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DD will be discharged from hospital this afternoon.

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merlotgran Fri 26-Apr-19 13:34:01

It will be for the last time as there is no further treatment possible other than pain relief. She wants to be at home with all of us so we will do everything we can to make whatever time she has left comfortable and stress free. We will have support from Macmillan and district nurses and should there come a time when we are no longer able to cope, DD has agreed to go into a hospice.

Family support has been wonderful but I have to admit I'm a little scared and very, very sad.

Barmeyoldbat Sat 27-Apr-19 10:31:34

Oh Merlot how awful, I am just so sorry, at least she is able to come home. My best wishes, will think of you tomorrow in quiet time at Friends Meeting. flowers

luluaugust Sat 27-Apr-19 10:22:52

So very sorry my thoughts are with you flowers

breeze Sat 27-Apr-19 10:22:43

Dear merlot flowers

Hm999 Sat 27-Apr-19 10:22:12

Sending love

Teddy111 Sat 27-Apr-19 10:21:42

I am sure your love for her will give you the strength you will need. Thinking of you and all your family.

Laurensnan Sat 27-Apr-19 10:17:33

Merlot I've re written this reply again as there were to many autocorrect errors in my post and I can't delete it.

Laurensnan

Merlot , I witnessed my son go through the same horrendous thing. He was terminally ill with cancer age 26. This was in 2010. It is the most scariest horrendous thing I've ever witnessed or every will witness. The fear and heartbreak is like no other when it is your child. Please message me if you need any friendly support. Thinking of you so much. Jo xx

mtp123 Sat 27-Apr-19 10:16:12

So very sorry to read your very sad post. A truly dreadful time for you all, you are all in my thoughts.

NemosMum Sat 27-Apr-19 10:15:22

Sending you the warmest thoughts Merlot. My first husband wanted to come home from hospice - against medical advice - to spend his last days. I was terrified, but I had help from the district team, co-ordinated by the MacMillan Nurse, and we were able to fulfil his wishes. That was 25 years ago. Nowadays there are multidisciplinary teams for palliative and end-of-life care in most areas. Do not be afraid to ask for any help you need. I hope that you can spend time with your daughter telling her that you love her and remembering good times together. I have lost 2 husbands, but not a child, and I can only imagine how you must feel flowers

EllenT Sat 27-Apr-19 10:13:51

Thinking of you and your family flowers

Laurensnan Sat 27-Apr-19 10:13:16

Merlot , I witnessed my son go through the same, he was terminally ill with cancer age 26. This was in 2010. It is the most scariest horrendous thing I've ever witnessed or every will witness. The dear and heartbreak is like no other when it is your child. Please message me if you need any friendly support. Thinking of you so much. Jo xx

MooM00 Sat 27-Apr-19 10:12:31

Merlot, I feel your pain. My Niece died last November at the age of 30 she had 3 very young children 2, 4, and 6 It was her wish to be at home with her family. She was never left day or night on her own. I live 350 miles away I am pleased to say I managed to be with her a couple of times when she was in her wheelchair and went out. Also I was lucky enough to be there with the rest of the family when she died. So Sad.

25Avalon Sat 27-Apr-19 10:11:56

It is a hard thing you have to do but be assured you will get lots of help and support from the wonderful nurses and in a way peace as you are doing the right thing for your daughter. Make the best of what little time you have left together - it is precious. Love and heart felt prayers.

Mrsh60 Sat 27-Apr-19 10:00:11

God bless Merlot my heart is broke for you x

vickya Sat 27-Apr-19 09:59:32

All the best, Merlot, for you and the family. xxx

Ellylanes1 Sat 27-Apr-19 09:53:17

Thoughts are with you and your family. Bless you all.

Rosepaul Sat 27-Apr-19 09:52:14

My love and thoughts are with you all

dizzygran Sat 27-Apr-19 09:47:39

How heart breaking for you and your family. Your DD has been so brave and now you have to take your lead from her. There may be things she wants to do or see - or a special place she would like to visit if she is able. The coming days are so special for you all. love and wishes

NannyInTheKitchen Sat 27-Apr-19 09:47:09

Thinking of you flowers

Magrithea Sat 27-Apr-19 09:40:34

Sending love and hugs - I know we're all anonymous on here but I can't imagine the pain you must be in. Macmillan will be brilliant and give you lots of support flowers

Mollygo Sat 27-Apr-19 09:40:14

Sending warmest thoughts at this difficult time. How lovely for her that thanks to you she can come home for her remaining time. ?

grannybuy Sat 27-Apr-19 09:39:46

You are going through one of the worst times of your life and I am thinking of you. Your love for her will give you strength.

glammagran Sat 27-Apr-19 09:39:44

There are no words. So sad for you ?

jools1903 Sat 27-Apr-19 09:35:33

So sad, but try and be strong for your daughter flowers

Patticake123 Sat 27-Apr-19 09:32:22

I understand your fear and deep sadness, all I can offer is my deepest sympathy and reassurance that you will be able to give her love and that will be a comfort for all of you. ?

Tamayra Sat 27-Apr-19 09:30:35

Dear Merlot No wonder you are scared & sad You have a time ahead that you will look back on knowing your actions were perfect in the current circumstances & that will bring you comfort in the years ahead
Lighting a candle & intending that it’s light will guide you thro this difficult time
Very much love to you all
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