Black dog gang

Yes, church is my refuge. Things are running fairly smooth at the moment (family wise). I'd hate to sound like a preacher, but church certainly helped ....in short, I prayed so hard that things will improve. Don't get me wrong..it's not all sweetness and light.....but much better than it was.

nonnie, are you confusing what you think your daily readings expects of you and what you expect from your self?

No bible bashing but the following is for me

‘He has shown thee oh man what is good and what the Lord requires of thee , do justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with thy God’

No great expections ? be gentle with yourself nonnie, there has only been one perfect human being

Yes thank you for sharing Annie I have heard EMDR is the best therapy you can have.

More of use than me wittering on

www.healthline.com/health/emdr-therapy#effectiveness

I have not used the term misery pond and as a fellow sufferer of depression I would never say such a thing.

I was wondering about people sharing disturbing stories on a public forum.

Never mind.

Thank you Dragonfly Reiki this afternoon, again recommend by MIND.

Know something about it, just hope it doesn’t start with the question - ‘what is your problem ‘ ,

Answer - agoraphobia, depression, general anxiety, OCD, IBS, dislocated knee, athritic hands, stomach ulcer .

She will race out the front door ?

So can I have an apology re " misery pond" which I never ever said.

Therapy is confidential between client and therapist and not intended to be shared.

Sorry Lily you did refer to misery pond ,it hurt.

No matter. Sharing helps , there has been nothing disturbing spoken of here which could cause great interest to anyone who doesn’t have mental health problems , and a fact, mental health problems have been kept behind closed doors for too long, should hip replacement, Diabetes not be spoken of ? Do you not read the many threads here on physical problems, family problems etc, no difference .

Well said Annie!!! I for one am so pleased we share what we do on hear.. it certainly helps me. Every one is more than welcome, If people don’t like us saying what we feel, then please don’t read and go else where.

I think it is a personal decision whether to share what has been said between patient and therapist. Some may wish to and some my not, neither is right or wrong.

A bit of both Annie. Daily reading tells me how I should be (probably means an aspiration but doesn't put it like that) and I know I cannot be that person. I don't blame anyone else for how I am, I am an adult and must take responsibility but the hardest part is not being able to get myself well. DH has just said to go back to the doctor but I can't see what he can do to help.

I do hope everyone feels able to share as much or as little as they want on here. I find it hard to share details but have time and understanding for those who can.

I think you share much nonnie

I totally agree with you Nannie it is a personal decision, we are all adults. Hi Annie hope you are ok today enjoy your Reili.. I don’t know how I feel again to day the morning is taking some shaking off . Rain doesn’t help could do with some nice warm sun ..?

Whoop whoop Annie. Well done! I was thinking of you yesterday and so much hoped that you'd managed to get down into your garden. No matter that you went to talk to son-in-law that isn't, you did it and that's all that matters. You can do it by yourself. I find singing a happy song over in my mind helps to distract the negative thoughts. Concentrate on something you can see in the distance and go for it! You'll be so proud of yourself and so will I.
For those that find it so hard to get to sleep, I do too. I think of everything that's happened in the past, most of which I can't do anything about and I know it's wasted energy. The heart tightens and the adrenalin flows but recently I've taken Kalms Night time about an hour before bed and they do work most nights. Also breathing in deeply and breathing out slowly has a calming effect. I also, with your eyes closed, picture in my mind, a car driving through a country road. The hours and days we waste worrying about things we can't change and things that might never happen don't we. As the saying goes, If ifs and ands were pots and pots and pans, they'd be no money for beggars. Sending positive thoughts to you all and Annie, get those garden shoes on, Go on.......

This thread is really helping me. I haven't posted much on it but just reading it helps. Especially Annies posts. Thank you x

I suspect many of us don't feel we can share everything, partly in case someone we would prefer not to, reads it and partly because it hurts too much. I think it is fine for us all to share what we feel we can and it is up to each of us how much that should be.

Any suggestions of suitable therapy, which has worked, would be useful.

Lily65 see your post Sat 27-Apr-19 23:00:28

You are quite right about my post. I have no idea what I was thinking .....I have never heard not used that phrase before. I apologise.

Difficult thing, depression, tends to make people act in a strange way.

Anyway good luck folks with your supporting each other.

How has your day been Annie ? How did your Reiki go Would you recommend it, i imagine it to be very relaxing. I thought about trying it. ?

Hi Maggie hope you have had a good day. Would you mind me asking you how your AH affects you? Please don’t feel you have to answer me I will understand if you would sooner not... I have a bad day to day. Got up and it’s just not left me all day today..

Thank you Humpty. X

wot, keep reading x

sharon , not whoop, whoop today , we have very wet rain in Wales. ?, hang around I have been looking at the mountains and thinking , mmmmmmm

Joce sorry today not good , rain doesn’t help. X

Had reiki, if only all who have trouble getting to sleep, are awake in the night , anxious on waking could have a reiki practitioner on call. I cannot recall feeling so relax , if the fire alarm had gone off I think my reaction would have been
‘oh how inconvenient ‘

Thank you Lucy

Chatting to the reiki practitioner, our local MIND certaintly supports complementary therapies , but not replacing medical treatment, they can work together

Good evening everyone - I can't tell you how it helps me to read all your posts. Annie I hope the Reiki helped, do tell us how you got on. crazyH, I'm hoping that church might provide a sense of belonging and safety too - the world is a scary place to me sometimes. The people who know me would be amazed because I appear confident and not afraid to speak up.

Joce, of course I don't mind you asking, it helps me to discuss things with a fellow sufferer. I'm so sorry you've had a bad day. I've been at work but without that distraction, things would be a whole lot harder. Now I'm at home alone, the thoughts have so much more power. My health anxiety can absolutely paralyse me if I let it (and most times I feel powerless to control it). I'll convince myself that a minor symptom (lumps and bumps are my particular obsession) is cancer and then one thought leads to another. I'll catasrophise and see myself sitting in the consultant's office hearing those dreaded words "you have cancer." I tell myself I'll fall apart and then it's a long devastating illness followed by inevitable death and having to leave my dear daughter without a mother. I look at the people around me and marvel at how they manage to live without being terrified of cancer.

Having been through cancer yourself (and thankfully come out the other side), I can imagine how hard it is for you. Distraction can help (TV and books) and lots of walking the dog. But ultimately I'm left with my crazy thoughts which can render me totally helpless. Does it help to know that you've had cancer and coped with it and are now cured? Does your husband understand your fears and are you able to talk to him? I do hope so but of course we are here for eachother. I'm so tired of feeling like this (I have severe generalised anxiety as well) and just want to wake up in the morning without feeling terrified. How are you feeling now Joce?

It's been a wet day here today and the same for the rest of the week Annie so we'll save whoop whoop! for another day In the meantime, I hope you're blessed with sunny thoughts.

And for you sharon ?

nonnie none of us are ‘good enough’. Even the best fall short. Fortunately, God is on our side. He loves us no matter what. No matter how many times we need forgiveness. No matter how much we let him down. He is there for us. Don’t try and be what you are not. I am a sinner. I have to believe that God will forgive me. nonnie if you are finding it hard to cope don’t struggle on your own just hold out your hand and ask him to help you. I do it myself every day. Every single day. I can’t make it on my own.