Poppyred - my experience of giving up drinking was that it was not hard. I thought it would be, but it wasn't. I gave up a few months after my husband had to go into a home. We had split a bottle of wine at dinner every night for years, but I realised I was drinking his share too. I was sad and lonely, and I realised I might be on a slippery slope, so I just stopped. The only problem is people saying "Oh what are we going to give you?" - to which I reply, "Water would be very nice, thank you". Warning - some take it as implied criticism. It isn't. I still use alcohol in recipes, no problem there. Good luck, whether you cut down, or cut it out.