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Hospital visit.

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gillyknits Tue 02-Oct-18 11:27:09

I am visiting a terminally ill friend soon and didn’t want to take flowers or food of any sort. Any ideas of a little something that I can take to cheer her up a bit.

sparkly1000 Tue 02-Oct-18 11:40:57

Maybe a selection of magazines that she would enjoy or some nice toiletries?

Izabella Tue 02-Oct-18 12:00:43

Yourself ...... and caring conversation. Or perhaps do a hand and foot massage for your friend if you have that sort of relationship. Or photographs?

Lynne59 Tue 02-Oct-18 12:03:48

Body spray, cleansing wipes, perfume, are all nice. Or perhaps something cosy, like a shawl, bed jacket, fluffy socks?

wildswan16 Tue 02-Oct-18 12:45:53

Maybe take a really nice hand cream and give her a hand massage while you visit. Or does she like listening to music or audio books?

Floradora9 Tue 02-Oct-18 19:14:46

Most hospitals ban flowers now .

Jane10 Tue 02-Oct-18 19:30:20

I really appreciated lovely handcream when I was in hospital. The beautiful smell was so nice after all the 'hospital' smells

Luckygirl Tue 02-Oct-18 20:13:32

Once when I was in hospital someone brought me some 4711 wipes - they were wonderful - made me feel clean and fresh.

I am sorry to hear about your friend.

Squiffy Tue 02-Oct-18 20:32:35

A bottle of lavender essential oil - your friend could sprinkle a few drops on a tissue to dispel the hospital smells!

gillyknits Tue 02-Oct-18 22:47:21

Thank you for the ideas. I have got lavender hand cream and footbalm so far. Will try and get some wipes and lip balm tomorrow.

Feelingmyage55 Tue 02-Oct-18 23:44:43

Perhaps some cards, envelopes and stamps and offer to write any messages, or help her to, on her behalf. When I was in hospital for long spells, I became very anxious to acknowledge the gifts and good deeds that were done for me and my family. A friend who understands me helped me by bringing in pretty cards. I wrote brief messages and she did the addresses and posted them. It felt like a weight off my mind. Really, just ask your friend if there are things like this you can do for her?

Nana3 Wed 03-Oct-18 00:36:50

A pilllow spray that helps you sleep, they smell nice too. Body shop do one.
So sorry about your friend.

anitamp1 Wed 03-Oct-18 10:18:24

Yankee candles do some nicely scented pretty diffusers.

NemosMum Wed 03-Oct-18 10:21:22

Have you got photos of yourself with her, or places you have visited together? That will give you topics for conversation, and you can leave them with her.

David1968 Wed 03-Oct-18 10:26:56

What a great idea, Feelingmyage55!

harrigran Wed 03-Oct-18 10:30:16

When I had my first operation my sister gave me a little zipped bag with wet wipes, tissues, lip balm and hand cream.
I was very grateful for the lip balm after several days on oxygen my lips were very dry.

Kim19 Wed 03-Oct-18 10:33:38

NemosMum pretty much beat me to it word for word. Reminiscence in these circumstances can be wonderful fun and often full of laughter. Appropriate photos every time for me.

Shazmo24 Wed 03-Oct-18 10:46:26

A nice scented calming candle?

mabon1 Wed 03-Oct-18 11:14:01

These wipes should be banished they are mostly non biodegradable. Have you not seen the recent television programmes or heard Radio 4 very recently?

Pinkshoes26 Wed 03-Oct-18 11:20:24

Good morning all. Just been through this sad time with a relative about a year ago. My gifts were a home made peg bag to hang off the locker ( the lady used it for her washing). Inside I put a pack of 5 pants. She was very gratefull of the new pants. A diffrent time I took wet wipes with name on packet so they would not walk to another bed. Lip savele, dry shampoo, change for shop cart. This lady liked x2 papers daily. Visitors could read aloud bits. Someone brought in a radio for music. A bird feeding stand was placed outside window. We spent time just taking turns beeing there. Asleep or awake. I liked to hold her hand as it gave the feeling of someone there with her. She had her own phone so family and friends could ring - even if it was a visitor that gave an update. One time family aranged (paid for internet) so we could facetime family to far away. She asked for orange and apple juice. Hope it helps

Kim19 Wed 03-Oct-18 11:26:51

Lip salve and dry shampoo sound perfect. I will certainly remember them now. Thank you P26.

Nanny41 Wed 03-Oct-18 11:45:35

If your friend is in Hospital a scented candle would not be suitable, but definately lovely if she is at home.Lip balm and hand cream would be nice too.

Fflaurie Wed 03-Oct-18 11:57:14

a nice room diffuser?

Doversole Wed 03-Oct-18 11:57:49

Mabon, a lot of single use things are not very good for the environment, but perhaps this case is not quite so bad as others. The wipes themselves do actually biodegrade in the end. The paper contains a chemical known as a 'wet strength resin' which is what stops the wipes falling apart to mush in the packet, or your fingers going through them like a wet tissue. But this wet strength effect doesn't last indefinitely. The packaging is more of a problem. But someone terminally ill, perhaps in an infectious risking environment like a hospital, seems more justified in using them than e.g. the rest of us at the end of a meal in a restaurant, say.

Millie8 Wed 03-Oct-18 12:25:09

How about a selection of old fashioned sweets she remembers with fondness and might tickle her tastbuds.
Here's wishing her all the best.