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DD will be discharged from hospital this afternoon.

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merlotgran Fri 26-Apr-19 13:34:01

It will be for the last time as there is no further treatment possible other than pain relief. She wants to be at home with all of us so we will do everything we can to make whatever time she has left comfortable and stress free. We will have support from Macmillan and district nurses and should there come a time when we are no longer able to cope, DD has agreed to go into a hospice.

Family support has been wonderful but I have to admit I'm a little scared and very, very sad.

Whiteanemone Sat 27-Apr-19 20:44:51

Sending you love . I’m sure you will find the strength you need. My heart goes out to you and your darling daughter x

phantom12 Sat 27-Apr-19 19:47:40

What an awful position to be in. If I were you I would be wanting to change places with my daughter. All you can do is the best you can manage for her and know that had things been different she would have done the same for you.

Treacletoffee Sat 27-Apr-19 19:45:19

I am so sorry to read this. My thoughts are with you.
My sister came home to die, she was cared for by her husband and my Mum and Dad.
Looking back, l do wonder if she would have been more comfortable in the Hospice but it’s too late now.
Now is not the time to feel self -conscious, let her know how much you love her and say everything you want to say.
The McMillan nurses were a great support to my sisters husband.
It was also important to let people have time alone with her, but of course you know your own situation best

Grandmama Sat 27-Apr-19 19:42:15

Much love and prayers, Merlotgran flowers

nannyof4 Sat 27-Apr-19 19:35:37

Thinking of you and your Daughter at this sad time {flowers}

Shizam Sat 27-Apr-19 19:34:38

So sad for you Merlot and join with all the others in sending you much love and hugs for you, your daughter and family.

Shesanana Sat 27-Apr-19 19:34:31

So sorry merlotgran thinking of you flowers

blue60 Sat 27-Apr-19 18:39:18

I cannot imagine how you feel, and I wish I could say some words that would help, but none would be good enough.

I'm sure you know that you can you can share your thoughts and feelings on here, and everyone will be here for you.

I send you love. xx

grannyactivist Sat 27-Apr-19 18:32:50

merlot there are no words to ease your situation and yet I know from experience that there is some comfort to be had from the kindness of others. You will get through this time because you must and because your daughter needs you - please know that you do so with my prayers and good wishes and, as you see here, those of your Gransnet family who, I have no doubt, will be quietly journeying alongside you at this difficult time. flowers

dorcas1950 Sat 27-Apr-19 18:24:02

Love and prayers Merlot

Rapunzel100 Sat 27-Apr-19 18:21:03

I’m so very sorry to hear this devastating news. As a mum who lost a daughter many years ago, I know the pain you bear. The time you have left is so very precious. Make full use of all the help available (hospice at home etc). The day will come when you can take comfort from the knowledge that you did your best for your cherished daughter and she was able to spend her last days on earth surrounded by love. You are giving her the most wonderful gift.

Nanna58 Sat 27-Apr-19 18:15:34

Can do nothing but send love to you all in this sad, terrible time. You have my sympathy but also my admiration for being such a strong and incredible mother.

Katekeeprunning Sat 27-Apr-19 17:59:24

Merlotgran I'm devastated to read this. Please do not be afraid If your daughter has to go into the hospice. They are amazing places where you can be her mummy and not her carer.

I'm sending you so much love and prayers from across the Irish sea.

Céad Mile Fáilte

grandmaz Sat 27-Apr-19 17:44:05

oh merlot, I cannot imagine how hard this is must be for you. You sound like a wonderful, brave and loving mother and I am sure that your beloved DD will gain so much comfort from knowing that you are with her on this final part of her life's journey. I'm so very sorry that you both have this sorrow to endure...I'm sure that you and your family are in the thoughts and prayers of many of us here as you find your way through these hard times facing you. very much love flowers [hug]x

Floradora9 Sat 27-Apr-19 17:41:05

So sad to hear this . Have you thought of Marie Curie nurses. ? A friend found them so good staying overnight to let her get some rest when her DH was so ill .

chickkygran Sat 27-Apr-19 17:12:56

There are no words Merlot, just to add my thoughts are with you and your daughter and all your family. Sending you strength and love

TyneAngel Sat 27-Apr-19 16:59:26

Just a few more big, gentle hugs and a virtual shoulder,blessings and love to you and your DD. I hope you can feel the warmth and loving feelings that your thread has engendered for you.

Cobweb01 Sat 27-Apr-19 16:53:32

Merlotgran, I can't imagine how you or your daughter are feeling right now. My heart goes out to you both flowers

labazsisslowlygoingmad Sat 27-Apr-19 16:49:11

sending love and prayers

GrandmaMoira Sat 27-Apr-19 16:46:58

Thinking of you.

kathyd Sat 27-Apr-19 16:44:39

Merlotgran how dreadful for you all and so, so sad. I hope you have a calm place to retreat to once in a while and afterwards to recharge your batteries. Thinking of you.

Dragon04 Sat 27-Apr-19 16:39:56

Thinking of you at this sad time flowers

Hollydoilly10 Sat 27-Apr-19 16:34:47

Well done to you at respecting her last wishes.
Rescue remedy which is a combination of flower remedies is safe and will help with your fears

merlotgran Sat 27-Apr-19 16:32:29

Thank you, everyone. So many kind messages. I will read them all properly this evening when hopefully things calm down a bit. It's been a pretty full on day with visits from nurses and family who couldn't come over Easter.

Everything is in place now and DD has settled in to what will be our daily regime from now on.

Thank you all once again.

sweetcakes Sat 27-Apr-19 16:30:13

Merlotgran.
Sorry to hear about your DD try to enjoy your time with her. Take care of yourself ?