polyester57. What comes over in your post is how much your care about your friends and would like to help. There is a stage where your friends will be trying to accept the diagnosis and accompanying prognosis during which time they may be reluctant to discuss anything outside the two of them no matter how close you all are. What you need to do is go on being the stalwart friends you are, continue as normal as much as you can and take your lead from them. With the passage of time some friends disappear as the situation becomes more trying, and it is clear that you will stick by them. Be there to give your friend a break when she needs one and support but hold back on advice unless you are asked for it. My Uncle had Alzheimer’s disease but luckily did not become difficult or awkward. He remained the kind, gentle person he always was just that he was more and more forgetful, repetitive, and also very emotional, loving, a a bit weepy. The disease has a very wide spectrum. What the carer needs is loving, non judgemental support, to look after her DH in the way she decides. Missadventure makes a very good point. When you see your friend alone she may want to “escape” or she may want to offload. You might want to speak to Alzheimer’s UK for advice on how to be the best support you can. Take the lead from your friend. She is lucky to have someone as caring as you who is going to support them. ? for you all
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