Anxiety has taken over my life

I’m not surprised you feel like this. You’re still grieving, and now the world’s in a mess. Just give yourself time. Focus on one day at a time, and don’t try to look further than that. God bless.

I am in a very similar position to you Narelle and can relate to your situation very well. Personally, I find music helps me tremendously, just some happy, cheerful sounds in the background can help fill the emptiness and bring something alive and active into my life. For me it really does make a huge difference and in the days I begin to feel myself sinking, I realise the radio is off, so on it goes and honestly, my mood soon improves. Hope and pray this works for you xxx

Please stop being so hard on yourself. We are all fighting a battle, just in different places in the fight. Narelle grief is difficult to cope with in normal times. These are not normal times. Maybe try yoga or meditation? Take one day at a time. Find something you can take comfort from. These times will pass. When you’re struggling please talk to someone it will help.

narelle As others have said above, you are not alone. I have coped with some terrible things over the years and come through. Last year I found myself in the GP's surgery a tearful, quivering mess. Now the pandemic. People can take so much before they break. Anxiety is with me daily. I'm sure you will get help and this will pass. Best wishes.

Hi Narelle well it's not surprising you are grieving and now this awful virus crisis has got most of us in a panic! Have you got support either from your doctor or groups? By the way my children and grandchildren live in Australia so you can imagine my anxiety. Look after yourself

Join the Wat Up forum for widows. You will find it helpful. I did.

Sorry to hear of your bereavement narelle it is going to knock you for six and a year is a very very short time
I know NZ is out of lockdown now if Australia is too please consider Bereavement Counselling it will help get things into perspective and CBT will help enormously with the anxiety
Unfortunately when one thing bad happened it magnifies all the others until they take over, but you will get through it
Talking even on here will help and there are many people here who have had recent bereavements who will be more help that I can be
Don’t think you are unusual these are normal feelings and will pass but there is a lot happening in your life be kind to yourself and allow time to heal you
It will

Just wanted to say "hello" narelle222 hope the comments will help you. Just pop in here and keep talking, lots of lovely Gnetters here.

This will pass. You have had a really bad year and, in truth, it would be odd if you didn’t feel like this. You are suffering a natural reaction to grief and stress. Yes, it can be the little things like broken pipes, which really pile it on.

Big hugs x

Don't worry, we are not all good all of the time and you are certainly not alone. I would go back to your doctor and ask for more help. In the meantime I would find something interesting to do, maybe lean something new? There's lots of short courses on the net, ration the time you spend listening to the news and maybe listen to music. Looking like you will be out of lockdown before us which is something to look forward to.

Don't hide your feelings narelle222 you are recently bereaved and struggling with lockdown issues, of course you are going to feel anxious.
As others have said get some professional support or self help groups. It's ok to feel as you do, we all have our anxieties at the moment. Be kind to yourself.

Trust me Narelle , we are most of us just about coping here, even the famed British ‘ stiff upper lip’ is being tested to the limit! I have had many, many tussles with anxiety, the best help was anti anxiety meds from the GP short term , and ( private) sessions with a therapist who gave me a ‘ toolbox’ of skills to deal with the problem myself. Good luck!

Hi narelle. You’re not alone with anxiety, and bereavement is high on the list of causes.
Many things you’ve written in your very honest post are usual fears and reactions that manifest themself when you are suffering anxiety. Also anxiety and depression often go hand in hand.
Please pursue some professional help, you can get started on gaining back your positivity and enthusiasm.
I went the private route for counselling and it didn’t take very long to learn and practice the “techniques” it taught, and to push the fears away. Slowly you realise you are regaining equilibrium in your life.
It really didn’t cost more than a few salon hair do’s. Well worth spending the money if you can.
Don’t leave it too long Narelle, the sooner you work at it, the quicker the joy comes back into your days.
I wish you well ?

Maybe at the present time telephone counselling would help? Do you have children? A year since losing your DH is still early on the bereavement journey. Be kind to yourself and dont expect too much too soon.x

narelle222 anxiety is horrendous and I fully sympathise with you. You have recently lost your husband - it is no wonder you feel as you do. Have you thought of counselling? It can be very theraputic and very effective in helping with anxiety. If waiting lists are long and you can afford it, go private. The sooner you get some help, the better. But, If things are really bad you need to go back to your doctors and let them know you are finding it hard to cope, help is out there, please don't suffer alone.

Hello Narelle.
Anxiety erodes confidence and can be very disabling. If you have always coped it’s even more difficult to deal with. It’s not been long since you lost your husband so It’s understandable you are struggling.
The world is a scary place and many people are anxious about Covid19. We live in frightening times but you are far far away from this.
See your doctor perhaps or can you talk to friends or family.
You are grieving still, be kind to yourself.