Daughter has breast cancer

Just adding my good wishes for you all

Thank you whitewave for the helpful information and thanks to all for support. Its not even a week since we got the news, but it seems a lifetime ago. I take courage from all the new developments in the treatment but but....its very hard. How quickly life can change.

I'm sorry to hear this and understand how worries you will be.

Two of my friends have recently had lumpectomies and some radiotherapy and all appears to be fine. We alk have memories, don't we, from years ago when cancer was a really scary diagnosis - things have changed for the better though!

Well in my case and my best friends and 2 more friends case.

Suspected bc - sent for mammogram - seemed to be an issue- biopsy - bc confirmed.

Surgery - 3 of had lumps remove one had a radical mastectomy and reconstruction as well as under arm glands removed.

Bc lump sent for inspection and it would seem from those results the next lot of treatment is decided. So it could be drugs and nothing else, or radiotherapy and drugs and nothing else or radiotherapy, chemotherapy and drugs. This is with the knowledge that each year brings better and different treatment and all this happened at least 12 years ago. All of us is still here.

Keep your eye on this time next year, with luck, good medical care which she would get in Germany and a fair wind you'll be looking back on this time with a happy heart to know that it is all behind you. Remember the outcome is better in Europe than here.

Silverlining, do be assured that your daughter will receive state of the art medical care in Germany from what we have been told by friends who live there. Most German doctors speak excellent English.

I am not sure that it is wise for you to discuss this with your GP here, unless the GP is a friend. Getting medical opinions without having the full case history and the patient there is not a good idea.

Neverthless, good luck!

Silver lining, I understand your worries but treatments are so so effective now I'm sure your daughter will recover well. Most Consultants in France have some English so I'm sure it will be the same in Germany. I would keep away from Mr Google , too much information can be as bad as too little. I am not up to date with current treatments so sorry I can't help. Do talk to your Dr or a MacMillan nurse they will help.
Good wishes to your daughter for a speedy recovery.

So sorry to hear this silver. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed everything goes smoothly as it sounds like this has been caught early enough'

Do let us know

silver I'm sorry to hear about your dd, and of course you must be sick with worry. However, I think cancer treatments are pretty good these days, so her recovery should be well looked after.
Best wishes to you all

I hope her treatment is good, she is in germany a nd can speak the language fairly well but complicated medical terminology isnt easy. I dont know how this works in the uk so will see my gp to discuss as soon as i can get an appointment at the surgery. Can anyone give me infomation about what tests are done, when and why? I could look online but am nervous, not strong enough for worst cAse scenario.

Silverlining, my heart goes out to you.
Of course you are worried. However, from what you say, it does seem that she is receiving excellent care and that the cancer has been caught early. Be with her soon and surround her with love. She sounds like a positive person and perhaps she has inherited this from you.

Hope all goes well. Do keep us posted.

silverlining a huge worry for you and your family [[[[hugs]]]]] for you and your family

silver this will be the worst of times for your daughter and your family, but cling on to the fact that there are a lot of people on this forum who are breast cancer survivors including myself.

I can remember the early days - twelve years ago - and the sheer panic I was in and the terror. But this initial rawness will pass and you will deal with it.

I can understand your worries. Keeping everything crossed for a speedy recovery.
Feel free to come and chat on here anytime. ?

Thankyou teetime and lucky.

Very sorry to hear this. I send you all good wishes.

I am sorry to hear this - you must be very worried - I know I would be. But it does sound as though her treatment is good and speedy - just what is needed. I hope you will be able to get to see her soon and have a good hug. Men often cope with this sort of thing in a different way to us - and I would guess that your OH's lack of comment does not indicate lack of caring.

Do let us know how things go. We are always here.

silverlining I am so sorry you must be terribly distressed. It does sound as though she has been picked up quickly and put on the right course of treatment. I know the people in this forum will give you all the support and help they can so keep talking on here. My best wishes and good thoughts to you and your family .