OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

^ or is there some serious flaw in this system!?^

There is.
and God forbid anyone should be ill at a weekend or a Bank Holiday.

Oh dear, poor DH and poor you
Well done to the carer too.

Doc arrived and removed massive faecolith from rectum - a very messy and uncomfortable procedure - apparently since 2018 this is a medical procedure and a nurse cannot do this. He also administered another phosphate enema which we are of awaiting results. Thankfully carer has just arrived and will deal with the aftermath and help to change the bed, - whole place smells like a sewer. OH has no sense of smell - lucky man.

Doc does not feel there is any obstruction further up the system thank goodness.

OH's pain now much reduced.

Good for that doc! - but should it have been such a tortuous process to get it sorted?

Lucky, how are things now ?

It is hard to believe that of all the experts out there there isnt one who knows what to do. I would certainly dial 999 and get your DH into hospital where they should be able to sort this out. Shocking that the district nurse cannot help. They are amazing in our area and come out on Bank Holidays and Sundays.
I do hope the doctor has now been and sorted your DH out.

Luckygirl I should not be writing this on an open forum but here goes. If God forbid the same happens again, ring 999, state where he is getting pains but not the cause of them. Tell the ambulance crew the possible cause when they arrive and actually see the state he is in.

To think there is another BH at the end of this month. I do realise that people may only be unwell at certain times and BHs are not part of them.

Please look after yourself if that is possible.

I'm so sorry lucky, hope the doctor has been and is sensible. Would one of your family have enough energy for an official complaint? Sending love to you both.

'Farce' - yes, isn't it! But it's not funny, and potentially tragic. I hope a doctor did turn up, listened and acted accordingly.

Ye Gods, words certainly fail me Lucky

Bloody hell, lucky, no one would believe that if you wrote it. Your poor dh and definitely poor you.

Keep us posted!

Hope the doctor has arrived. As the district nurse says he needs to go to AE. If the doctor does not arrive soon ring for ambulance and insist he goes in because of the obstruction. He has been in pain for how long? Threaten with legal action if necessary.
Best wishes, Lucky girl.

Oh Lucky , words fail ..............

Well here's farce to brighten your bank holiday......

- OH has severe constipation (usual for him, as his gut motility is buggered by the PD).
- after no action for about 9 days, district nurse gives phosphate enema last Thursday.
- very little result, but severe abdominal and particularly rectal pain ever since. And there is overflow stool.
- OH goes into fast AF last night - likely to have been caused by pain etc.
- ambulance called and they assessed him as needing to go to A&E.
- gets into ambulance (a huge challenge in itself) and rhythm reverts to normal, so they reverse the process and get him back in bed, and help me change pad - conveen had fallen off.
- sleepless night - OH in pain.
- he is still in pain this morning so rang district nurse who says she can do nothing and to get him into hospital.
- rang 111 and went through their tortuous process, answering the same questions over and over again.
- 111 assess (with their silly algorithm) and call ambulance
- 3 paramedics arrive and are pleasant enough but cannot do anything - they kept suggesting senna and other things which are not appropriate to OH's situation or indeed to their role.
- they ring district nurse and get the same response as I did.
- they ring 111 (what!!??) which is where we came in, and eventually persuade them to get an actual doctor to make contact.
- doc rings - and grasps the situation (i.e that it is not a random bloke grumbling about constipation, but someone who needs properly assessing for potential obstruction) - but he is ringing from the "hub" about 50 miles away!
- he will contact a local doctor who will come within 6 hours.

And people wonder why I think I am going mad - is it me, or is there some serious flaw in this system!?

Wondering how you are Lucky. I see the thread about the petition and the number of signatures are rising, but we need to raise awareness.

I know you will cope, but that's not the point when it's to the detriment of your health and wellbeing is it? It's not good enough. Warm wishes. x

Oh Lucky it doesn't seem to be getting any easier for you, does it? I agree with others that you really must find a way to go to your festival - you so desperately need a break. And you deserve one too.

I haven't checked into this thread for a few days now, but you have been in my thoughts constantly. You and a few others on GN who are in desperate circumstances ???

Lucky we never had to put it on , in fact when it fell off we just couldn't do it , the carer that settled OH at night did the needful !

She did not!

I hope she did not pay for that stuff!

Indeed - I have a bucket planned for tonight!

My DD has just picked up a huge bin liner bag full of bags and conveens and stuff to last a month - let us hope we are successful in putting it on!!

The only useful advice I was given by a particularly unhelpful nurse was to put the drainage bag into bucket. Any buckets to hand? Absolutely you should go away. It will be good for you bot. (But especially you!)

It's remarkable what you can get from Amazon. But it should never have been up to you to get them for him. Full marks to you for your foresight.

Oh dear, Lucky.

Oh Luckygirl ? ???

Oh dear luckygirl I continue to send kind and supportive thoughts to you and your DH

I am beginning to despair of the NHS - so good in a crisis, so hopeless with the day-to-day stuff.

OH has not had his BO for at least 8 days. District nurse comes yesterday and administers microlax enema with nil result. Arranged for her to come back today with a phosphate enema. She arrives - can't get hold of one - been to surgery - they do not have any, so proposes to try microlax again, and then try to get a phosphate one for TUESDAY!!!!

I managed to get my hands on a phosphate one and she is administering it right now - I sent off to amazon the other day to get some just in case. But the idea it could wait till next Tuesday by which time he would no have performed for 2 weeks seems just crazy!!!

Our lives are currently ruled by bodily functions! - oh joy, oh rapture!!!

Well - conveen fitted by hospice nurse yesterday and - guess what? - dry bed last night!!!

BUT I messed up with the outlet on the bag and the carpet was soaked!!!