OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

How lovely and how sad, lucky.

lucky .

Lucky what a lovely man your OH must be.
I hope you both have the support and care you need and deserve.

That's a very moving tribute Lucky. As Bagatelle has said up-thread, perhaps you might contact Marie Curie, who offer a 'hospice care at home' service.

Luckygirl, I’m sad to read your last post but so pleased that you were able to have that bit of conversation with your husband. What a tribute to the value he places on your marriage and a comment to keep in your heart. Thinking of you

Have you tried Marie Curie?

www.mariecurie.org.uk/help

Thinking of you.

Mine, too Lucky x

Both you and your husband and are in my thoughts, Lucky.

I agree with what Tuppnce says, you do need to see the Palliative Care Consultant. To see what help he can be given. Not sure if it is still the same as when I nursed palliative patients but priority was given to patients, such as your dh, so that they could be at their place of choice (whether that is hospital, hospice or home). As he says he wishes to go home this should be prioritised and there should be a care agency, with both qualified nurses and health care assistants, who can take on care for patients at home at very short notice. The district nursing service can also provide support and help, should it be needed.
I reiterate what has been said before, please look after yourself, as I know it can be very easy to put all your energy into caring for a loved one and forget to look after yourself.
For you, prayers and ? xx

You are indeed lucky to be able to have had your conversation today. These moments of lucidity will mean the world to you in months to come.
But at a practical level, do ask to see the Palliative Care Consultant at your hospital.
There is much that can be done for you both to improve your DH’s quality of life andondeed your own. You do not have to cope with this alone.

Oh Luckygirl, that brought tears and actually you are very, very lucky to have loved and been loved by a man who would like to do it all over again.

(((Hugs)))

Lucky,

He was slightly less paranoid this evening and talked of knowing he was going to die and wanting to come home first. I do not know how this can be organised but will try and see what can be done.

The last thing he said to me as I left was "I wish we could do it all over again." It is such an emotional rollercoaster and I am so exhausted - I have no idea how I managed to drive home from the hospital.

Thank you all for your support.

Thinking of you luckygirl

This is so difficult for you Lucky, just when you thought things were going to be a tiny bit easier. I'm so sorry you find yourself in this situation. Sending you love and wishes for the strength to make the right decision

Just take a day at a time and see how the week unfolds. Wishing you courage ,strength , love and peace.x

A hard day indeed lucky, I’m so sorry. Sending love and strength.

Luckygirl be guided by the specialists and your heart. I am thinking of you all.

Luckygirl I am so sorry that DH is in such a state. It must be extremely painful for you and you daughters to see him like this and feel he is giving up. I imagine he is very weak.

I hope your instincts will guide you in to making the right decisions on his behalf and that caring support and good advice is there for you in the hospital. I am thinking of you.

Luckygirl You are surrounded by many good wishes from us all. It is so difficult to know what is best but hopefully it may become clearer in a short while. You sound like a very compassionate and sensible partner.

So sorry Lucky, I don't think you should try to second guess his wishes, there comes a time when life is unsupportable in my view. I agree with Massimo.
I hope you find strength and love with your family, take care.

Lucky sending you hugs, love and strength. You have the love of your daughters to lean on but we are here too!!.

Thinking of you and your daughters lucky and wishing you all strength?

{flowers] and kind thoughts