A friend does a great deal to help another old friend of hers who now has mobility problems and other health problems. Both are in their eighties. The friend-of-a-friend berated her for "not being feminine enough".
Friend-of-a-friend never goes out without full makeup, hair just so and a gallon of perfume liberally applied - but she has three divorces under her belt, is not on speaking terms with any of her family, can't keep carers or helpers as she criticises their appearance and everything they do (as she does to my friend, and even criticises friend's partner although he has put himself out to assist her.)
We should be concentrating on which matters more - outside appearance or inner worth?