He snores so much I can't sleep!

I sleep in a separate bedroom since I had an operation. I thought I was on my own. The snoring gas been there all the time. I go to sleep different time, I can read, I do fidget a little when I can't sleep. But I think it's the best idea to have a spare room. When I go to babysit sometime I wear an earplug but it does not work and it's uncomfortable. X

Why is it always the woman who is moving? Surely it is the snorer who should move to sofa or spare room....

My DP snores something awful. Sometimes it sounds like an electric drill,other times it sounds like a cow mooing IYSWIM! It drives me mad,as lack of sleep is the one thing guaranteed to make me feel awful,as I I have fibromyalgia,osteo and rheumatoid arthritis. All of which make peaceful sleep for me difficult at the best of times,without feeling like I am trying to sleep next to a pneumatic drill going full throttle. The only solution I have found that works most of the time is foam ear plugs. But I dislike using them as it means I can't listen to my little transistor radio,which,ironically,helps,me to sleep,as I find it hard to drop off if it is totally silent! I also find my ears feel a bit sore and itchy the next day if I've had ear plugs in them all night. If my daughter and her DH go away on holiday or to visit his family,I usually end up going in her room to sleep for a few nights. The odd thing is that my DP is not at all overweight,if anything he is underweight. He used to drink,which is what I thought was causing it,but he gave up a year ago and is still just as bad. He DOES smoke,which I know is said to make it worse. I have been on at him to see his GP,to get his nose and throat checked,as I have heard that polyps can cause snoring. Could that be the case with your DP? Otherwise,Teetimes suggestion about a sleep apnoea clinic sounds a good idea.

After too many years living alone I would welcome someone snoring beside me, as it would mean I'm wasn't on my own I get woken a lot by 'things that go bump in the night' anyway so I could give him a dig to go and check the noises

We have had separate bedrooms for years. When we were both working, it was dreadful as I was always tired in the morning. I still have the double bed which he visits!!!!but for sleep, separate rooms are best. He had a pacemaker fitted earlier this year and his snoring seems to be much better. Same consistency but lower volume.

My DH usually sleeps in the spare room - this is his choice, as we both snore, but I've also had back problems so a bed to myself helps me sleep. We still sleep together if we have visitors or we go away. Our bedroom is still "our room" and we both keep all our things there. DH brings me a cuppa every morning and joins me for a cuddle. And the intimacy is undiminished. I'd say the spare room helps to keep our marriage going!

It sounds like sleep apnoea. It can be harmful to health causing hypertension, stroke and there is a connection to Type 2 diabetes. He needs to get it checked out. Ask his GP to refer him to a Sleep Clinic. It's on the NHS.link here

Research has shown someone who has been deprived of sleep because of OSA may be up to 12 times more likely to be involved in a car accident.

You have my sympathy. My DH snored for years and I was at the end of my tether and about to leave. He now has a CPAP machine and we both sleep at night.

DH snores loudly, too. He doesn't wake me up (I don't think....) with the snoring, but if I get up for the loo (probably because he HAS woken me up!) then I can't get back to sleep again because of it. This is with earplugs, by the way. I go through to the spare room, still wearing the earplugs, and I can still hear him! Then the cat follows me, so I have to open the door for her to get in and out.... yawwwwn!!

It makes sense so I can't believe that it is that rare. Lack of sleep would put much more of a strain on a marriage than sleeping apart and it works for you.
Some people would still sleep if a train went through their bedroom and I find that they simply don't understand the problem of being a light sleeper and that can cause friction (not that I have carried out much personal research).

KatyK I am right there with you. We can't sleep in the same room ever and so do not go on holiday unless it is in a cottage, it simply can't be a hotel room! We have separate rooms and it suits us down to the ground.

Not sure why the ladies are always the ones to move into the spare room - just like I have!

My DH snores so loudly he sounds like a pneumatic drill. If ever he goes to bed before me, I can hear him snoring away despite me having th TV on at a reasonable level. He's tried every remedy known to man but nothing has worked. (He's not overweight). So separate rooms it is. We can't even stay in the same hotel room, we have to have a two bedroomed apartment or something.

We sleep in separate rooms as I am a terrible fidget and wake many times during the night. We both get a good nights sleep and are happy in the morning. I can't see a problem 'sleeping' in separate rooms .

We sleep in separate rooms as I am a terrible fidget and wake many times during the night. We both get a good nights sleep and are happy in the morning. I can't see a problem 'sleeping' in separate rooms .

My DH gets up quite early for work. I am a bad sleeper as it is and usually only manage around 4 hours, however I am woken at (around) 5 am by the sound of a baby elephant splashing around in the bathroom together with the taps being run blasted on full power, the sink being filled, emptied, filled emptied and filled again, the toilet being flushed over and over, the shower....

I lie there frozen and so close to screaming out loud.

Not quite separate rooms but there is a spare room and I do sleep in it frequently. It's ok in our bedroom if I get to sleep before him but if not, it's impossible because of his snoring. Sometimes he wakes me getting up to wee and then I end up moving because he goes back to sleep quickly and the snoring starts.....

I sometimes get very tired and irritable. I know he would object to permanent spare rooms but I can see it happening.

I thought sleep apnoea was something very specific and not just snoring?

Separate rooms are definitely the answer, we did this some time ago due to illness and insomnia. Works well for us and I am quite surprised at the number of couples who have separate rooms, don't know why but people are reluctant to say they do this as they see it as a failure of sorts.

Oh yes that's a point. DH used to snore too but only when he was carrying some extra weight and that's gone and the snoring with it!! Sister's husband is lovingly known as Winnie the Pooh because of his round tummy!!

Teetime....that sounds a marvellous idea. Thank you. I shall talk to him about going to see his GP, he is rather overweight which may have some bearing on his snoring.

I moved out of the main bedroom years ago, OH snores like a train too (and I snore too). Got so fed up with lack of sleep I moved into the spare room, best thing ever. Another benefit is now I can read when I want with no tutting about the light being on, and we both get full nights rest.
We never go to bed at the same time so neither gets disturbed by the other getting ready for bed.

Hello sueinhull my sister's husband is a big time snorer when they stayed here I thought there was a road drill in the spare bedroom. It was so bad my sister went to sleep downstairs night after night and didn't get much sleep as you could hear I'm all over the house. She became ill with tiredness and I think a divorce may have been on the cards when he decided to go and get some professional help. He now has a' machine' don't know its proper name which gives him continuous air flow throughout the night via a small mask and the snoring has stopped!!! He was seen in a Sleep Apnoea clinic at the local hospital but first they examined his airways to see if there were any other obstructions etc. It might be worth consulting your GP.

If its working for you don't knock it Sue just feel sorry for the poor people who don't have a spare bedroom and have to lay next to a snorer all night it is my worst nightmare,I am lucky my OH just has the occasional flutter every now and then nothing an elbow won't cure.