Husband has had stroke and his sister is being difficult

His sister and her husband don't understand how debilitating a stroke is and how difficult it is for wife/husband/carer to juggle care and in your case work.
My advice would be to spell it out and point out that further stress could bring on another stroke.
And/or give her some pamphlets (regarding strokes) to read to help her understand the condition better.

Your priority is to your DC and yourself.

Tell your husband that as soon as he has had enough of his visitors or conversing with them to close his eyes!
Hopefully they will get the message.

Wishing your DH a speedy recovery

I know about all this - I have a SIL who gives me verbal grief over my sick OH. We had to cancel a visit from her (she lives far away) as we were both too ill to cope - boy did I get it in the neck!!! She hasn't the vaguest clue how difficult things are and just wants to swan in briefly to fulfill her fantasy of being a ministering angel. Sigh.

I think that the problem is that no one has told his sister!

Please pop a note through her door ( if you aren’t able to tell her to her face) listing the hours/times that it’s convenient for her to visit and asking her not to pop around at other times as your DH needs to rest on his doctors orders.

If that fails, give her a list of things that she can do, like take your dog out or do some shopping for you.

Maybe she thinks that you want the weekends alone?

PS. If you have already told her all of this, then she is a selfish bat and probably won’t change.

People have strange ideas about 'supporting' someone, I've found.
Usually it means doing things that suit them.

I do sympathise we are 11 weeks post stroke for my DH and down to 1 visit a week from the rehab team. I felt as though I was run ragged for a lot of the time never mind having a dog and a job to juggle with as well.
Some of our family just don't seem to get that some days all the progress goes pear shaped and the tiredness closes in. We have been blessed with some good friends who judge their visits by how my DH talks ( you can tell when he is struggling ).
Your SIL needs to be told bluntly that she is not being at all helpful.

Blimey tell me about it . Support ? Don’t make me laugh .

The support I've had from my friend during my daughters illness, death, and my grandson coming to live with me, is a text once a month.
Asks if I'm ok, then, however I answer, goes on to tell me her news.
No visits, not an invite for a cup of tea..

We were fortunate to have supportive friends when DH had his stroke. Lots of offers of help with the 'man' stuff like stacking logs and finishing off some jobs he'd started.

Mum had just gone into care so DD helped out with visiting and when things settled down we had visits from relatives who live hours away.

I think the problem is your DH's sister lives nearby. It's going to be a trial and error situation because I don't think she does know how to care or support in a manner that's really helpful.

I'm sure things will sort themselves out. You're the one doing the juggling act though so it's tough on you.

Been there!

Thanks for everyone's understanding and supportive comments. Makes me feel I'm not on my own here.