OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

Good morning lucky.I hope you manage to get somewhere today arranging care for you and your husband.Hope you managed to get some sleep.?

Good Morning Lucky I hope you got the District nurse on the case this morning
More important I hope you got some sleep xxxxxxx

Good morning Lucky. Hope today is the turning point and you get some effective help at last.

Morning lucky, I hope you had a good night and things start moving in the right direction today with regard to care.

Thank you.

Hope you are able to sleep tonight lucky, wishing you both well.

My heart goes out to you both in such difficult circumstances. I know how mentally exhausting it can be struggling to do the best for your loved one and coping with professionals when you are tired and vulnerable and who sadly seem to be more mindful of restricting funding than meeting a person's (legitimate) needs. I have been shocked by the ignorance of some social and NHS staff and the way they have interpreted the rules, and indeed the law. I do hope you have some caring professionals to deal with you and your OH and hope you get a suitable care package sorted out without further hassle. You seem to have a good DN at least. I wish I had been more assertive when dealing with similar for my mother, but I just rolled over in the end, tired out. Best wishes.

Yes that's it , hope it helps xxx

Is this a convene? Might be worth trying at night. I will ask the nurse when she comes in - hopefully tomorrow.

Someone mentioned a Catheter earlier in the thread , an external catheter at night might work , it helped us for a while , ask the District Nurse
Glad you got some sleep , your husband is being as helpful as he can , which is so good

So pleased to read that you got some sleep, I continue to send kind thoughts

Lucky what a difficult situation you are in, your love for your partner and willingness to go several extra miles is wonderful.
Accept help when its offered, sleep when you can. Make sure you take time to eat and drink enough. I hope you can get help to improve the situation for both of you.

I slept last night - TBH I took half a sleeper. OH agreed that he would not wake me unless situation was dire. But he is soaking wet this morning.

The person coming tomorrow is the manager of a private care agency whom I have contacted to put in care for him. I am also expecting to hear from the continuing care funding bods about their decision on how all this is to be paid for. At the moment I will just pay for it out of his savings. We had to get him home (even for a short while) as his mental health was suffering greatly and

He is pleased to be here in spite of the difficulties - he is much much less confused and has his loved ones round him. If we had not brought him home he would have still been in there this time next week.

Luckygirl
Just thinking of your DH, you and your family, and hoping circumstances will improve very soon.
You are blessed to have such sweet daughters to help you.
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I'm awake reading through the posts and thinking you must be exhausted and utterly drained. It's just not right that you are being left to take total care of your DH. Is there anyone who would take a turn at sitting up with him and letting you have a sleep? You are a loving, caring wife but the expectation that you can take charge of his nursing care is unrealistic and not fair on either of you. Hugs

Lucky when we were looking after MiL, we had a terrible night with her and our district nurse was able to arrange for a carer to come and stay overnight so we could sleep. There was no charge for this, and it made a huge difference.
Perhaps that might be a possibility?

Don't try to be heroic - show them that you just will not be able to cope without making yourself ill too.
and some tlc for you too.

Lucky I almost drove myself to exhaustion looking after my mum on barely any sleep, so I do understand how drained of energy you must be. In your shoes I would be making a case for the maximum help possible.

Lucky I am so desperately sorry for the situation you and your DH find yourselves in. No words of wisdom or advice, sadly, but just want you to know you continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

I agree with Charleygirl that breaking down in tears at the meeting on Tuesday is the way to go - stoicism is not what you need to show them, no matter how much of an inbuilt trait it is for you. ((((hugs)))) xxx

Oh luckygirl I do hope you get help soon and some sleep

What happens if you get ill Lucky? You can’t go on like this for sure. So sorry for your plight. Hugs. Lots.

Could you get a private carer for one or two nights to give you a rest?

So sorry to see what a hard time you are having , no sleep certainly takes it's toll .
Contact the District Nurse , she should provide incontinence products , they do make such a difference
Sadly the carers can't come when needed they have a schedule , whether it suits or not , they should have been set in place before he came home , it is physically hard work , never mind the wear and tear on the nerves

So sorry to hear you are exhausted. Would it not help him to have a catheter fitted? When my dad became incontinent it was a life saver.
I hope you have a better night tonight although it is a long time until Tuesday.

no words - just hugs.