I think I might be pregnant!

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Well, I did start, not a full on period, but more like very light and pale. It was two weeks later that I expected it to be. I am going back to gyny clinic in January so I will tell them and keep an eye on it til then.

I have been sick a couple of times too recently, not proper sick, like water but heaving terribly too. Is this normal for being peri? I used to suffer like this when I was starting my periods all those years ago at age 11. Sick, the runs and bleeding. My mum didn't know where to run to next, poor thing. Then she dosed me up with Indian Brandee. (I think she just wanted me asleep so that I stopped moaning ).

The menopause need not be as traumatic as you expect, ruby. Mine started at 43 and was really quite uneventful, apart from some sweaty nights, but then it was a hot summer anyway. If you do have problems, see your GP - preferably a female one if you can - and ask about hormone replacement.

there might be various reasons of not getting perionds: stress, weight loss or gain, hormonal changes, infections and so on. If you think you have a health problem, seeing a doctor is the right thing to do.

At the moment vampire it is the very last thing on my mind. In fact so far off my mind I'm thinking of buying a 10 foot barge pole!

The upside is that once it's over you can start using the chandelier again

Well, it does seem like I have missed my first period of the menopause/perimenopause.

I have also been feeling sick, have been sick twice, both times before my last two periods started. And my head feels like it was put in a furnace earlier a few times. Oh this is all so much fun. Along with my other conditions, I feel too like jumping off that cliff!

One of my neighbours kept complaining to her GP that no matter how she dieted she couldn't shed 7lb she'd put on. He told her it was her age. A couple of weeks later her son unexpectedly appeared after she'd been rushed to hospital with acute appendicitis.

A former colleague then 49 was complaining in the office that she had gone off coffee. I light heartedly said perhaps you're pregnant. A few weeks later the team secretary said to me "You remember what you said to J***! She is pregnant." The colleague took it in her stride.

Finding yourself after years of abuse takes time and can be very tiring. You have to go with the flow. There will be good days and bad days. You've made the first step by acknowledging that you need to change your relationship with your son.

Thank you vampire. I have ordered some new slippers, see if I can get on better with those. It's like being possessed, it's a feeling in every fibre of my body. Plus my legs were playing up something rotten last night. I ended up sleeping on the settee as I knew I wouldn't sleep upstairs.

I know, over my DS, he still brings me down and I need to get better. I have felt eroded after the years of his abuse and am beginning to get some self confidence back with dealing with other people and seeing how they treat me. Unless he can apologise and respect me, then I will have to think about our future relationship. BTW, no, he was in his room on his own. He was feeling rough from a night out previously but he has to learn to deal with things like this and still be civil.

I hope you are ok today. I've polished the chandelier!

I totally understand how you can be angry with your slippers. Bouncing moods are not just annoying but physically exhausting.

I'm sorry your chandelier days are over (or are they...who knows what is in the future). At least you've still got the chandelier so you'll be ready should further swinging opportunities arise.

Your son is being a pain in the bum. I wonder if other students were around when he was on the phone and he was showing off. You were right to stand your ground about the language though.

vampire That reminds me of when I could do that sort of thing, still got the chandelier, just not the man or the want.

It's so fluctuating this thing. Yesterday, as per my post, happy, jokey, frivolous.

Today, grumpy, annoyed, tetchy, don't want anything touching me, even annoyed at my slippers for goodness sake. What's all that about?

Mind you I have been let down yet again today by someone who I have paid to do some painting for me in full and they haven't turned up to do it this morning, after promising all week to come. So that's getting on my nerves because it's my direct neighbour and I don't want to fall out, obviously.

Plus my darling son swore last night with the c bomb, not aimed at me but I have told him a thousand times or more that I will not tolerate his language anymore and he still does it. It was on the phone so the conversation ended and I text him to say I will not be in touch until he can aplologise. None has come all day. What is it with some people that they think they can treat their parents with such contempt? I don't have to put up with it now, thank goodness, but it still hurts to know he doesn't care enough to show respect and kindness.

My dad was born when my grandma was 53. I sweated through my early fifties until I was certain any baby threat was over. My problem was that I'd had a coil in for such a long time the doctor couldn't tell if I was still fertile or not. It was a total nightmare.

I have to admit a bit of sadness when it was finally shown that I was no longer fertile. Choosing not to have a baby is different to knowing that you can never have a baby. Mind you the sadness didn't last long as now we can swing from the chandeliers any time we choose with no worries....well apart from the risk of back injuries

I started the menopause in my mid forties, erratic periods hot flushes etc, then had an ectopic pregnancy, so get checked out.
(After that my cycle started up again! I had my last period at 58 & a check up at 55 showed I was still ovulating!) Unfortunately the hot flushes never went away and I still get them now at 70, though not so badly.

rubylady

I was 54 when I reached the menopause and it was a huge relief. I don't have hair on my chinny chin chin and also my legs are now hair free which is a great. It was all going on when I was coping with my mum's dementia, bad timing there. I had intervals of six weeks, then three or four months until I reached the target on one year period free. My last period was completely normal and I felt as if it was saying goodbye. Felt very emotional about that but also relieved. I hope it all works out for you ruby.

Such a picture you paint rubylady wish I could rustle up a cheer but I might break a rib!

Ramblingrose I have been celibate, sell a bit here, sell a bit there! (Stolen off Lily Savage.)

It would have to be a miracle to be pregnant, I've not seen a "chirpy fellow" for over 10 years! So no ravaging going on at all, and certainly not by Poldark, not my type at all. More like my own gardener, small, bald, grumpy, lol, that's more real. But still not going to happen.

No, I think it is the end of my fertilisation years, the ovaries are coughing and spluttering and deciding to put their feet up after the hard work of producing eggs every other month each. The hormones are on the decline faster than Donald Trump at a womens' liberation conference. The skin will start to dry, the teeth fall out, hair on the chinny chin chin, bones thinning, walk with a stoop, gruff voice, God, I will be such a catch, they will be queuing around the block! But, good news, if I can find a blind, deaf man with no hands (so that he can't feel the wrinkles) then I might be in luck, and the best news of all, after a year I can't get pregnant! Yeah! Bring it on!

Do a test to reassure yourself but I reckon the menopause. If you're still worried, see your GP.

Congratulations if it is another baby! But get it checked out just to make sure nothing's wrong if nothing's happened in a couple of weeks; or if what does happen isn't your normal pattern. Also, if other symptoms become apparent as time goes on like fatigue, discomfort, 'spotting' or a dragging sort of pain in your lower back.

I was myself most surprised to find after years of my reproductive system running like clockwork, that the minor investigative op my doctor insisted upon because of the above showed that I had extensive endometriosis and that I needed to have a hysterectomy asap. I was 46. That was a bit of a nuisance, as was remembering not to lift anything for 3 months; but missing out on the menopause was GREAT!

The only trouble is Ruby, you can't claim to be a Virgin Mother, sorry to rain on your parade and be blunt about this but you already had children so you are disqualified.

Twins! Rubylady I can feel it in me water.

"Immaculate conception" , sure it must be stress or start of Memopause. I went 11 months with no periods & then suddenly one appeared - luckily GP agreed as it wasn't over 12 months there was no need to investigate. Never had another

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Rubylady - do let us all know the outcome of this mysterious lack of a period.

If you've been "celibate" for a while, it's probably the menopause messing up your normal cycle. Or it could be stress.

There are so many stories of people being pregnant and claiming they never knew that I think you should buy a pregnancy testing kit if you're really worried. I believe they're quite accurate even at an early stage.