Just had bad news

I’m so sorry, Craftycat. I wish I could do more than just send you love. Xxx

Sending love and strength to you and your family. xx

Sorry to hear this horrible news you must be so sad
I hope it’s longer than you are worried it may be
Fingers crossed for you all xxx

Craftycat I’m really sorry that your family are facing this. We have been in a similar position as you for the last three plus years. At first I cried at the drop of a hat, mostly in the car or after visiting. I’m not going to go into too much detail here but what I’ve held onto over these years is something my husband said to me after one visit as I was crying he said
“I know she’s going to die, I know it’s beyond sad but before she dies she has to live and so do we” that’s what my aim has been through these very distressing years to give her the encouragement to live the best she can. To support my frightened son to face the day to day emotions and face the future and be there for the children. Hold on tight you can face this. Look after yourself and let others support you while you support your son and his family I and others are here if you need us.

Very sad news indeed lives very unfair sometimes

Such very sad news. Take care crafty cat. Those poor children. X

Life can be so cruel.
You are going to have to be so strong for your dear family.
I hope that putting your fears and worries on here helps.
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Craftycat, So, so, sorry .
But, as a couple of friends upthread has said, cancer treatment has moved forward in leaps and bounds. Never give up hope. While there's life, there's hope. In the meanwhile, I pray your lovely d.i.l., your son and all the family find the strength to travel this bumpy road with courage. Lots of love xxx

Craftycat I am so sorry.

Awful news

So sorry for your news hope being on here helps in some small way. So sorry.

Let's hope it will be a good few years before any cancer appears, and that by then there will be better treatment.

I hope they have all the information and fully understand it. Some medics are incredibly clumsy when it comes to giving bad news. My friend is an oncologist and says that any prognosis is a guess, some just more likely than others.

Such terrible news craftycat, I would imagine you are all in a state of shock but in a few days you will probably go into a different mode and things will begin to look hopefully a bit brighter and you will all rally round .I am sending you a big hug and wishing you a good night's sleep.

Take the next few days just for yourself. Cry, feel anger, feel the confusion. As you give yourself these few brief moments, you may find strength for what is ahead...you are stronger than you know,

Oh craftycat, such sad news. Of course cry if your body lets you, a natural reaction which can be a release. Look after yourself so you can look after your family. Sending love to you all.

I am so very sorry, Craftycat. This is heartbreaking. Hoping you can all gain strength from each other.

Oh Craftycat, I can't say anything that has not already been said.
Please do keep letting your emotions and feelings out here. There are many to listen, maybe give advice, and give support.
Love, hugs and prayers to your DIL and all, the family.

So sorry to hear this, sending every good wish.

xx

So sorry to hear this, Craftycat

Gransnet was a huge support to me last year when a similar tragedy struck our family. Keep posting if it helps you to stay strong but don't worry if you crumble and weep, because you will.

So very sorry to read your post. Do have a good cry, I think it's important you don't bottle up all your emotions. You will be strong for your son and daughter in law, but you are entitled to feel sad too.

I would recommend you go on to the Macmillan website , they have a special forum for carers and family members and I am sure you will be made very welcome and maybe find others in similar situation.

Whilst your daughter in law is living with cancer, I hope and pray that current treatments will be able to give her not only more time but also a good quality of life for more years to come .

Oh God, Craftycat, I am so so sorry to read this, such truly awful news. Your poor family. I don't know what to say, because really there is nothing, no words that could possibly help. Just know you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers ??

I am so sorry to hear your news Craftycat it must be like living with a time bomb. Life can indeed be cruel. Sending you hugs and

Craftycat what a devastating phone call to get. Your lovely DIL must be so worried about leaving her young children as well as everything else. She needs to know that whatever happens her family will rally round when she is gone and see them safely into adulthood and beyond.

I know this because a very dear friend lost her fight with cancer in similar circumstances. But she died knowing that us, her friends, would be there for her children and husband.

I’m so very sorry to read this craftycat. Sending you love.

So sad reading this craftycat. Terrible news for your lovely family.
As newnanny has said, keep hope alive. New treatments are coming out all the time.

DH has incurable kidney cancer which has spread.. 3 years on and he is still fairly well and still having treatment although he is now on the third type when other drugs stopped working.
I find the facebook support group is very helpful. There are lots of practical ideas and always people who know what you are talking about.