OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

I hope your DH starts to pick up now he's taking some food. It will cheer him up enormously having you there to encourage and support him. Take care of yourself too.

that sounds like a nightmare ward ! I hope you manage some rest tonight and that OH gets his meds

You must be exhausted, Luckygirl. Hospital visiting is tiring at the best of times but you have more than your fair share on your plate.

Hope you manage to get a good night's sleep once your tea time vigil is over. Please take care of yourself is easier said than done, I know.

I have been with him all day till now as the nurses sometimes forget his PD meds - I do not blame them; he needs them at regular times that are not drug trolley times and they are frantically busy. I am going back for 5.30 to help him eat his tea - he has a slight swallowing problem and the nurses do not have the time to help him get stuff down slowly.

He has pulled out his naso-gastric tube - and who can blame him! He does not really need it - he just needs people with enough time to help him get the food down slowly.

I will go back in to help him with his tea, then come home for a moment's peace - he is in a 4-bedded ward and the man next to him (who has been in since Day One) bellows - and I truly mean bellows! - at max volume - sometimes in pain, but the rest of the time, totally non-stop, he is treating the poor patients to a machine-gun rate of max volume ramblings - peppered with army slang! He is a bit of a Hooray Henry (ex-army and ex-barrister from what I can gather), so it is all done in the poshest of accents. When his family came in on the first day they thought he should have a room of his own - well, blooming well pay for it please! - and are very demanding of the staff. I admire their patience, I really do.

I agree with grannyqueenie his younger, inner self is definitely coming through and he is trying to fight the latest buggeration. He knows exactly what is happening to him!

I hope he slept well and the ward is not too noisy. The one I was on last year was worse than a train station.

I hope you are getting some rest.

Thank you for the updates lucky, as much as I want to say to you let others look after you I understand your need to be busy. Hope you and your husband can rest well tonight. Love to you both.

Hope you get some refreshing sleep tonight, lucky, you must be exhausted in every possible way. But isn’t the human spirit tenacious, your description of such a frail man showing those signs of his younger fitter self are amazing!

Have only just caught up with your difficult news. Thinking of you and your DH. Hope you get some sleep.

I expect you're aware that hospitals don't always appreciate the importance of taking PD meds on time. My husband was diagnosed five years ago, and so we do know some of the problems involved. I do hope the surgery goes well, and that he is safely back home soon. X

Lovely that you have your girls looking after you. You must be exhausted, do hope you manage to get some sleep.

Thank you - I drop off OK, but when I wake early it all goes round in my head. I am better busy and just getting on with things. It is sad to see him as he is and I need to be distracted from that. But I will get there.

I hope you sleep better tonight

Strange method of taking his temperature!?
I thought everybody used the instant thingy in the ear method. Much more hygienic.
But glad his spirit is intact

He has been asleep most of the day and could not be roused for his tea. I have just come from the hospital and again he was difficult to rouse. But I think the "Old OH" is still intact as he did say one or two lucid things: .....
- I asked if he was in pain and he said: "Only when those two harpies arrive and lug me about" - I assume he meant the nurses.
- "I wish I could put my hands on your body" - I do hope he is not saying that to the nurses!
- when someone was trying to take his temp under his arm he said: "What are you doing? It is most uncomfortable. I really wish you wouldn't."

I hope your OH's recovery is still going well and you are feeling more optimistic and rested.

Luckygirl the only way now is up and hopefully he will feel better each day. The practical side will be difficult because if he now has a THR he will not be able to lie on either side for 6 weeks. I wonder if the staff will attempt to stand him today or if he is too weak.

So pleased to hear that your daughters are taking care of you. You must be strong for the time he is discharged. I would think he will stay in longer because his femoral muscles will be weak. At least he has the knowledge of what he can and cannot do.

Thank you for the kind words.

I am extraordinarily exhausted - I think it is the emotional energy. Lovely DDs are feeding me and chauffeuring me.

Best wishes to you both Luckygirl.
I'm pleased that the operation went well and hope that he is not in too much pain now.
Do take care of yourself too - and try to accept any help that is offered.

Lucky you must be exhausted but don't ever doubt that you've been a good carer. Your love for your dh has always been obvious.
Sending best wishes for your husband, look after yourself too and do
let your dds give their love and support.

Thanks for the update Lucky. I hope you managed to get some sleep and are feeling less battle weary this morning. The practical stuff is sometimes easy compared to the emotional exhaustion that develops over time - and you've been in the thick of it for a long time now.

Thanks Charley - they have replaced his hip completely as it was a displaced fracture within the capsule. Bizarrely when he fell I did not think he had broken anything as at that point he was not in much pain. We were contemplating how we might get him off the floor when he said (he was a doctor) that one leg was shorter and he thought he had fractured his femur, so asked for an ambulance.

Later that day it really did start to hurt, but I am hoping that it might be a bit less painful now the the op is done with. They are only giving him tiny doses of painkillers as he is so small and frail.

Luckygirl now that his now stabilised femur has been pinned and plated so he should feel marginally more comfortable with hopefully only the immediate post-op pain with which to contend.

Please, please look after yourself.

Thank you all so much for your kind messages. I am about to ring hospital to see how he is now; and then will take it from there.

Thinking of you and OH - hope he is improving

Lucky, thinking of you here too, as I imagine many of us on GN have been.