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worrying about partner with onset of dementia

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Buntie123 Tue 17-Nov-20 17:28:14

hi everyone my husband is 63 just been made redundant, but is acting very strangely at night times, saying people are trying to break in the house and he can hear people hammering his car etc

Mental health team diagnosed paranoid and he is due a ct scan next week. Has anyone else been in a situation like this please

and will the CT show and eliminate signs of dementia

Our life has been turned upside down and he seems very scared of everything x Any advice would be appreciated, He also wont have the blinds open in the day, as he says people are looking in x

Bluebellwould Tue 17-Nov-20 17:32:03

Hi Buntie, I have no advice for you but just wanted to say how sorry I am that you are in this situation. It sounds heartbreaking. I hope you manage to find some treatment that will help. Try to find some time just for yourself so that you can continue to cope. Best wishes and please keep us updated if you can.

BlueBelle Tue 17-Nov-20 17:37:17

I think scan can shows signs of shrinkage or dementia but it could be a temporary anxiety thing If the redundancy was a shock it may have just had a really bad effect on him which medication may well help
Job loss coupled with lockdown could bring on a mental health condition
I hope the scan is helpful and gives you some answers

ElaineI Wed 18-Nov-20 13:17:18

A scan would show tumour, vascular dementia or any physical abnormality in the brain. It might not show Alzheimers or perhaps a serious mental illness which may have been brought on by redundancy - depression with anxiety or psychosis. Sounds like the Mental Health Team is on board and need a CT to perhaps eliminate other causes.

BlueBelle Wed 18-Nov-20 13:19:12

I think a shrinkage of the brain shows up on scan which would denote Alzheimer’s or dementia

Luckygirl Wed 18-Nov-20 13:23:00

I am so sorry that you are facing this worry.

My OH was very paranoid - people were trying to kill him, cut him up, poison him. He also thought I was sending messages through my hearing aids and making dates - with women.

It was very sad and a great struggle for us all, so I do understand how worried you must be. IN his case, he had PD, and both the illness and some of the meds he had to take were responsible for his mental decline.

I hope that the scans show up something that is treatable and that you will receive all the necessary support.

mumofmadboys Wed 18-Nov-20 13:24:59

Is he depressed? Has he a past history of depression? Paranoid ideas can be part of a severe depressive illness. Just try and keep calm, let the tests get done and then hear the conclusions. Take a day at a time. Hope things improve for you both

sodapop Wed 18-Nov-20 15:01:02

I agree with momb there could be more than one reason for your husband's problems Buntie123 don't jump to conclusions, wait for the test results then go from there. I hope things get better for you as well.