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No longer interested in the bedroom

(32 Posts)
sodapop Sun 15-Dec-19 09:01:05

Yes your friend's GP should be her first port of call. There is a lot of help now for menopausal problems. No need for embarrassment.

wildswan16 Sun 15-Dec-19 08:01:52

She may find a site called "Menopause Matters" helpful. It has good, independent and clinician led advice. But a visit to her GP would also be sensible - some are better than others.

It is often the younger GPs who are more "sympathetic" to menopausal problems I find.

mumofmadboys Sun 15-Dec-19 07:54:14

GP's are well used to this conversation so I would suggest making an appt.

nannyYvie Sun 15-Dec-19 07:39:01

Thank you ladies, this is positive news. She assumed that the internet would only be filled with comments about how she should talk about the issue with her partner, or perhaps she is one who thinks the internet has too much false information. However, thank you again. I'll be sure to show her you helpful replies.

Oopsminty Sun 15-Dec-19 07:19:22

Hi. Quite agree that a trip to the GP is well worth it. This is a very common problem and can be addressed.

Also I know you said your friend isn't keen on googling but the NHS website has loads of helpful information.

Hope your colleague can get some help

BBbevan Sun 15-Dec-19 06:57:43

I can only say that that was my experience. Went on for about 5 Years if I remember, and suddenly came back. I didn't go to the GP, and DH was saddened but supportive. I can remember the day and where I was when I felt my libido return. Everything has been good ever since. I can only think it is all to do with hormones.
This was quite some time ago, so I would think a visit to the GP might be a bit more productive these days , why does your friend not want to search the internet? It can be very helpful .

nannyYvie Sun 15-Dec-19 01:18:36

This is only my second post so I'm still relatively new to this and I'm not sure if this is the right forum for this topic. Please advise if it isn't.
After having a frank discussion with my work mate about the menopause and its symptoms recently, she later confided in me that since experiencing the menopause 2 years ago, she has lost all interest in the bedroom department. Whilst she has a supportive and patient partner, she feels desperately sorry for him as he is somewhat younger than her (she's in her fifties) and she feels that she really must turn matters around as it has been going on for so long with no sign of change. She did say that this is totally out of character as to how she was before entering this phase of her life so it isn't as if she had a low sex drive before. She has said that the only way she can bear to be touched is if she has a good old drink beforehand, but this clearly isn't ideal. I suggested speaking to her GP, but she is reluctant to do so as she doesn't think any of her GPs would or could offer any suitable advice other than to talk to her partner as they are all in their thirties. She also doesn't want to search the internet for answers, but she gave me permission to ask others for advice when I told her about GN. It's been useful to me as a new gran. Does anyone know if this is something that can be reversed in any way and if so, how can she or should she go about it?