The rash could be an allergic reaction to the antibiotics so best to tell your doctor. I had a reaction like that some years ago.

When my mum passed away I had a double middle ear infection and when my dh passed away I lost two stone in four months because I was forgetting to eat.

Do try to keep up your fluids Ruby - you are really going through it and my heart goes out to you.

I've been given some anti biotics for a chest infection and they took about 24 hours before I felt some relief.

I wish I could find better words to express how I feel for your sadness.

Thank you all so much I really do appreciate your support.

I've not been on because last night I had an emergency appointment at the doctors. I keep going hot and cold, throat feels like it has two tennis balls in it, headaches, shaking, and chest rattling and coughing.

Doctor gave me antilbiotics, chest and throat infection, reaction I think to everything that has happened.

Today I noticed a rash on my ankles, I checked other places and rashy all over. I feel terrible. I've just ordered some more food on top of my normal order, getting more soups, fresh fruit, vit C, palatable food as I don't want to eat and I haven't had a cup of tea for days.

Has anyone else had a reaction like this after losing someone?

How long until antibiotics kick in?

Xxx

Ruby your arrangements sound perfect and I'm so pleased you had that special time to spend with your dad - the items you put in with him were obviously just right for him (we put chocolate buttons amongst other things in with mine as he used to love them). The funeral director in particular seems to have been wonderful and I'm sure helped you get through the very emotional day. I too loved your song choices. I wouldn't give a second thought to your families behaviour - you rose above them and came out dignified and so much better than them - I'm sure your dad would have been very proud of you and your son. Now its time for you to start thinking of yourself and the future

Ruby You certainly did your Dad proud in spite of all the difficulties. As Cornergran says you will probably feel totally exhausted and drained. Although I am not at all religious or 'spooky', I agree with Bez that our loved ones remain close by in spirit. Perhaps it is the heightened awareness that we feel at the time of births and deaths but I felt my beloved father's presence for month's after his death and again, very strongly, some 15 years later when I first held my newborn Grandson.

More and (((hugs)))

So sorry for you and your family Ruby. My Mum died with cancer 4 years ago and she was reaching out too. It upset me at the time, I didn't know who she was reaching out to, probably my Dad who passed 11 years ago.

My husband has been in a Nursing Home for the last 10 years, he has advanced Alzheimer's. I would prefer him to pass away there rather than in the hospital, the staff are so lovely to him even though he doesn't have a clue who they are, including me, about anything - apart from when there's food around, he opens his mouth for that like a baby bird in a nest. I know he will have someone with him when the time comes. (if I'm not there for any reason) The home is his home and has been for 10 years. When he has to go into hospital, he's always agitated so I stay with him all day but I don't need to at the home because he has the nurses and carers.

I think I waffled rather a lot there - sorry.

I hope I dont offend anyone by what Im going to say.
I think its true that when we lose a loved one and the love bond is very strong, then that loved one is stll close by in spirit, untll
we have recovered from the immediate pain. Thats when we feel the closeness and feel the need to talk to them. So just do that talking for as long as you need to.
A reĺative of mine told me something when I asked him if he ever felt his Mom around him. He said yes especially when after taking a shower hed feel like a towel had slapped him in a friendly way, which was something she did ocassionally in an affectionate way. I thought that was lovely and I could just imagine her doing that.
She was a lovely Mom to her only child in a very understated way.
God Bless you I. Love you and miss you still as our joint Birthdays draw near. XX

ruby you did so well. I was crying by the end of your post because it brought back memories of my Dad's funeral nearly 20 years ago. I still miss being able to tell him things that crop up during my every day life and I get feeling you'll be just the same. Talking about him keeps his memory alive and often remark to my husband about something my Dad would have liked. I'm glad you've got your son to share your memories of your Dad with as the years pass.

Your Dad will always be in your heart and you know you were loved. Time to take care of yourself for a bit now.

Thank you for sharing the details of your dad's last journey with us Ruby. You couldn't have done more. Please think of yourself now. Don't be surprised if you are exhausted. Why wouldn't you be? Take care. X

Hi Ruby

I love your choice of songs, ' I like a nice cup of tea in the morning'.

May I join in with all the other posters who have said how pleased they were your dads send off went so well. Now you really must try to look after yourself , as I am sure your dear dad would have wanted you to do.

. for you and your dad. X

So glad everything went well Ruby, and that you can now feel your dad is at peace. It sounds as though the funeral director took great care of you. Take care and time to get over everything, and then you will start to remember the happy times that you and your dad had together xx

Well done, take care over the coming days and weeks.

It is good to be able to look back and know that you did everything right and arranged a proper farewell.

Sounds like you did your Dad proud ruby thank you for sharing with us

Thank you ruby

DD = Dear Dad in my post

ruby you gave your DD the perfect 'send off', he would be very proud of you. Time for you, now. I know you still have his affairs to sort out, but take your time and don't exhaust yourself trying to do everything at once. Sending you to keep you going.

Thank you for sharing your special day Ruby. Your Dad would be very proud of you.

Ruby you did your lovely Dad proud.
Your account of the lovely funeral made me cry.
Tomorrow is the first anniversary of my dad passing away.
Hope he meets up with your dad as he also loved his cuppa.
"Two sugars please" he used to say every time!
hopefully sometime soon for you ruby

Thank you for letting us know, it was a moving and fitting day for your Dad and you ruby.
Take care now.

It's good to hear the send off for your dad went well ruby, you can rest up a bit now.

Well done ruby you can be proud of the sendoff you gave him. Try to relax a little now and put your self first

Glad you had a 'good' day yesterday. It sounds as though you did your dad proud. Now take time to rest.

You brave brave girl Rubylady you gave your Dad a proper send off. How proud he would have been of you.

As you say it is now time to sort your tablets, give yourself time to rest and get yourself back on track.

All your Gransnet Pals are behind you.

So glad that your dad's funeral went as you had hoped Ruby. Thank you for telling us about it. It sounded very personal to him and sensitively managed by the vicar and funeral director. Perhaps this will help you move forward a little. Good luck with all the practical business you have to deal with now. Hopefully the siblings won't give you trouble.