Does thinking how you feel heighten your anxiety and you feel less motivated

Hi Clio

I too understand as l would have similar feelings due to having bad anxiety and depression at the moment. Had depression for a good while but when l think back that was so manageable and in ways like a dull old pal but anxiety on top in recent times has been a non pleasant real game changer. Gŕrrrrrrr.

Trying everything. However, hard to change your reaction to difficult life circumstances that alot of people experience as they age. Some are not as robust.

Just interested to know does anyone else find socialising difficult when they don't feel great with depression. Also does anyone find that anxiety makes them feel irritable? That is me at the moment even though I try and swallow the irritability as it is not fair to others.

Thinking of everyone who has posted here. Dawn xx

Honestly this could be me you're writing about, my mind also torments me with unwanted thoughts which definitely do heighten my anxiety. I too am anxious, depressed and unmotivated, it's horrendous isn't it! I so wish I had an answer to all this but sadly I don't, just wanted you to know you're not alone x

Do you worry about yourself or others? I am a very anxious person and worry a lot but my worry is always about my children and DGC. If they are ok I’m ok but if they have problems I worry even though it’s out of my control.

I can totally understand how your dark moods and anxiety are ruining your life Clio51 and I can totally relate to your overwhelming feeling of sadness and felt like crying From nowhere

I often break down and cry. Not for any particular reason, just because of the hopelessness of my own situation. I do have an awful lot to be grateful for in my lovely family but sometimes wonder.... there must surely be more than this?

I'm very good at putting on a front when inside I am just breaking in two and I totally understand that feeling of going the motions (like painting your fence). I don't have any friends in real life either, which is hardly surprising when I'm such a misery, who would want to be dragged down ?

I don't mean to hijack your thread just sharing my experiences with you although I do wish I could give you an answer.

You have my utmost sympathy. It is quite inexplicable.
I too feel better in the evenings. I feel the long daylight hours hard to fill in with ‘things’ to do. I also recognise the flatness and lack of motivation too.
The Blackdog Gang on here are very kind and non judgemental. It’s not all doom and gloom! But you will find others who feel the same and it’s is reassuring to know you are not alone.

Hello Clio51 I am 64 I have heath anxiety.. not the same I know but anxiety is in many horrible forms.. come on the black dog thread you will be made welcome, lots in the same place as me and you, lovey gang there for one another..

You do not say who you have, if anyone, in your life. Do you have close relatives or close friends? Do you spend a lot of time alone? My dear grandmother suffered in exactly the way you describe and it broke my heart to see her. If someone is close to you please confide in them. People cannot read our thoughts so you need to speak out - even though others cannot always understand you, they can listen. I send my very best wishes to you and with all my heart hope you can find peace of mind. I do think that mixing with other people could help considerably - perhaps a walking group where you are out in the fresh air. Nature really can help. Or perhaps a pet might help - something or somebody to take your mind off things and to help you feel more positive.

As I’ve said I’ve had it 40 yrs!!!!
Obviously not all the time but the times it’s come back it’s taken over me, so frightening

So as you can imagine I’ve had lots of therapy over the years
Psych
Psychologist
Counselling
Hypnotherapy
Done courses on anxiety
Books
Podcast
Meditation
Yoga
You name it, over the yrs I’ve done it

At the moment I’m coming to the end of doing a CAT therapy
Course.
We’ve made a map of my thinking, and as with anxiety suffers it’s a vicious circle which is hard to crack.
He’s said it’s back to my childhood, when my dad died when I was 18mths old
Also being cheated on and left by my husband to rise a 4 yr old
Also cheated on by current partner 4 yrs ago
So yer suppose it is trauma
So feel rejected, hurt, abandoned and betrayed.
So my anxiety is rife with constantly over thinking cycle
Which as left me so anxious/depressed at times I don’t want to go out or do anything.

Today we’ve been in garden finishing painting fence, my heart wasn’t in it although it looks great ?
I got an overwhelming feeling of sadness and felt like crying
From nowhere. Well it probably was from feeling down earlier

I can’t understand why when in this mood, doing something to engage doesn’t the thoughts and the vicious cycle. Even though I say “ it’s a thought it’s not me”

CLIO51 I often take 2mg of valium to help me relax to sleep but i have noticed that it can leave me feeling very flat the next day.
Do you think that the meds are making you feel even worse?

Also getting trapped in thoughts is way quick way to hell......I have learnt over years to pay attention to my breathing, and let go of paying attention to my thoughts.....this kind of thing is now termed Mindfulness but it is really helpful for anxiety and depression.......I have had terrible anxiety, it runs heavily in my family too.
I hope you can feel better it is hard to be anxious and depressed.
You can ask your GP if there is a local course you could go to for help with Anxiety, don't just stop the meds though....find out what else you can do to help first.

Have a look at the Black Dog thread. It may help you.

Usually a trauma of sorts or even childbirth with PND which had been left undiagnosed or untreated ?

Do you know what triggered all this ?