Last month, completely out of the blue, I was told I had a Lymphoma (blood cancer), which came as a terrible shock. I went to pieces for a couple of weeks and was very grateful for the support of a few close friends who I have known for nearly 50 years and some I have known only a few years. I told my OH, and he has been driving me to lots of hospital appointments nearly 30 miles away. I have told my 2 adult children and my teenage GD but cannot bring myself to tell my elderly mum, who will be 89 at the end of this month and had a replacement heart valve op in June. She is recovering well all by herself at her house, 70 miles away and refuses to have any help (stubborn or what?) but I don’t want to worry her unnecessarily! My latest prognosis is promising - cancer is non-aggressive and is hopefully very treatable, but I now have to wait 2 weeks for the results of yesterday’s hip biopsy whilst they test my bone marrow to rule out any other problems. I will, hopefully, then know exactly what treatment I have to have. They have suggested Radiotherapy as opposed to Chemo, so that is (apparently) Good News! I am still trying to decide When or If to tell my Mum. I seem to remember her being in hospital several times when I was a teenager without telling her Mum and we were told NOT to mention it to any neighbours, friends etc, ever! I definitely have appreciated the support of my friends, but not sure I could cope with my Mum constantly worrying via phone calls. And I certainly don’t want her to be taken ill again with worry. Have I done the right thing?