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Husband reluctant to meds

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Luckygirl Sat 02-Feb-19 10:23:02

Presumably he willingly takes his BP each day - which seems strange if he is not prepared to act on the result.

I really think there is little you can do - if you go on about it too much I guess he will dig his heels in. But you could talk about your wills and how you might manage if he died, or how you might finance a residential or nursing home if he became ill long term. Maybe that might focus his mind.

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maddyone Sat 02-Feb-19 10:18:01

I posted before I finished, so to continue, I simply don’t know what to do. He refuses to go to the doctor, and refuses to take his medication regularly. His blood pressure is very high. I’m so afraid that he will suffer a stroke or heart attack if this continues, yet whatever I say, he simply carries on like this. I have enough worries with our daughter and grandchildren without this worry as well, and I fear that if anything happens to him, I will end up blaming our daughter as we both worry about her so much.
I don’t know what to do. He will not listen to reason, so at the moment I’m not saying anything at all, but that doesn’t bring about any change in his behaviour either.
I realise men don’t like going to the doctor, I think they think it’s some kind of failing in themselves, but actually high blood pressure is sadly one of the effects of getting older. He is not overweight, doesn’t smoke, almost never drinks alcohol, and as I said before, he is an active and busy person. Does anyone else have this problem, and what on earth should I do about it?

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maddyone Sat 02-Feb-19 10:07:14

Hi everyone, I’m just wondering if anyone has this problem. About three years ago my husband was diagnosed with high (very) blood pressure. He was prescribed medication to control it. He was extremely reluctant to take it, declaring he could easily control it by going running. He did go running for about two/three weeks which did bring the BP down, but of course he didn’t keep up the running and the blood pressure rose. He regularly ‘forgot’ or refused to take the medication. I took over giving him his tablet each day at the same time as I took my medication, and for a while this worked, but he started to get irritated by this saying I was trying to ‘control’ him. I gave the tablets back, but again he regularly ‘forgot’ his medication and said he didn’t really need it and would take it every other day instead of every day! When I was giving him his medication his blood pressure was controlled, when he was responsible for it, his blood pressure was not controlled. Added to this, we have an adult child who has mental health issues and regularly causes problems in the family. When these problems occur, his blood pressure rises alarmingly and he gets very bad headaches along with the high blood pressure. In fact his blood pressure has been so high recently that I suggested he took two of his tablets (I’m on the same medication but at double his dose) and if that worked he could ask the doctor to increase his dose. He did take double dose for a few days and gradually his blood pressure came down. He is now back on one tablet or no tablet and his blood pressure is back up. He simply doesn’t want to take the medication and all reasoning is a waste is of my breath because he simply says I’m trying to control him.
My husband is an active man, always busy in the garden, around the house, fixing things in our three children’s houses, walking our daughter’s dog etc. From time to time he declares he is going to run every day to control his blood pressure, but that only ever lasts a few days. I have suggested joining a gym, playing golf with our son at the weekend, joining a walking football team, etc but he refuses.

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