OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

That's good, lucky, and thank goodness!

I can only echo what others have said. What a relief though. I hope he (and you!) can have a calmer more restful time and recover from the trauma of the past week.

I echo what ga said, lucky. I expect you will feel very tired now so great as much as possible.

What relief you must feel Lucky, now that you can slip back into your 'wifely' role, rather than trying to police Mr. Lucky's care.

A possible down side of this may be that you feel slightly more emotional as you process all that's happened recently; it wouldn't be in the least surprising as I suspect you've been running on adrenaline for quite some time. Be kind to yourself and take care.

That is a relief for you and the family.

I hope you manage to get a good night's sleep knowing that he is now in safe hands.

Excellent news after such a stressful week. At last he's somewhere calm and he's being taken care of. You must be exhausted so try to get some sleep. x

You must be so relieved, Luckygirl. Hope you manage to sleep and that tomorrow is less stressful.

I am so pleased he has been moved and the atmosphere is totally different. I am ever hopeful he will have a night's sleep and he will be cared for.

I hope that you have been able to eat some food and you also manage to settle down and get a night's sleep. It has been hell on earth this last week for both of you.

At least there will not be a frenetic rush to get there tomorrow- you can take your time because you know he is being cared for.

Pheeew- so glad for you all. Hope you get some sleep tonight x

So much better lucky, you’ve done so well to get your husband to a calm space. Sleep well, you deserve to.

Lucky I am so pleased to read your latest update. What a tremendous relief it must be for you both that he is now somewhere calm, somewhere he will be properly cared for, with someone in charge who knows him and his needs. And away from the awful, frenetic and uncaring environment he was in before.

I hope you will now be able to relax this evening, get an early night and a decent amount of restorative sleep. Love and (((hugs))) to you xxx

That is so much better for your poor OH , I hope you get some rest tonight xxx

Luckygirl my heart bleeds for you both. I hope you can both have some respite on this ward. I have been thinking of you so much.

What a blessing Luckygirl. Hopefully you and him have a restful night for once.

That's such good news
Hoping that you sleep well tonight

He has moved to the new ward. It is an age care ward, not a specific PD ward, but the PD consultant is in charge there and knows OH very well indeed.

I cannot tell you how different the atmosphere is in there. The other 3 men have varying degrees of dementia, but are not over-loud. The nurses are not dashing back and forth doing obs, putting up drips etc. etc. It is very calm. The nurses are kind and considerate and take time to talk to the patients - one was even kneeling on the floor by a patient's bed so that she could hold his hand and hear him better. There is a nurse sitting in this bay about 75% of the time.

OH himself is a bit muddled - he is on a new drug to try and calm his paranoia, and we have to see how this might suit him. He is still paranoid, but more calmly so. In between his fearful thinking he is rational and thoughtful and we have been able to talk about the future and what his wishes are. And to reminisce a bit about our life together.

They let him stay in bed where he is comfortable and rested and have not been lugging him about to try and mobilise.

I feel a great deal happier about him being there.

Thank goodness for the PD. consultant lucky. A quiet, caring space will make such a difference to your husband and to you all. I’m hoping it was possible to move your husband today and you can now rest a bit.

I also hope it's today, your updates make me want to cry for you both (I'm not given to weeping as a rule), I continue to send kind thoughts

Will it be today? I do hope so.

So pleased to hear your DH is being moved to a PD ward Lucky. At least there they will be able to administer the right drugs at the right time while keeping an eye on him.

That seems like a far happier solution for your husband to be with someone who knows his medical history, who knows you both. You must feel very relieved that she will oversee his care.

As horrible and unacceptable as the situation was regarding the non-move to rehab, it seems that moving to the PD ward will be a much better outcome for you both. In time to come, when you're feeling stronger and able to tackle it, I do agree that a formal complaint, using your posts from here and any additional information, is in order.

Pleased to hear he is not being treated as "pass the parcel" and he will require and receive decent care on the new ward and with luck you will not feel as though you should be there 24/7. I am hoping that your mind is more rested since the last discussion.

I dread to think what DH's mental state is at present but with love, care and attention he also hopefully will relax.

Thank you all. OH's PD consultant, who is lovely and whom we both trust implicitly has rung me twice this morning. She apologised that the rehab plan was just thrown at us by a discharge nurse without either my OH or his family being given the chance to discuss this.

We did discuss this on the phone and she was clear about the fact that he might not be able to benefit from rehab because he is simply too ill and frail; also about the poor prognosis for someone like him following such major surgery. A bed has become available on her ward, which is quieter with open visiting and where she can oversee his care. From there we can have time to discuss the next step, which is likely to be some sort of care here at home, which is undoubtedly what he will want.

I am waiting for her to ring back about this. I do not think rehab is appropriate as he has neither the strength nor the mental will to gain from this. I feel it is the right way forward and have said this. We wait and see.

Oh Lucky I am so sorry that your poor husband has been treated in this way. Please do as others have advised and inform as many people as possible. No one deserves this kind of treatment, whatever happened to care, compassion and kindness. The NHS may have it's problems but there is no excuse for this kind of treatment.
Big hugs to you and your daughters.