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Low in january

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SussexGirl60 Sun 01-Jan-17 11:18:54

Hi, wondering how other people cope with a low mood in January. I suffer from this every year from about end of December through into February, when I pick up. It's not exactly depression, more a mindset of anxiety, restlessness, worry....I worry about getting ill, dying, not sleeping, relationships...I feel like leaving everyone this time of year and going off on my own and it intensifies every year. It's hard to focus on anything positive and I get angry, critical and irritable with people around me. I try to spend time outside, I meditate regularly, don't have a crazy diet, have loving friends and family but it's like none of that makes any difference. Then in middle of February, it all seems to change and I feel more positive. Am I alone in feeling like this?

Mirandaf55 Mon 02-Jan-17 15:35:10

I agree with a lot of this, had a long walk in the country this morning enjoying the sunshine. Large dose of vit D helps a bit but I do think some of it is also post Xmas. We're off to Cuba for 2 weeks next week and I'm not really looking forward to it (not a hot weather person, get very swollen hands and feet) which I know must sound very ungrateful to some of you but need to paint on a smile and hope for the best! Hope you all feel brighter soon!

McGilchrist41 Mon 02-Jan-17 15:45:03

My family have been staying with me for the New Year break. They go to the in-laws for Xmas. Two lots have just departed for Herts and Derbyshire so feeling a bit low myself today. Already miss the kids charging about.
So in one way pleased to know I am not alone. It usually takes a little while to adjust again.
However back to normal tomorrow with Craft Club but the idea of a holiday sounds good.

Smithy Mon 02-Jan-17 16:23:25

Interesting reading these posts, I feel like that this time of year, every year. Planning little tasks etc just does not do anything for me.
I also want to go off somewhere for February but up to now have never plucked up the courage to go away on my own for a month.

Swanny Mon 02-Jan-17 18:42:54

My worst time is October to December 21 - the shortest day. My mood then picks up enormously until February, when I go down again. It always seems such a long time between Christmas and Easter, regardless of the actual date. I've been taking Vit D tablets for a couple of years and they have helped but ... the only thing that really helps is sunshine, the warmer the better.

If, like me, you can't afford a prolonged trip to sunny Spain, try looking at an outing to the bulb fields. Masses and masses of yellow daffodils are a sight worth seeing and definitely something to look forward to. Otherwise hang on in there, better days are coming and you are not alone flowers

SussexGirl60 Mon 02-Jan-17 19:47:26

I'm overwhelmed by the number of messages and helpful information and I can see that I'm not alone. I do think lack of light has a lot to do with it. Sunny today which has helped. I do work so getting away could be difficult but I'm going to take some vitamin D just to see if it makes any difference at all....and fingers crossed we have lots of sunny days-for me and everyone else that gets down in the winter.

Jeannie59 Mon 02-Jan-17 23:30:47

Decluttering in January is a fabulous way to help beat the blues. Loft, cupboards, start the spring cleaning early.
It is amazing how fast January flies by when you are getting ready for spring and it is good for the soul too.

Mamie Tue 03-Jan-17 07:09:02

I used to suffer from this and found that a lightbox helped, but it has gone away completely in the three years that I have been on the Low Carb Healthy Fat way of eating. I don't know if it is because I am so much fitter (and thinner), but I suspect it is more to do with the food I eat (and don't eat).
Might be worth a try?

GranVee Tue 03-Jan-17 08:03:38

I suffer from SAD and it got progressively worse over the years. The way I cope with it is I trying to get outside as much as possible because it is certainly exacerbated by lack of light. What I try and do is take a holiday either just before Christmas or in January somewhere warm with lots of daylight. Even though it's not for everyone I go on antidepressants from around September to February which helps me cope. I have tried getting one of those lights that are supposed to help but it just gave me headache. Good luck with finding a solution.

etheltbags1 Wed 04-Jan-17 09:28:17

I managed to find time on new years day to take DGD to the local park where we walked and she played with others, it was bitterly cold but sunny and at one point I felt a little bit of warmth from the sum. I really made the most of it.
I am trying to find time each day to spend time relaxing out of doors although its difficult to find time off at the minute as I work as well as caring for my mother. My job is outdoors and I sometimes walk past local parks of enjoy the gardens, I found some snowdrops the other day, So lovely as mine at just tiny green spikes as yet.

Lovey Wed 04-Jan-17 17:51:02

Women's Institute is brilliant in January.

Ana Wed 04-Jan-17 18:03:27

What about the rest of the year?

gillybob Wed 04-Jan-17 18:20:51

I feel exactly the same Sussexgirl60 . I always have a feeling of dread during December that prevents me really enjoying the Christmas break as I am already worrying about January . For me I think it's work and the beginning of yet another year of work that I really don't enjoy but can never leave . This year I have had ( and still have) that horrible cold virus together with that awful cough which is so much worse at night and just makes me tired and irritable during the day . Then it's off to work in the dark and back home in the dark. There seems nothing to look forward to . sad

cupcake1 Wed 04-Jan-17 21:22:12

Its November and December for me, I'm definitely not a fan of Christmas and dread the lead up and all out commercialism. I love seeing my family but feel so tired and drained when it's over as its left to me to do all the cooking, entertaining etc as they stay over and get waited on constantly! Yes, my fault I know, but I want everyone to have a good time. I usually pick up mid January (probably something to do with my birthday!) - the shortest day has been and gone and Spring and lighter nights are nudging closer. As others have stated on this thread I to have the urge to have a massive clear out. Declutter the house and declutter the mind!!

gillybob Wed 04-Jan-17 23:05:18

My early January birthday tends to only make me feel worse cupcake1 . I was always a touch jealous of my sisters May birthday when she was made a fuss of and allowed a party. Mine was always "too close to Christmas" and no-one ever had any money left anyway.

SussexGirl60 Thu 05-Jan-17 09:56:25

Gillybob-'nothing to look forward to' just about captures it. I don't think my life is especially miserable but in January, it's hard to find the light at the end of the tunnel. Holidays seems to be the only thing people do to address it-either going on one, or booking one...there must be more than this..

gillybob Thu 05-Jan-17 10:02:45

I actually made a New Years Resolution to try and be less miserable SussexGirl60 it lasted a few hours (basically until the effects of a couple of glasses of wine had worn off) and I was back to my usual, miserable self.

I say to my DH "How can you put up with such a miserable cow for a wife?" and he just smiles and says "you weren't a miserable cow when I fell in love with you" confused

Stansgran Thu 05-Jan-17 10:43:19

My father died in my teens and I felt the rug was pulled from under my feet. First day back at uni for an early lecture I was on the top of the bus at the front and there was a fantastic sky- if you knew Liverpool in those days the pollution gave you spectacular skies- and it gave me a lift for a moment. I'm no Pollyanna but I do look for something beautiful to register. I'm lucky in that I have a garden with lovely views and a beautiful cathedral in my city. But Gillybob it does help.

gillybob Thu 05-Jan-17 10:49:54

Maybe its just the feeling of getting older, maybe its because 2016 was a particularly bad year for me, I don't know, but I feel so sad for the things I haven't done and will probably never do.

Maybe I just need to accept "my lot" and try to look more positively at the good things around me, it's just so damned hard.

Jayanna9040 Thu 05-Jan-17 10:55:03

Plan something that you always wanted to do. For me it was travel. Tell us something you really wish you could do. Something achievable. I'd really like to know.

gillybob Thu 05-Jan-17 11:40:47

I would love to go to Nashville (have loved Country Music all my life).

I would love to see something of the world.

I would love to study something I enjoy. (I threw away my high school education).

Jayanna9040 Thu 05-Jan-17 12:04:26

Ok so which bit of the world can you afford? It doesn't have to be far or for long or an expensive holiday. I once went to Milan for less than it cost to have a couple of days in Bath.

gillybob Thu 05-Jan-17 14:21:30

Not very far unfortunately Jayanna9040 but it all revolves around work anyway, so can only usually manage a few days here and there.

What I would really love would be to book the holiday of a lifetime and actually go ! grin

cupcake1 Thu 05-Jan-17 16:56:10

I know what you mean *gillybob never had siblings but money was tight after Christmas and I did feel a bit peeved I didn't have a summer birthday envy. I got it right with my DC - all 3 were born in June! (2 are twins!) ! Wishing you a very happy 2017 I do hope you see a few of your wishes/dreams materialise this year sunshineflowers

KatyK Thu 05-Jan-17 17:23:49

I too have resolved to be a less miserable person. I am a total misery to be honest. I have always found that if you resolve to be happier, something horrible happens. I know how pathetic that sounds (and self pitying) but it has always been the case for me. I do, however, have many blessings and am going to try to count them, instead of focusing so much on the negatives.

Mancunianma Fri 06-Jan-17 18:44:51

I'm affected by the lack of light too. It's true after Christmas everything seems very flat and the dark nights seem to go on forever. I do admire those of you who try and be positive and set a little task each day to lift the mood. I must try and do it!!