Prostate cancer

I can't believe that anyone would use a serious thread such as this to post spam! That's just shocking and the people concerned should be thoroughly ashamed. My DH had PC in 2011 picked up by consulting our GP about weeing problems leading to a blood test. As he was just under the cut off age for a prostatectomy he was able to have the operation, and was absolutely fine afterwards. A minor blip in 2018 necessitated 6 weeks radiotherapy, so far since then all has been ok. He still has a six monthly check up which is a bit stressful, he'll be on these for the rest of his life. P.C is one of the most treatable cancers and knowing this helped to keep us positive. However it is a b###r, and I do feel really sorry for anyone going through this illness.

Maw I didn't realise it was a spam posting . Good job you are on the ball.

The last post on this thread was 19/01/2020.

Bella and Flora I doubt any of the previous posters will read your messages.

Another old thread revived by spam posting.
What is saddest is that some of those contributing have lost their husbands since their posts.
A good suggestion though from Floradora but I am slightly sickened at the spammer who sought to exploit the thread.

I have been on the other side of this I had breast cancer and we found the best way to keep going ,especially through radiotherapy over 4 weeks and daily , was to make sure I was seen early in the day so we could then do something else that day . Even going into town for a coffee , a little walk or a visit to somewhere after each treatment was a great help . I did not realise until later what a great help his friends were to DH especially as he had lost his mother to this cancer .

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Hi lindylou23 ,My other half was diagnosed with PC in August which has travelled to his bones too .
No operation offered , and Chemo is a no no as he reacted in minutes , Hormone injections since September and so far though he is very tired , things aren't too bad. The McMillan nurses are dedicated and absolutely brilliant .
Not sure where you're based ,but our local hospitals (north east) have been wonderful with all the tests and advice ,and the chemo staff (though now not an option ) were superb .
Talk to your hubs , the doctors , consultants and nurses , and find out all you can .
Feel free to PM me too , hugs and best wishes .

Lindylou - I am sorry that you are both having to go through all this and send good wishes.

Feel for you too. My DH had prostate cancer whilst we still lived in France. Coping with the shock, and then with everything in French, called upon resources we did not even know we had.
But inevitably one does cope {no choice really}. We opted for radical prostatectomy and haven't looked back. Each year, the PSI is measured which is now down to 0.01%, so looking good.
If you need any help or moral support, please feel free to contact us privately - here to help as we are now in Dorset.
Stay brave!

Yes we all react differently. My DH wanted to know all the ins and outs. He researched and Googled and asked questions. A friend whose DH has it, doesn't want to talk about it at all. Both understandable.

I do understand that the ideal is to talk things through with your partner, cry etc.
DH is a big, tough ex-policeman, and he doesn’t do “feelings”, unfortunately, or want to talk about things. I respect this is what he wants.

Maybe he's struggling to keep a stiff upper lip in front of you. Why not fight this disease together

I think that approach can puy too much pressure on a couple to always be on the same page. When dealing with these things people arent necessarily on the same phase of thought/feeling at the same time IYKWIM

Maybe he's struggling to keep a stiff upper lip in front of you. Why not fight this disease together, have a cry, a cuddle, and then resolve to do your very best to face whatever the future holds? Talk to the Prostate Cancer charity helpline, they were very helpful when my dad was ill.

Hi Lyndylou

My hubby is in remission/cured of prostate cancer and there have been threads on this over the years. Put Prostate Cancer into ' Search' and you may get some further reassurance of how other posters have had to come to terms with the news, which is an undoubted shock.

On one of my posts I say at the end :-

" I think you can only put your faith in the hands of your partners consultant and I have to speak as we find the care from the NHS he has recieved has been examplary and I wish you and your partner well for the future."

I wish the exact same to to both you and your dear hubby.

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www.gransnet.com/forums/health/1245597-Anyone-have-partner-with-Prostate-cancer?pg=3

Thank you all for very supportive messages, as it is early days there is so much to take in and seeing your loved one in pain is heartbreaking ,as you say joannapiano the nights are hard.I will get all the information I can and stay positive,hearing personal stories is very heart warming x x

My thoughts are with you, lindylou. DH was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer in November, with a PSA of 340. He has a hormone implant in his tum and started chemo this month because it has spread to two lymph nodes and a bone. We had had a difficult year supporting our 40 yr old son in law through a stem cell transplant for multiple myeloma, thankfully he is in remission.
All I can say is, that everyone we have told have been so kind and supportive, with offers of help and lifts.
Stay strong, although I know the nights are hard.

I forgot to say - Prostate Cancer UK is a very informative site run by men and will answer any questions including what can happen when the cancer has spread to the bones.

Sending supportive thoughts, lindylou.

I have no advice but sending love and

DH is in his third year since diagnosis, has six monthly injections and has had seven weeks of radiotherapy, operation was never an option.
Bladder is a problem during the night and bowels can be a bit iffy, not sure if this is connected to the radiotherapy.
I know it is a shock when you get the diagnosis, DH's came just after I had finished chemo for bowel cancer.
The fact remains that a percentage of men will get prostate cancer in later life and the risk increases with age.

Yes it's a shock *Lindylou" DH was very well looked after. I'm sure your DH will be too. If it helps, DH's hormone treatment was monthly injections with no side effects in his case. No side effects either from radiotherapy.

Lindylou, you have to make an effort to look after yourself well. Then, you'll have the strength to cope and look after him. I second the walking, even a brisk walk around the hospital helps. Have regular chats with friends and family. Be as 'normal' and matter-of-fact with him as possible. Don't focus on the cancer, leave that to the doctors.

He has it in the bone aswell. Different treatments have been spoken about by consultant but as you know it has to follow a pattern hormone treatment first
Tanith, I do have a very lovely supportive family around, thank you for the offer of pm , I'm sure I will need you sometime.
I am trying to get all the information I can.
I cannot believe how we take every day things for granted until they are taken from us

Lindylou, I am so sorry to hear your news, and the shock that you must have had.
My husband was diagnosed last year with prostate cancer. Just a year after I had been diagnosed with breast cancer.
His was picked up through a blood test, otherwise he would not have known. He had radiotherapy for 6 weeks, and is now on 12 weekly implant/ injections. His PSA levels have decreased dramatically, and although tired, is fine.
You will feel shell shocked, but there will be lots of support, and advice from the GN's here.
So come and let it all out.

Sorry to hear this. My DH was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2014. They said he wasn't suitable to have his prostate removed for some reason. He was disappointed. However, he had 37 days of radiotherapy and hormone injections. He has been in remission since, although we recently thought there was a blip. Fortunately there wasn't. He is very well. The MacMillan nurses are helpful. When he was first diagnosed and worried, the nurses arranged for a man who had been through treatment to ring DH and talk him through it. It helped. I'm sorry I don't know about DVT. Sending good wishes. I know it's hard.