OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

Thinking of you Lucky take care.

Yes, it's been a while since she posted, but when she returns she'll be able to read the messages which show we've been thinking of her all along. (((*Lucky*)))

It's been a while since we heard from her. I hope things are OK or at least as OK as possible under the circumstances.

Morning Lucky, hope you are ok.

You've been constantly in my thoughts Lucky. I hope you are all right

Thinking of you <3

luckygirl have just found this thread and read through it all. I am appalled at the way you and your DH are being treated. I have no words of advice not having been in this situation so all I can offer is to hold you both in my prayers and hope that a suitable offer of help is forthcoming soon

Yes. We are old hands now at this benefits business - unfortunately

Lazigirl, does your mum receive attendance allowance? And pension credit? Age UK gives good advice.

Can't win Really.

That is probably the case Lazigirl - they get you all ways.

This is useful information for a lot of people Callistemon and I have thought about claiming for my mother who has dementia and has carers, which are partly funded by the council. Problem being if she got relief from council tax, she'd be reassessed and pay more for her care! Can't win Really.

You may know about this already, Luckygirl but there was a feature on the tv news the other evening about people with PD and other medical problems not having to pay council tax or being eligible for paying at a reduced rate if there is another person living there. I'm not sure if this would apply to you, but if so and you have not applied, this could help towards the expense of paying for home care.

^Reduction scheme for disabled people
If there is someone (adult or child) living in a household who is substantially and permanently disabled the council tax bill for the property may be reduced. The reduction is made by charging council tax on a lower valuation band than the one the property is in. For example, if the property is in band D, the council tax bill will be worked out as if it were in band C. This reduction also applies to dwellings in band A. The reduction will be the same proportion of the council tax bill as the properties in the higher bands.
www.citizensadvice.org.uk/housing/council-tax/council-tax/

The tv report did make it sound as if no council tax needed to be paid and that this is not widely known or publicised.

Hope you enjoyed lots of hugs and fun with your GS yesterday. Just the thing to restore you. Take good care of yourself. x

No practical advice Luckygirl but I have been holding you and your DH and family in my thoughts, and your whole situation is just shocking and frightening and I am beyond words! for all of you, and hugs. xx

What a dreadful state of affairs Luckygirl. I do hope you’ll be able to find a way through all of this that has your husband’s best interest at heart.

Morning lucky, I hope you are fresher after a day 'off'.

Luckygirl I am another who resorted to writing to her MP when I faced a wall of bureaucracy, a paper-chase, constant delays and being shoved from pillar to post and no progress being made in a dire situation. Within a day of my MP's letter arriving on the CEO's desk, a bed was found for me.

I am sure if your MP saw some of your posts here which outline the terrible service and lack of care your OH has received, s/he would be horrified.

I hope you are able to switch off for a while and relax.

Luckygilr, hoping you feel restored somewhat by the time spent with your little GS today. Better news from the hospital too I hope.

Once, in much less serious situation, I found out the names of all the governors of the hospital's Trust and emailed them separately. It did help that I knew some of them. Your best course is the PD consultant who knows your husband well.

same here, and no square brackets to send flowers and cake, and gin and tonic -so hugs xxx

Oh Luckygirl. I can't say more than the others have.

Lucky what can I say, so sorry for what you are going through sounds so inadequate. You were so helpful to me with advice on here over a year ago when I was going through similar with my mother (and still am) It is sheer hell, and financial considerations have over ridden any sort of humanity or care from so called professionals, as I have found to my immense cost. The only way to cope is time out, as you are doing. I hope things improve for your OH, and suitable care will be agreed. It is terrible to have to fight for our loved ones like this.

Oh goodness Lucky, I have only just caught up with the goings on that you have had to endure.
I am so sorry for how you and MrL have been treated.
Sorry that I cannot add any help, but do hope that with the help of people 'in the know' , you may get the results that you want and need.
Best wishes for today and gentle {{{hugs}}}

Lucky (((hugs)))

Lucky,am so sorry for the awful way you and your husband are being treated and glad that you have the support of your daughters.Try and enjoy the respite today while they visit and have a lovely time with your little grandson.
I have had success in a situation when I contacted my MP,amazing how quickly action was taken.
Thinking of you?