Nothing left to give...

peep going part time is not an option. I am a specialist within my team so the only one who is trained to do the role I do. It's not something that someone else could just pick up as a lot of specialist training and exams needed.
Hubby will constantly say I do too much but when I then ask him to do X and a day or 2 later ask if he's done it he will invariably say no. This can have serious consequences such as one time no house insurance for 3 days and another time came home to a cold house as no heating oil ordered. This then stresses me out more. We talked at the beginning of the summer about a few reasonably big projects that needed to be done round the house. As hubby is semi retired I suggested he could organize these. It never happened. His answer is "I'll get round to it". As these are outside projects they need to be done before the colder weather and dark evenings come round again. His favourite line is "In a minute" but 2 hours later the dogs are still not fed or the dishwasher is still not emptied or whatever else is still not done. It's just easier to do it myself. I've stopped ironing his clothes. I've stopped doing anything that solely relates to him in the hope he can see that there is work involved. Trueblue22 yes you're right it probably is a control thing. I grew up with a totally useless mother who left me to my own devices from as young as I can remember so I had to manage my own life or fail. My dad worked 7days per week so was home very little. I became a control freak out of necessity I guess. Even writing these posts I realise that if those who knew me were reading them they would be shocked. My reputation both at home and at work is of someone who is super organized to almost OCD standards and who had life fully sorted. I have a nice house and to the outside world a nice life. I'd swap it all in the morning and live in a 1 bed apartment to have a peaceful mind.

You seriously need to look after yourself. You are a serial giver but sometimes you need to be kind to yourself, because who else is going to do it!

I'm sure giving gives you a lot of satisfaction too, but sometimes you need to step back and let someone else deal with things. If -God forbid -you were to become unwell, which at this rate seems to be the case, your DH and daughter will just have to become a little less selfish.

Maybe constant giving is a type of being in control thing, but you MUST let go of the control and be looked after for a change.

glammygranny I will PM you.

Oh my goodness you sound desperate. I think you should see your GP asap even if you don't want to be signed off. You have too much going on. Would you be able to go part time or even leave work altogether? You really need to do something for you to keep yourself healthy. Probably not very helpful, I struggle to get things down in writing. X