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Unbelievable to think it’s happening again.

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MooM00 Fri 19-Jun-20 18:08:58

Hello, I wrote 18 months ago to say about my niece who died of cancer at the age of 30 In November 2018 leaving 3 children under 5. Her husband also aged 30 died the following May of an aneurysm, again leaving the children with no parents. At the time I was furious with my Sister who would not do her share of looking after any of the children and this was left to the other grandma. My Sister has not seen much of the children only on the odd occasion. I have to say I am now glad that my Sister didn’t get involved with the children as she too has just found out she has the same cancer as her daughter died from, colon cancer and has spread to her liver. I am not aloud to see her in hospital because of the covid virus. I am deeply upset by this as she is my only sister. I am now pleased that she never got too involved with the children though I thought it was very selfish at the time. Had the children got used to knowing her, yet again they would have had to go through the sad news of loosing their grandma.

Sparklefizz Fri 19-Jun-20 18:17:55

I am so sorry to read about your tragic losses, MooM00
flowers for you.

BlueBelle Fri 19-Jun-20 18:25:21

Oh my goodness how dreadful my deepest sympathies go to you and your poor little great nieces and nephews that’s a tragic set of circumstances I can only offer you heartfelt thoughts and I hope your sister doesn’t suffer and that you may be able to get to see her soon

ninathenana Fri 19-Jun-20 18:25:33

How tragic.
I'm so sorry to read about your sister. Do you think it's possible that she was already feeling ill when the children lost their parents and either didn't feel up to being more involved or maybe suspected the worst.
Thinking of you all.

morethan2 Fri 19-Jun-20 18:36:55

I’m really sorry such awful losses in one family. It’s such a heartbreaking disease.

OceanMama Fri 19-Jun-20 23:14:30

That's a lot of loss, and is such a short time. I'm sorry you're going through all that.

blondenana Fri 19-Jun-20 23:20:42

So sorry to read this,poor children, losing mum then dad,and now grandma,
It must have been such a shock to you too, all in a very short time flowers

crazyH Fri 19-Jun-20 23:32:02

Oh my, my , sad 😭
My condolences to you and the poor dear babies. Life can be so cruel. Hope and pray God gives you all the strength to cope with such tragic losses. My heart is so heavy flowers

maddyone Fri 19-Jun-20 23:47:32

I don’t know what to say to you because everything that has happened in your family is heart rending. I’m so, so sorry for your losses, and so sorry about your little great nephews and nieces. I understand why you were cross with your sister at first, but as you say, perhaps it is for the best. I hope you are able to see your sister soon. flowers

Eloethan Sat 20-Jun-20 00:00:16

That's really awful MooMoo. I am so sorry to hear of all the sadness you have experienced and now the terrible news of your sister's illness. I hope you and the children are somehow coping and I wish you well at this very difficult time.

SueDonim Sat 20-Jun-20 00:33:12

I’m so sorry. sadflowers

V3ra Sat 20-Jun-20 00:42:58

So, so sad. Are you in contact with the children's other grandma and able to keep your side of the family involved?

Hithere Sat 20-Jun-20 01:36:40

I am so sorry.

So much pain in such a short period of time.

TrendyNannie6 Sat 20-Jun-20 11:41:53

I don’t know what to say to you, such a sad sad time, I didn’t want to pass by your post, I’m truly sorry to hear this

starbird Sat 20-Jun-20 11:48:08

That is so very, very sad. I hope the visiting restrictions will be lifted soon.

Bathsheba Sat 20-Jun-20 11:49:36

Oh gosh, what a desperately tragic story. I am so very sorry to hear this. My deepest condolences to you at this awful time flowers

grandtanteJE65 Sun 21-Jun-20 13:42:30

Moo Moo, I feel for you. My sister died of cancer four years ago, so I know something of what you are dealing with right now.

I hope you will soon be able to see the children.