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First Christmas Alone

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PECS Sun 11-Oct-20 12:31:41

How lovely to see your family on Christmas Day morning but can see how the rest of the day, on your own, will highlight the loss of your DH.
Unless there is a friend who is also alone to spend time with you all I can suggest is that you invest in the things you really enjoy: food, music, TV shows, films, book etc. and spend the rest of the day doing all your favourite things. It won't stop you being alone but it might make the day pass more pleasurably.

BlueSky Sun 11-Oct-20 11:59:37

Msida I feel for you. Sadly this will happen to all of us or our partners. There are many on here who have been through this so I’m sure they’ll have some practical suggestions for you. Big hug x flowers

Nannarose Sun 11-Oct-20 11:55:06

I feel for you. It is never easy to know what might be helpful, but I will share my dad's experience, and if it doesn't help you, then forget it!
He actually asked to be alone that first Xmas. He had an invitation from a close friend for Xmas Eve, and he asked us not to phone. He spent the day in a mix of things he had loved to do with my mum, like a big fried breakfast, and things she wouldn't have done, like watching old films. He wrote down some Xmas memories, as the fancy took him, and went out for a Xmas walk.
He wanted to remember her in his own time, to cry when he wanted to, not be working to our timetable.
He then joined us for our regular Boxing Day outing.

It was the right thing to do, for him. I hope you can make your first lone Xmas one that helps you heal.

Msida Sun 11-Oct-20 11:46:25

Hi I will be spending my first Christmas alone.. I lost my husband recently..

I will have one visit, which is for Christmas breakfast from family, but they will then go off for the day to spend it with another part of the family and I will be alone for the rest of the day..

Thing is I don't want it to be a sad day