Just thought I would feed back on the live-in care situation, in case anyone else ever feels the need.
We had the first carer for just over 2 weeks - an interesting lady, tri-lingual and very Mediterranean in her fieriness. We now have carer 2 and she is a strange person altogether; early 40s, and appears to have no home and literally lives out of one suitcase, going from live-in to live-in and from one hotel to another; and in her long breaks she volunteers in an orphanage in Haiti. Certainly rather unexpected, but she is very efficient indeed in meeting OH's care needs. She just sits in her room in between bursts of activity. I suspect she is on the autistic spectrum, but seems to have made a satisfying life for herself. I am trying to make her feel at home as she is doing a good job with OH and will do anything at all you ask of her. She has just changed my bed for me, which is a godsend.
It does feel odd having these strangers in and around the house, but it is all part of life's rich pattern, and an unexpected turn of events in our lives, which we have to accept in order that OH should get proper care. He is a bit better than he was last week when he thought I was trying to poison him and threatened me with his grabber. We have been jiggling the meds about to try and improve this.
Tomorrow I am going to look into the possibility that I might be able to get legal representation over health funding via my house insurance policy.
annsixty you are of course right that the health services cannot afford to fund all those to whom it has a legal obligation. The whole system is a mess, but no political party is willing to get a grip on it.