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Elrel Wed 13-Jul-16 08:49:28

Some months ago I had two episodes of labyrinthitis, scary but not serious. Since then I've texted my DC each morning to reassure them I'm all right. Just 'good morning' or a comment on the weather usually.
I've since discovered several older people I know do the same. How useful and non intrusive texting can be! It makes me feel connected and DC know I'm all right. Do many others on here do this?

Sheilasue Thu 14-Jul-16 19:54:30

My daughter texts me every morning when she arrives at work.

janeainsworth Thu 14-Jul-16 18:12:37

shock That's hard jingl!
Hope it's not cramping your style too much wink

Izabella Thu 14-Jul-16 17:58:00

Never to family, but always to a friend.

NonnaW Thu 14-Jul-16 17:32:53

I sometimes don't hear from my sons for months on end! Same goes for DHs offspring, apart from the one we see weekly when we go to mind GS. My lads would wonder what was up if I started texting them daily.

Stansgran Thu 14-Jul-16 16:06:47

Dd1 tweets endlessly. She travels a lot to horrible places. So I look at her tweets and know she's still alive. She's with us at the moment but gone out sea fishing. I'm not worried as we are in Grace Darling country and I've seen the lifeboats practising.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 14-Jul-16 15:38:04

I have to be cryptic ja. #onestrikeandimout. hmm #psandqs

grannylyn65 Thu 14-Jul-16 15:25:26

Me too Wot !!!

patd Thu 14-Jul-16 14:19:48

my family see me on facebook in the morning, if not someone sends me a message on FB or rings me to check all OK

Antonia Thu 14-Jul-16 14:07:07

I think if I messaged my DD every morning, it would be an unwanted interruption to her routine. I know she is super busy getting ready for work and getting her 2 year old ready for nursery. I just assume that no news is good news.

janeainsworth Thu 14-Jul-16 13:23:21

I think I'm with jingl's cryptic subtext on this one.
For one thing, my DD's phone is frequently without any charge on it (her excuse for not replying to invitations etc), and in any case I suspect she rarely looks at her phone.
But more importantly, there's the underlying assumption that we are burdens to our children, to be worried about. It's a paradox that some things that we do in the belief that they decrease worry, actually increase it.
No news is good news!

Grannynise Thu 14-Jul-16 12:38:35

I exchange texts with my daughter every morning - but that's to ensure that she's out of bed in time to get to work. She has a history of sleeping through mutiple alarms!

breeze Thu 14-Jul-16 12:38:00

Well, I suppose if you think you may pop off and only be discovered, half eaten by Alsations, several weeks later, it's a good idea! I had to resort to having one of those rape alarms in my bedside drawer. As although I live in a house full of people, they wouldn't notice if I was dead until they were sitting at the table with their knives and forks in their hands and realise there was no food in front of them! Joking aside, it came in useful once (so mock me not!) as I had a reaction to a drug I'd been given when I was ill and collapsed. Pressed my alarm and OH came running by which time I was barely breathing. Dialled 999 and was resuscitated by paramedic and shipped off to hospital to have the drug flushed through. So without it I wouldn't be here typing this long and interesting!!! post! smile I think if a text each day reassures your family, who may worry about you otherwise, why not.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 14-Jul-16 12:18:01

I might start sending my DD an "I'm still alive" text, every morning when she's in her morning meeting. She'll be so pleased. Or not.

pollyperkins Thu 14-Jul-16 12:04:25

My brother who is in his 80s and widowed and lives alone contacts his daughter by Whatsapp daily, to reassure her

pollyperkins Thu 14-Jul-16 12:02:09

Keep in touch daily with family via facebook, texts and Whatsapp!

Diddy1 Thu 14-Jul-16 11:14:34

I always write something on Facebook, no reason, just like to catch up in the mornings, before I start my day

nipsmum Thu 14-Jul-16 11:10:25

I am not so frail yet that my daughters need a text every morning but I usually have some form of communication with them during most days on Facebook.

wot Thu 14-Jul-16 11:06:29

I think it's a good idea and I would do it if I wasn't Billy no_mates and only one sister who gets up late and lives many miles away.

1inamillion Thu 14-Jul-16 10:57:34

Badenkate, I too have a DS who drives year round with his job. I have a DD who travels along a particularly busy stretch of motorway daily, they are 34 and 30 respectively. I have learned to back off in so many ways and let them live their lives but I worry about all this travelling and bless them they usually let me know when they've arrived at destination. You're right you never stop worrying. Someone told me years ago to just teach your children right from wrong, show them and tell them you love them and hope for the best!

Zena510 Wed 13-Jul-16 12:47:12

Yes always - not only children but mum and brothers and friends - especially those alone

Badenkate Wed 13-Jul-16 12:39:38

Elder DS does a lot of driving and especially during the winter months I always worry until I know he's safe (never stop being a mother do you!), so I often send a casual text about something unimportant when I know he should be out of the car and it's so reassuring to get a reply smile

Indinana Wed 13-Jul-16 09:10:34

It is a very useful way to reassure people. When my DD went home with her baby after spending the first six weeks with us, I was always on tenterhooks until I saw either a text from her or a FB status update. And TBH I'm still a little like that now, just because it's just her and the baby, no-one else there. I think of that story a few months ago where that little tot was picked up by an off-duty PCSO and his wife - she was toddling along the road taking herself to nursery because she couldn't wake mummy up. Mummy (a single mum) was dead, it turned out sad. That gave me nightmares for a while.

thatbags Wed 13-Jul-16 09:04:36

Then your offsrping, or whoever, text you, presumably.

Jane10 Wed 13-Jul-16 09:00:45

What if you just plain forget to do it?

vampirequeen Wed 13-Jul-16 08:56:20

I think morning texts are a great idea.