Mental health - when and where to get help?

Good to hear you will be talking to GP. Why not try the online NHS depression questionnaire before you go? It will give the GP something to get a grip on.

Hopefully this will pass (with or without treatment - talking or medication)and I wish you well.

I started taking a multivitamin with probiotics from boots, and I really do feel a lot more positive since. Hope you find something that works for you.

I am with Anya here. As a first step, keeping very very busy is a great help.During a time of incredible stress some ten years ago I think I would have needed a straight jacket had it not been for almost non stop activity. Evidently, Charles Dickens suffered from 'Black Dog' (I think Churchill coined that phrase for his own low feelings) and he used to walk every day, sometimes for about twenty miles. He felt so much better afterwards; he had unwittingly hit upon a great idea, as brisk walking evidently releases all the right chemicals in the brain. I do wish you well, 'holdthetonic' as you may find that your own measures are 'the tonic' and you won't need any help from the GP. I do hope so - but there is no shame in asking for some treatment to get you over a bad patch. Life is now, and we must do what we need to move on - all best wishes. x

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I will contact the GP as you all suggest. I've looked into IAPT and found something similar in my county - and you can self refer. So thank you for that suggestion.
You're all absolutely right about the psychological benefits of exercising and getting outside. I actually do quite a lot of exercise. I do keep myself busy (voluntary work, classes) but everything feels that it's a displacement activity to fill the time.
I think the problems are (in no particular order) 1: loneliness (by no longer working) 2. difficult relationships with and between DH and DD, 3: Menopause, 4: the feeling of having no purpose to my life.
Thanks for suggestion of St Johns Wort - I'll see what GP says - as I have IBD I don't want to do anything that could upset my dodgy tummy.
Once again I really appreciate all your support and ideas.

Once again I say that there is evidence that St John's Wort is not to be taken without due care and advice from the doctor. If the GP diagnoses someone as having clinical depression then they will be a bit tied when it comes to deciding what to give someone who is already taking SJW, so they may miss out on proper treatment while they wait for the SJW to leave their systems.

Depression is not be tinkered with - it can be a fatal illness.

I do not know whether it is true that anti-depressants are given out "like smarties" by GPs - that seems to me to be an excessive generalisation that might put people off getting the help they need. One important factor here is the absence of other therapies available on the NHS, so GPs are a bit tied when trying to help someone.

GPs do on occasions actually advise people to try SJW, but you need that proper advice and assessment first.

In the context of an online forum, erring on the safe side is always to be preferred to indiscriminate advice in the absence of proper professional assessment.

You need to see your GP.

Anti depressants are unfortunately a cheap answer to overloaded GPs. I've used St John's Wort and also 5htp which is sold as Serotone or similar in Holland and Barratt. People do forget that prescribed medications also have lots of side effects! I found both above very useful.

I also tried the IATP service, it appeared to be very efficient in that I got an answer quickly in the form of a phone call from a young woman who took me painstakingly through a long questionnaire to find out if I was depressed. I did then get 6 weeks of counselling at my GP practice from a very good counsellor. However, as he agreed, 6 weeks wasn't really long enough but that was the deal!

I have found that the thing about counsellors is you have to find one who is qualified and who does the kind of therapy that works for you and also who you get on with. I too have come across one or two whose counselling was the kind of thing I could have done!!

St John's wort interacts with a lot of medications and shouldn't be taken without advice.

It's better than taking man made chemicals and well worth a try first if there are reasons for sadness,( reactive)it is very different from clinical depression It sounds as if Holdsthetonic has some big problems going on including unemployment, and relationships with both child and husband counselling would certainly help to clear her mind ( Don't be put off by one counsellor there will be many good ones who you can relate to ) and St Johns Wort to boost her mood
In my opinion people are given anti depressant like smarties when they visit a GP most GPs don't have always have a good knowledge of mental health but obviously can sign post you to other areas of help I have known Gps give young girls anti depressant when their relationships break up ( a natural happening that they need to learn to deal with themselves)

St John's wort interferes with other anti-depressants so best not to take it till you have seen the GP.

holdthetonic it's not surprising you are reacting to life events and stresses, I believe it's hard if not impossible to self assess for depression. You may be unsettled, worried and missing work, or you could have slid into depression. Either way you may need some help to come out the other side so do go and speak to your GP, they won't be surprised and can help you decide if they can offer anything both helpful and acceptable to you.

Holdthetonic while you are waiting to see the doc or whatever you decide is your need, you cannot go wrong to get yourself on St Johns Wort herbal tablets they really do help they really do
I went very low when my Dad then Mum then job went in the same year I wasn't sure if it was depression shocked low or what but st Johns Wort lifted me They don't work immediately but nor do anti depressants and I prefer not to use manmade tablets if I can avoid it

It is important to distinguish between sadness and depression as they are in a different league, which is why people have advised the OP to speak to her doctor who will be in a position to make that distinction and set her off in the right direction for getting better.

It seems to me that you're experiencing a multiplicity of problems at once, which may have tipped you into a state of mind which is unsettling.

I'd definitely see your GP. You won't be wasting his/her time.

I felt I may have been depressed a while back due to relationship problems. A problem with the taxman turned me into a gibbering wreck. I never see the doc, but I did on this occasion and was glad I did. She diagnosed me with "stress", suggested St John's Wort and plenty of fresh air and exercise. I also had some Cbt. I wasn't depressed though, which I was glad about.

I think a pp is right-there is a tendency nowadays to diagnose sadness as depression when it isn't.

Hope you feel better soon. .

IAPT - I tried accessing the info about the nearest services to me and they said they were in another county, 25 miles away and the service they were suggesting was for people with Learning Difficulties - brilliant!

I think you should visit your GP in the first instance and go from there. Hope you feel a little brighter soon.

Oh what wonderful wonderful replies. THANK YOU so much everyone of you.! Really really helpful. to you all. (Brief reply as I'm just about to cook supper).

I don't think you're wrong TriciaF

There is something called IAPT (improving access to psychological therapies). I believe this is nationwide but in my area (Warwickshire) you can self-refer (without going through GP) and they will assess you and decide which sort of therapy would be more helpful to you. It`s all free. Might be worth you seeing if this is available in your area.

You can in fact do a questionnaire online that helps to define whether you are suffering from depression and need to see the doc. It is not to be taken too seriously but might help point you in the right direction. www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/depression.aspx

I think the fact that you have just given up work is very important. It has been a major change in your life, and you need to get something else to take its place. Less demanding, but making you feel needed.Try to find some voluntary work related to the job you used to do.
There's no need to think you have a mental health problem, when it's related to something practical, like adjusting to a major change in lifestyle.
Others might disagree, but I'm very uncomfortable with this recent trend to attribute any unhappiness to mental illness.

Contact Mind they are excellent and will point you in the right direction.

Sorry you are feeling low - do not hesitate to go to the GP if it continues. No point in suffering if help is available.

I think you should go see your GP, htt. It can't do any harm and could be very helpful.

In the meantime (and afterwards) keep chatting on here when you feel lonely.

All the best