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Am I being umreasonable?

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Thistlelass Wed 19-Aug-26 22:39:54

One afternoon per week I collect my two grandchildren from school and take them back to their home. I cook a meal for the family with groceries I have purchased. We all eat together and then I head home. I do enjoy it but I long for my family to droo in and visit me in my own home. I think it is about a year now since they have been down. It hurts and upsets me but I try to stay quiet as I want things to get better not worse. What would you do?

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YorkLady Wed 19-Aug-26 22:47:15

Could you not collect the children from school but go to your home to cook and all eat together there ?

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welbeck Wed 19-Aug-26 22:54:21

Don't allow yourself to be taken for granted.
Seems like they view you as staff to provide a service.
So they won't drop in on you if there's no advantage to them in doing so.
I've seen this so many times.
Are you paying for the groceries too.
Just get a t shirt with a doormat logo.

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Thistlelass Wed 19-Aug-26 23:02:48

Yorklady well I guess I could but it just makes mess in my house. I do have some health issues which make me tired and a bit slow. What I am looking for is one or two spontaneous visits. Have my grandchildren in my home

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Thistlelass Wed 19-Aug-26 23:06:05

Welkbeck you are completely right. Everything is completely to suit them. They are very self focused. I am really just looking for some ideas how I can nudge it around a bit.

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