Drugs and memory

You haven't got dementia if you forget what you went to the fridge for - it's if you forget what the fridge itself is for that you need worry about it!

Why such a nasty post *DH"?

Why such a nasty post DB?

Which, what, when, where??

Only joking Daphne don't you recognise a leg-pull when you see one! Lighten up love!

Didn't want to get involved in a "domestic" with your DH!

Best not, I agree

It's been interesting to see that so many of you have memory problems too.

I was watching Ben Fogle tonight out in the wilds of the USA and it reminded me of one of my favourite films, but could I remember the name of the film, could I heck as like ? About 20 minutes later I remembered it was 'Deliverance'.

One or two of you have said how stress can affect the memory and I tend to agree. My counter-part Gran is I her last few days/weeks and I feel unbelievably sad. She asked to see our two GSs 5 and 3 and my DinL took them to the hospital today and they spent 4 hours with her and managed to behave themselves all that time - now that is a miracle so perhaps dealing with all this, plus regular sad updates from DinL and DS by text is contributing to my memory fog.

Thanks for listening All, it's good to know you are there.

NanKate I can hear that the sadness around your co-gran is affecting you. My SiL's mother, a lovely, lovely woman died two years ago from heart failure following a bungled operation.

She knew she was dying at only 65 and at first didn't want her grandchildren to see her in hospital. She was only thinking of them. But then she asked to see them. Our shared GC were 8 and 5 and it was a good decision as they got to cuddle 'grandma' and she got to say goodbye to them.

It is unbelievably sad and very stressful.

Sending you (((hugs)))

Yes I agree Anya the importance of involving youngsters in the stuff of life and death. Our 3 year old just thought his gran was unwell and in bed but the 5 year old certainly was far more aware. I am expecting him to ask me how long I have got left when I see him on Friday and I shall give a jocular 'I'm planning on being around for a long time yet' response.

Thanks the (((hugs))) were much appreciated.

DSiL's father died a couple of weeks ago and his eldest daughter (aged 5) was very aware. She drew a picture of him going up into heaven (including fireworks ) and it brings her comfort.

I found the period while he was in hospital stressful as I was waiting to be supportive of either Dd or DSiL at any time. (hugs) Kate

I am in that same waiting position now Kitty and I agree how stressful it is. If only my counter part Gran was in a Hospice they would make her comfortable and let her go, but is hospital they seem honour bound to prolong the misery and I just want to weep.

I think once we have arrived tomorrow and are with the grandchildren I will be too busy to mope about in tears, as I am now.

Sorry to be so miserable and depressing at this time of year.