You were in my thoughts last night Yorkshiregirl
So I am pleased to read that you are continuing on your positive path,
all be it a more uphill one.
So many inspirational stories, you are
all true heroes.
for you all.
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How's this for postive, or am I just mad !
(63 Posts)I had sugery just over 3 weeks ago for breast cancer they removed a tumour from my breast and a lymph node from under my arm. It certainly was a shock not just to me but the whole family..more so as I lost my only sister to cancer 2 years ago, and my 1st hospital appointment was on the date she died !
Today I go back for my prognosis, and see if they managed to get all the cancer, if I need more surgery, chemo or just radiotherapy.
Anyway I felt terrible, and really frail for a while after surgery, but managed to look after myself and do housework,cooking etc. On week 2 I gave myself a kick up the backside, and got my makeup on and hair done...not bad considering 1 arm was pretty useless after surgery but I did my physio and its improving.
Last night I rejoined Slimmingworld with a view to lose the weight I had put on comfort eating. I still have more cancer treatment to face, but it wont help if I am overweight. I will be distraught today if the news isnt good !
I have had such fantastic support, and love from family and friends apart from 1 friend, who has not called or even texted to enquire of how I am needless to say I no longer need her in my life.
Glad you got through it xx
Yorkshiregirl i wish you well and I just wanted to say your an inspiration to us all
Take good care of yourself
Sending you a big hug ?
I'm 3yrs post mastectomy so have been there and I feel for you take one day at a time try to get out every day even if it's not for long .has others have said do the excercises it's worth it look after yourself . I'm another tough Yorkshire girl .we are here to support you .
Aww bless you Yorkshire girl. I was in your position 21 years ago, aggressive breast cancer, mastectomy, total axillary clearance (lymph nodes) lots of chemo & follow up treatment etc. but obviously I'm still here! At the time my imagination was far worse than the reality. Keep up with the physiotherapy, even on the days when it's the last thing you want to do because it is so worth it in the long run. Be kind to yourself & only associate with those who truly care about you. Everything else can wait. I'm a Yorkshire girl too ( make us tough up here!) & always here if you want to chat x
Sorry to hear this Yorkshiregirl, do try to keep up the positivity though, I am convinced that is what got me through my cancer. I was lucky that I only had 3 months of chemo, no radiotherapy then a radical cystectomy with ileal conduit and urostomy. I take delight in the fact that I no longer have to get up in the night for a pee and I also don't have to sit on public loo seats as I can now do it standing up. My best wishes to you and I hope you find a way to get through this. x
You sound like a brave woman. I am sure you will find the strength inside you to get through this bad time. I wish you all the best.
Thank you all for your kind messages. Today after a sleepless night I have walked the dog, cooked a roast chicken dinner and been for my hair doing. Tomorrow I am going for a facial x
Oh my Violette you have certainly fought for your life girl, and you have my utter respect. 10 years ! xxx
Thank you so much Nigglynellie. So kind of you.
Very best wishes to you Yorkshiregel.
Thinking of you.
Yorkshiregirl, my heart goes out to you.
You have quite a rocky road ahead of you and I will keep you in my prayers.
I wish you love and peace. 
Sorry to here this Yorkshiregel. We are all here to support you as much as possible. I hope you get the practical support you need to help you cope.
Sorry to hear your results were not what you were hoping for. You sound just like me ...stay positive, don't mix with people who say 'oh dear how dreadful' and tiptoe around you ......my own way of getting through three reoccurrences, three years of operations, chemo, scans, etc etc etc was simply to get on with it as if it were any other illness. The only bad thing was the reaction to chemo which kicked in three days in and laid me low for a day ..horrible ! I could drink only Lucozade (good excuse for me cos I love it, and am Type I diabetic and it is normally forbidden !!) ..it is now ten years since my original diagnosis, and yippee a few months ago I finally had the porta cath for the chemo removed !! I see you are on your own ...but have good friends ! I hope they will support you ...my husband said throughout that there was nothing wrong with me, I was a hypochondriac ....like youwould be, having three major surgeries .....but that is the way he is ! A friend arrived from the UK (a retired MacMillan nurse !) ...who announced she was coming 'to look after you'...this involved me getting up early to get her breakfast ready before I drove myself to the hospital for a day's chemo .....then, on the chemo off days, she announed she would like to go and visit Vieux sur Mer where she had holidayed once years ago ...ok, I said. A one hour drive, but hey ho ! Got up, ready to leave at 09.00...she was still in bed, got up at 10.00, had breakfast, got a shower and finally announced at 11.30 she was ready to go ! I was not. I said no point going now .........
Good luck ...the very best thing you can do is remain positive ! It will be a long and hard journey, but you will get there ....my step daughter had BC at the age of 46 ..she is now 55 and is fine ! 
Good for u. I'm in slimming world and it is a very healthy food plan. Don't be too hard on yourself, you have had a physical and mental trauma.
Oh no I'm so so sorry I just saw your update ? have you family and friends who will rally around?
I'm hoping the hospital will also put support in place for you - thinking of you x
Wishing you all the best for a positive result xx
dear yorkshiregirl. Not sure if this will help you or any others but adored dh has been going to the sarah cannon research clinic in london www.sarahcannonresearch.co.uk/ on a trial which has extended his life by over three years. The nhs has a site for all sorts of trials and I was frantic when we had his terminal prognosis (6 months) and spent hours hunched over computer looking for a lifeline and applying to different hospitals. The trials are funded by different drug companies and he was lucky to be on which is now available on the nhs. Good luck and never ever give up hope it is the flame that burns brightest when despair threatens to extinguish the spirit! 
Hello Yorkshire Girl. My deepest sympathies and commiserations. I can remember how I felt 4 yrs ago when I got my diagnosis. I had a full mastectomy with removal of lymph nodes - do keep up the exercises for your arm. They will help to get the full range of movement back gradually. But also take it all a day at a time. You have a great attitude which will help you through but don't overdo your activities. One of my friends said that I should "play the cancer card" more but I try to be "normal"! But fatigue will probably be your greatest problem. Also, if the tablets they give you for the 5yr course make you feel awful, there are alternatives. I've tried 3 different ones and the one I am on now has the least side effects. Would be very happy if you want any further help, if you would like to send me a private email - I have a breast cancer support group in my house once a month so have heard from several others. Very best wishes for everything.
So sorry YG that you didn't get the news you'd hoped for. You have such a positive attitude and that will be a great help, but be kind to yourself while you come to terms with this. 
Oh Yorkshire girl I'm so sorry your results were not better. I think and hope that you will find your inner strength and resilience and get through the difficult times ahead. Plan ahead and make sure you are kind to yourself. Sit outside when you can, walk when you can. Feed yourself well, nourishment is important and winter veg soup can be cheap and comforting.
I wish you all the very best for the coming months and beyond 
So sorry to read your subsequent result post - you must be devastated. Take each day as it comes and please reach out for all the help and support you are offered especially as you're on your own. If it's any consolation it's just coming up to 3 years since my niece and a friend's daughter were both diagnosed with breast cancer and had the same ops/treatments you're now facing. It was hard but they've both come out the other end and are doing very well having had the all clear. Good luck and we are all here for you 
So sorry to hear it wasn't the news u hoped for. As many have already said there are thousands of women who have successfully come through this. Do keep posting. G.N. is wonderful at supporting others. Keep fighting!
I was so sorry to read that news you had being given Yorkshire girl. It must be such a hard thing to be told and then to face months of surgery, treatment, I cannot imagine how I would feel if I had to deal with such a thing.
Although, I don't know you please accept my best wishes for a good and positive future outcome. Having read your earlier post, you don't seem like a lady who gives in easily, give yourself time and then 'go for it' good luck.
The same to you Worlass, many many positive wishes.
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