This is a mental health issue as in my title, I hope this is the best place to ask opinions?
Years ago I was in a fatal RTA, resulting in a coma, brain haemorrhage and on life-support. My parents instilled in me that I was nothing special to not have died and should appreciate life more. I had a very strict, old-fashioned upbringing and was truly miserable at home, looking forward to when I could leave school and enjoy my life. I loved school, worked hard and had many activities out with my family. In the 70s there wasn’t the aftercare for head injury people especially in the very remote place I was born and bred in. I was determined to leave home despite my head injury and eventually I qualified as a teacher, met my now husband and my in-laws took me to their heart and at last I felt part of a loving family.
Now I am semi-retired with more time on my hands, I have been thinking over the past, the RTA in particular. I never became reconciled with my family, I did try and have forgiven them but I am truly the black sheep!
I have always had little things wrong with me physically (numbness, shooting pains) and certain mental blanks (e.g. I can read the same book again as I don’t remember any of it from the 1st time, dates of famous people in history, the meanings of words) I did ask the 1st doctor how would my brain injury affect me? He said probably part of brain I did. I asked what part of my brain and he shrugged his shoulders.
I feel bitter that my parents didn’t take better aftercare of me and it’s driving me mad. Do you think it would be stupid or selfish to contact Headway to help me? I know I should feel fortunate to have lived a happy life for last 30 years but there’s always this niggle. I wasn’t given time to grieve properly after the driver died. My parents point blank refused to believe me when I said that I couldn’t and didn’t remember anything for about 6 weeks after. I do remember my father waving his finger in my face saying “Don’t you ever say you don’t remember again”
Sorry this is so long, just be interested if you think to contact Headway is wasting their time or not.
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