Black Dog Gang 6

whywhy butterflies ?, they are beautiful , they mean
renewal, rebirth, good luck x

Annie you were right to 'sound off' on here, that is what we are all here for. I'm pretty sure you will have already thought about this but if it is a council property they have a duty of care to you all and have powers to evict disruptive neighbours. I know that sounds drastic but, as they are already aware of her mental health issues, they would not let her be homeless.

You are doing well why and it sounds like you have support. Good to see you are taking positive action.

DH and I are not doing so well today, emotionally exhausted. We did have a good day yesterday and were overwhelmed with family love but somehow that has made things harder today.

Hi Annie and all on this wonderful site.

I’m continuing with the packing but no van is available from this end of the world so my friends are going to try and get it sorted for me. They have also being looking at the newspapers in their areas for flats but no viewings possible yet. Hopefully it will all happen soon. I was so down in the dumps yesterday as it is made harder by moving over 200 miles away. Keep on plodding. Sending love and hugs to you all. The light is there but it is almost like a butterfly! X

Hi all x

How is everyone ?

I echo everything lavender said. You have always been here for us annie and we can only imagine what you have been through. So sorry this upset next door has such a knock on effect on you. Please take care annie . x

Annie no, no you mustn't think that at all. We are hear to listen. There is no one more supportive to us all than you are. You keep us up when we are down, you keep us going when we want to give up. We try to understand how you feel and want to listen just like you do to us.
I can well understand the feelings you have regarding asking for help for your Catherine, and how you were failed. It should never have been. I was just lucky I got someone who saw the help that was required.
Please don't apologise Annie it just isn't necessary at all.
Love and hugs xx

I am so sorry for my posts today. The night Catherine died she
telephoned the police at 1.00am, they went to her house, a few
hours later she was dead. We didn’t know about that call, the
police referred themselves to police complaints that morning,
the decision given was the visit that night was not related to her death so no explanation for their visit was to be given.

I hired a solicitor, nothing could be done, no explanation to be
given at the inquest.

Seeing the police waiting nearly four hours next door brings
back that night.

I telephoned the mental health team the day before she died and said I was very fearful she was on the edge, they said they
couldn’t discuss it.

I am thankful the woman is getting much support but I can’t
help but think ‘where were you all two years ago’.

Again I am sorry for today , it was wrong of me to speak of it,
it has nothing to do with ‘The Black Dog’.

I spoke of it now because I owe you all an explanation.

Let’s forget it x

annie sorry yes I remember you talking about your daughters husband before. I know you love your mountains so much as well.
I can’t believe the council would consider doing her garden and not yours. How unfair. Hope something gets resolved with her soon.
lavender so glad your daughter is well looked after. That must be of some comfort.
Hope everyone is ok. Take care x

Hello everyone, hope you are all ok.

Annie this is a horrible situation for you with the next door neighbour. It isn't right that someone should be so disruptive that is affecting neighbours on either side. I feel for you xx
You are the link to your granddaughter from Catherine, that is so lovely. Hopefully we will be out of this horrible situation soon and she will be able to come to see you again.
Doodle the people who look after my daughter are very kind and take good care of her, thankfully. Hope you are ok.
You have done well Nonnie you are over that first hurdle, hope you enjoyed your day in the garden with your son and daughter in law.
How are you Joyce hope you are coping better today.
The days seem much of a muchness don't they? The sun has shone today I took my little friend for his walk and sat and contemplated things whilst he played around.
Have a peaceful evening everyone, stay safe, take care, and sleep well tonight. God bless xx

WW3 here. The council came to do her garden , neighbours
furious, told the council gardeners ‘there a lovely lady next door to her, very disabled, pays for a gardener and for a council wheelie bin, she doesn’t get help’ .

A friendly chap is now in my garden, my dogs and I are shut
in the bungalow, doors and windows closed, so hot, and she
next door is sitting in her garden with two from the mental
health team, three of them sitting on deck chairs !

*Doodle’, I don’t want to move to my younger daughter’s , her husband is too controlling and I couldn’t move away from my
younger granddaughter, I promised Catherine I would care for her children, couldn’t do that 220 miles away. And I love
them so much. They bring me sunshine as their mother did.

Oh annie I wish they would take her somewhere to help. Not just for her but for the rest of you too.
To be honest annie I don’t know how you just keep on keeping on. I know you have your dogs but with your hands and your pain on walking life must be really hard for you. Would there be a chance one day you could move closer to your daughter or perhaps sheltered housing where you could have some help and company? I don’t know how you manage to get by day by day. I know you love your mountains and the views from your window. I hope this lockdown is over soon and you can get the help you need to get out x

nonnie good idea for today. Sun and rest. Take care.
lavender glad your daughter is ok now. Is the place she is in a caring one. I hope so.

Update on my neighbour, she was taken in the ambulance but
was back home about 8.00pm last night.

This morning she was having a rant at my lovely next door but
one neighbour, the council won’t do any work in her back
garden , he told her to do as we all do , ‘do it yourself or pay a
gardener’

I am keeping my back door closed !

nonnie I am not pushing myself to plan, I plan how to be able to do things such as going outdoors, been in my bungalow for three years, no husband, no family to Social distance , to sit in my garden or stand on my garden path , no
one has been in my home for 9 weeks, would you be content
to just keep on keeping on ?

Annie maybe it is time to stop pushing yourself to plan? Sometimes we simply have to keep on keeping on. The 'I should' and 'I ought' can be very damaging. Some times we just need to stop and be kind to ourselves.

Thanks for all your good wishes and kindness. The last two days have been hard and very emotional but. Two nights we both worked until late collating information required. In a way I think it helped as a sort of 'project' rather like some of the things I did when working. Researching, collating and presenting. I expect it will hit me in the next day or two but I'm not too bad now.

Today I am going to be kind to me and let everything else wait until tomorrow. I have a sundress on and plan to spend most of the day doing nothing in the garden. DS and DiL are coming round and social distancing in the garden. It is all planned so they don't have to touch anything but we can sit and chat.

Your support means a lot to me. Thanks

Hi all x

And how is everyone today ?

Hello everyone

Oh Annie not again I wish they could take her into a place to get some help for her, and some peace for you. How distressing for you.
I understand how you are thinking about all you had planned with regard to getting out, it is such a blow for you. You will get there, things will get better xx

Sorry you have felt down Joyce hope you feel better now. Remember these things pass, although I know how difficult it is to think that at the time.

Doodle my daughter is more settled now. Although as you can imagine things can alter so quickly. I feel grateful that she is being cared for, I couldn't do it any more at my age. Hope you are ok.
I have had an odd two days, nothing specific, just feeling very tired and sort of in limbo, through waking very early and then worrying and not being able to get back to sleep. However, it has passed and I feel better today.

Hope Nonnie is ok.

Hope everyone has a peaceful evening. Take care, stay safe, and sleep well. God bless xx

Goodness annie what is going on. Can you speak to the officers and find out. I don’t think it’s being nosey when you live next door. I wonder if the ambulance came to take her away. What a worry. Hope you are ok x

Aww no not again Annie... hope you are ok.. have they sorted her this time.. x

Joyce sorry you had a down morning , I hope things have
lifted for you x

Doodle Emily Dickinson , her most loved one is
‘Hope is the thing with Feathers’, I also like ‘ I’m Nobody ,Who Are You’.

I was fine this morning then it happened again , two police cars then an ambulance, next door. It upsets me.

Hi annie and joce. I’m ok ish. The lockdown doesn’t really worry me for myself but my usual anxiety hovers in the background as normal. I think things are starting to lift I just hope we don’t have an increase of cases. I am looking at it as the further we are into it the closer we are to the end of the tunnel. I hate those days when your mind won’t leave you alone too joce.
annie I’ve been reading some poetry ? Yes I’m surprised too. Emily Dickinson. Have you heard of her?
Hope nonnie is ok.
Have a good day all.

Hello all.
Annie I have been doing ok with the anxiety, but this morning woke up so down.. don’t know why hope it doesn’t last...
I really don’t like days like this, my head just won’t rest errr.
Hope everyone has a good day..

Hi all x

How is everyone coping with depression and anxiety? I can’t
make any plans to tackle my agoraphobia, can’t even start walking down the garden path because the flag stones are uneven and I have to use a walker because of arthritis.

Thinking of nonnie and hoping today went ok.
Hello lavender hope you and your daughter are ok too.
annie hope you’ve had a bit of a break from washing bottles today. How is the cross stitch going?
Sleep well all x

Hope you are all well.
Just wishing everyone a peaceful evening and a good nights sleep.
Thought about you today Nonnie (your sweet grandchildren I can imagine how you tears flowed when you heard what they had said). Hope all went well.
Take care, stay safe everyone, good night and god bless xx

nonnie hope it works out for you. Sounds as though your DGC love you very much.
joce glad your foot is looking better. Just make sure it heals properly.
annie no need to ask I expect you are still washing bottles! I can’t believe they couldn’t take them back. What a nuisance.
Hope everyone is ok. x