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How's this for postive, or am I just mad !

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Yorkshiregirl Wed 23-Aug-17 11:02:15

I had sugery just over 3 weeks ago for breast cancer they removed a tumour from my breast and a lymph node from under my arm. It certainly was a shock not just to me but the whole family..more so as I lost my only sister to cancer 2 years ago, and my 1st hospital appointment was on the date she died !

Today I go back for my prognosis, and see if they managed to get all the cancer, if I need more surgery, chemo or just radiotherapy.

Anyway I felt terrible, and really frail for a while after surgery, but managed to look after myself and do housework,cooking etc. On week 2 I gave myself a kick up the backside, and got my makeup on and hair done...not bad considering 1 arm was pretty useless after surgery but I did my physio and its improving.

Last night I rejoined Slimmingworld with a view to lose the weight I had put on comfort eating. I still have more cancer treatment to face, but it wont help if I am overweight. I will be distraught today if the news isnt good !

I have had such fantastic support, and love from family and friends apart from 1 friend, who has not called or even texted to enquire of how I am needless to say I no longer need her in my life.

gillybob Wed 23-Aug-17 11:05:16

Oh Yorkshiregirl you are inspirational !

I do hope your news is good. sunshine

Cherrytree59 Wed 23-Aug-17 11:18:00

You are not mad Yorkshire girl
You are an inspiration to us all.
Unfortunately there are not many families that manage to miss the 'big C'
If not family then we usually have a friend in a similar situation.
But I do feel that a positive outlook is just as important as the treatment itself.

One day at time, one small step on the road to recovery.

I hope with all my heart that your news is good Yorkshire girl
But what ever the outcome you will battle on with the help of family, friends and your positive outlook.

wine for this evening

harrigran Wed 23-Aug-17 11:22:04

Best wishes to you Yorkshiregirl, don't try to lose too much weight, appetite may not be good when having treatment and you could end up losing weight anyway.
When I had my op they built me up with protein drinks before and had to continue for a month post-op.

annsixty Wed 23-Aug-17 11:29:32

All the best vibes coming your way Yorkshire girl
I have been there and done that and will be thinking of you.
Please let us know how it goes.

Imperfect27 Wed 23-Aug-17 11:33:23

So glad you have had fantastic support Yorkshiregirl and well done you for all the positivity and pro-activeness. A dear friend has had parallel treatment to you and I know she has been tired and sore, but like you, she is marvellous though it!

Let us know how it goes for you today and keep drawing on the support you need xx

Greyduster Wed 23-Aug-17 11:47:36

You sound as if you have good reserves of that precious commodity Yorkshire Grit! Fingers crossed that your continued treatment goes well, and hang onto that positivity! ?

kittylester Wed 23-Aug-17 11:50:20

Really inspirational post Yorkshiregirl - keep us posted.

TriciaF Wed 23-Aug-17 12:12:39

Well done for staying so positive smile.
Hoping and praying that your health continues to improve.
T x

merlotgran Wed 23-Aug-17 12:16:49

Your positive attitude is amazing, Yorkshiregirl

Very best of luck today.

Christinefrance Wed 23-Aug-17 12:19:52

Well done Yorkshiregirl you have true Yorkshire grit and determination. Keep positive and hope things improve for you lass. flowers

tanith Wed 23-Aug-17 12:27:06

Wonderful positivity 'Yorkshiregirl' I hope you get a good result today. flowers

MiniMouse Wed 23-Aug-17 12:35:05

Hope all goes well for you, your positivity shines through. Sending you sunshine to brighten a difficult day.

Yorkshiregirl Wed 23-Aug-17 17:55:38

Unfortunately not what I was expecting ! Im having more surgery Monday 4th September, and if all isnt right after it will be a mastectomy. I also need chemotherapy over 18 weeks,and radiotherapy every day for 3 weeks. Then another form of chemotherapy for a full year possibly at home. Five years on cancer drugs.
My heads all over the place, and I'm worried how I will cope living alone.

Cherrytree59 Wed 23-Aug-17 18:14:00

Oh dear what a blow.
I have been rooting for you all day Yorkshire
I am hoping that you have had some family or friend support today.

Some one will be along on GN soon who will be able to give the right advice and support.

I wish you all the strength needed to overcome the hurdles in front of you.
Xxx

TriciaF Wed 23-Aug-17 18:19:05

What a worry, Yorshiregirl. I don't know what to say. One of my aunts had a mastectomy and lived for many years afterwards. But it will take time for the news to slowly sink in.
Can you get support from macmillan nurses?
www.macmillan.org.uk/information-and-support/coping/getting-support/macmillan-nurses
Try contacting them.

Kateykrunch Wed 23-Aug-17 18:58:04

Wishing you well Yorkshiregirl.

BBbevan Wed 23-Aug-17 19:06:11

What a lovely positive post. Hope all goes well

Imperfect27 Wed 23-Aug-17 19:54:34

Sorry the news is so difficult for you Yorkshiregirl. You are bound to be phased by it and will have up and down days for sure.

From the little I know, I hope you will swiftly be offered some meaningful 'accompanying' support and advice from Macmillan or similar. There are many, many people who have travelled this road before you and will be there to help you.

Very best wishes. xx

MontanaGal Wed 23-Aug-17 20:04:22

I'm so sorry to hear of your health issues. You will be in my thoughts.

nanaK54 Wed 23-Aug-17 20:16:09

Sending you all good wishes sunshine xxx

Jalima1108 Wed 23-Aug-17 20:46:09

Posittive is good!! But don't try to do too much too soon would be my advice for what it's worth.

I wish you all the best Yorkshiregirl
sunshine

shysal Wed 23-Aug-17 20:51:18

flowers.
Don't over tire yourself. Will be thinking of you over the coming weeks and months.

Faye Thu 24-Aug-17 04:18:31

Best wishes Yorkshiregirl. flowers

Anya Thu 24-Aug-17 06:53:16

Sorry to read in your update Yorkshiregel that the news was not what you hoped for. Don't try to do this alone. Make sure you get all the practical support that's available and I'm sure you'll get emotional support on here.