BLACK DOG 9

Hi all x

Have chap coming this morning at 10 to discuss moving tv to make room for wheelchair, then abler at 11.00 , support worker at 12.30, afternoon chap coming to sort out my new laptop because I don’t know how to use it.

Be back later x

Evening all. Yes haircut for me tomorrow. I’m so excited ?
Nonnie I have some virtual friends on GN. I find I care a lot about them and what happens to them. Like you I also feel for the people in India and Brazil and their COVID problems. Every day in the paper there is a story about someone suffering, we can’t hide from it.
I too just do church online. I am thinking when the time comes to return I might change churches and go to a more local one rather than the one where we used to live. Yes I do get more sleep now that DH sleeps better but mostly I’m just happier that he is getting proper rest now,
I hope you have a lovely time with your DIL shopping and a drink sounds good to me ?
Scaredycat does your head feel lighter, ? I’m sure mine will. My hair is so long now I can’t wait to have it bobbed.
I’m hoping my hairdresser survived the lockdown ok. He only bought the shop about 2 years before lockdown so is still building it up.
Ellie Anne congratulations on your second jab.
I’m sorry that your marriage is causing you to feel so low. If you have family problems it would be such a help to share them with your DH but if that support is lacking I can understand how that would bring you down.
Hope your life gets back to normal a bit soon and you get to enjoy your church life again.
Annie have you been in your chair today? Any luck with re arranging the furniture?
Take care all x

Second jag today !
Yes doodle that is the main cause of my unhappiness.
There is also worry about the family but everyone has their problems.
I’m very grateful to all of you for support.
When I’m with friends I tend to be the one listening to their problems and trying to support them.

Good afternoon all
Doodle- just a reminder Hairdresser tomorrow!!!?
I had mine done today - I love that feeling of coming out of the salon not such a wreck as when I went in. Lovely to see them working again they have worked so hard to build up their business.
Glad your DH is still sleeping better it must help your sleep too- I hope so anyway
Nonnie- glad you still have all your friends . We have lost some of ours over the years - so sad when it happens.
Hope you have a good time on Friday - definitely have a drink whatever the weather!! We went into town before the hairdresser and now it doesn’t feel so scary and most people were wearing masks. So sad to see so many empty shops though.
Love to all BDG

BlueSky don't have any virtual friends, I know them all but I do feel the same about things I hear or read on the news. Really feel for India and St Vincent at the moment, think I feel it more when it is somewhere I have been. Also becoming very aware of people my age dying, although so far it hasn't been any of my friends.

Joce I think being good at one craft makes us appreciate how good others are at another. I've tried quite a few but now stick with the knitting.

EllieAnne good for you going to church once a month, I haven't got that far yet, just online for now.

Scardycat Sunday? Monday? I never know, BH didn't feature for us at all, all days seem the same at the moment

Doodle hope DH's sleep continues to do well. GP gave me pills but I'm only allowed to take them alternate nights as they can become addictive. Was well away last night and then my phone beeped at 0621! I did go back to sleep though. I am sure his sleep is giving you more too.

Happy haircut tomorrow, isn't it exciting?

I'm meeting up with DiL on Friday to go shopping, might even stop off for a drink if the weather is good. That really is exciting.

Nonnie it’s funny isn’t it, some days you just get up full of action and get cracking on jobs and other day it is hard to get the energy to start. I love the days when I just keep going and get things done.
DH is sleeping better with the tablets the GP has given him. It’s such a relief as he was hardly getting any sleep at all.
Bluesky I don’t do FB. I like the anonymity of GN. I do understand about getting upset about things happening to people. Some people have more empathy than others and I do think it’s more common in women
. Hope you had a good trip out.
Joce I’m sure your rag dolls are much appreciated. I bet your DGS loved his pirate. You are quite good at quilting. You did a table runner I think. That looked good.
I suppose we each have a talent for something. Some more than one thing. I can’t draw, paint, knit or crochet.
Ellie Anne do you think the relationship with your DH is the cause of your depression and anxiety. It must be hard living with someone you no longer care for. I hope things get back to normal in your church soon.
Scaredycat sounds a lovely day with your DD and the blue bells and lambs. ?
I agree, I’m sure there are many people who feel a bit brighter from having a chat with someone. My dear SIL used to tell me if she’d met someone out walking who stopped for a chat. Some days, apart from talking to me on the phone, she met no one. Yes I think today is Sunday too. I will probably be a day out for the rest of the week now. As long as I don’t forget haircut on Wednesday ?
Annie how have you been today?

Hello all
Doodle - it,ll be lovely when all the family are vaccinated won’t it. Glad your DIL has hers booked - another step to freedom. Today I walked with my DD and then had an outside Costas! What a treat that was. The bluebells were out and lots of little lambs so we felt very pleased with ourselves. Glad your eyes feel better with your glasses .
Ellie- you certainly keep yourself busy and I,m sure soon that your Church activities will be starting again. Have you been able to meet and chat with friends now we can meet in the garden?
Annie- your new bedroom at your Grandaughters sounds perfect- imagine waking up to see the sea. I hope with all my heart that you will be able to do that this Summer. What lovely Grandaughters you have.
Nonnie- yes it’s lovely to chat with strangers sometimes, we met a lady yesterday on our walk who was obviously lonely and had a really nice chat and then later bumped into her again chatting to someone else so hopefully she went home feeling brighter.
Joce- maybe your GD wants a rag doll in a bathing suit! You are right not to stress yourself with orders otherwise it could become a chore and not the obvious pleasure it is now.
Bluesky- hope you did go for a ride with DH and then a takeaway sounds a great idea. I,m the opposite I have trouble just sitting and keep finding things to do. Hope whatever you did you enjoyed it.

Anyone else keep thinking it’s Sunday today? Bank holidays always throw me especially now the days all seem to blend in together since Lockdown.
Love to all in BDG

Annie there is no love on my side. I have no idea how he feels.
Nonnie we are being allowed back at church now but have to book and can only go once a month so that everyone gets a turn . It’s very odd because we are spaced out and can’t sing.
I always say hello to people when out walking .

Doodle I only make them for my self, I have made them for Grandkids and my dear friend, odd baby I do love making them they are a lot of work, I likes to do a good neat finish on them if you know what I mean .. I adapt like I made grandson a pirate that was really good ??

Nonnie I love knitting but find it hard with my hands now.. Doodle does quilting I’m am no good at it no matter how hard I try.. I would love to do it...

Bluesky horrible miserable day hear.. I’m the same sad news does upset me no matter who it is.. hubby says I’m two soft ?
Can’t help who we are it’s..

Annie how are you today ?

Or even empathise!

Sorry it should be ‘emphathise’ rather than emphasise of course. And I was careful to pick the right one! Wish there was a correct button on here!

Morning all x Lovely wet and cold bank holiday Monday, at least that’s reliable! Many of you on fb? Are you affected by virtual friends’ sad news? I am and DH can’t see how I can be upset about people I don’t actually know. Makes me wonder whether men emphasise like women. I understand that given our age group is to be expected to a certain extent but still it makes me feel even lower. Nothing planned for today, I could happily sit here all day but DH will want to go for a ride at least and possibly get a take away. Wishing you all a peaceful day x

Joce you and all the other cross stitchers amaze me as I tried twice and was rubbish at it. I just don't have the coordination to make it look even. I can knit pretty much anything and it looks good but cross stitch is beyond me.

Doodle yes, great to smile and/or chat with strangers. I sometimes wonder if I might be the only person they speak to that day. It costs nothing to smile at strangers and just might do them some good.

Having overslept yesterday after an idle day I felt so energised. I achieved so much more than I have done for weeks. It would appear that my down days are due to lack of sleep as much as anything else. Wish I could sleep like that every night.

Good night all, have a peaceful night... ?

Joce I can understand about the pressure. Do you make some dolls so that if people ask for them you have some ready? You seem to be so good at making them I’m sure lots of people would love them.
Ellie Anne I’m sure your church work will pick up soon. Is your DH part of the problem with your depression if you don’t mind me askin? Do you have much in common or are you happy with doing your own thing like many couples do?
Annie what joy must have come to you to see the room your elder DGD has prepared for you. She obviously loves you dearly. A view of the sea too, how wonderful. Keep practicing with that chair. I hope you get to visit her soon. Hope you get to see MT soon too.
Annie arrange things for how they suit you. DH often says to me that at our age now we do what suits us. No taking account of other now, he doesn’t mean that in a nasty way just that we concentrate on what is important. Family.
Nonnie I attend online service at Canterbury cathedral every day. I do enjoy it so much. I hope when lockdown is over it continues.
When walking we start off by smiling at people. Some we meet regularly as they do the same walks as us. We start of by saying hello and then build up to conversations. We have about 4 people we meet most weeks and stop and chat to. People we’ve met in our walks. It’s so nice, friends who live on their own tell us it means a lot.
We have been for a walk today but other than that I have been lazy. Played lots of games and reading.
Joce I’m about to start quilting again. I have been playing around with some other ideas but not happy with the results so going back to what I know. So pleased your DGD wants one of your rag dolls. I love making things for mine.
Sleep well all x

Annie Bro made me smile that’s what my grandson says to little man on face time, He’s my Bro ???do hope you see her soon Annie. Sorry no idea for commode table cloth with a tray on ?‍♀️?‍♀️You would think they would come up with something a bit more discrete theses day, could be something to work on... how lovely it will be when you can go try your new room...

Ellie Anne sorry you are struggling. Cross stitch I find is a very good hobby you really can lose your self in it..

Doodle do hope your new glasses help some.
Have you be doing any quilting ? My oldest granddaughter ask if she could have a rag doll, think that’s my next doll.. she want a summer one, not sure what she means but I make the doll then let her choose the material for the dress ? or trousers if she want a male, you never know...

Scaredycat I agree with you about the BDG good always someone to talk too...how are you doing?

Nonnie technology is a wonderful thing more so in time like this.. hope you are well.. I don’t think there’s any thing wrong with doing nothing ?
Take care all ?

Ellie Anne yes, lots of talk about how the young have been affected by lockdown but less about the older ones who have lost their social life. I do hope that some of your activities will soon start up again. Are you going to church yet? We 'attend' online services at the moment and probably will for a while longer.

When you go for your walks do you ever speak to strangers? Mostly I just smile and say hello but there have been times when it feels as if the other person needs to talk so I stop and chat with them.

Annie lots of examples on MSM of how to change your accommodation but can you afford to spend £840 a roll on wallpaper? Perhaps you can throw a chintz cloth over the commode{grin]

Thank goodness for video calls. Hope MT comes to see you soon and that her finals go well.

Yesterday I 'consolidated', DH said it was a good word for doing not very much!! Overslept this morning and feel better for it.

Hi all x

Scaredycat so true about happiness etc, my mini tornado is
doing her finals and I have exam stress, when my younger daughter had 14 IVF attempts and several miscarriages over several years I worried every day and checked the calendar every month for years, I even think I fear my elder granddaughter will tell me she is pregnant even though they don’t want to start a family for several years.

Doodle wretched pollen, must be miserable, how are the exercises going ?

Joyce. Wise not to stress with orders for the dolls, enjoy being
with your grandson and enjoy the sunshine

Ellie you are unhappy, forgive a personal question and don’t
feel you should reply my love, your marriage, is there love there ?

I am longing to see my mini tornado, she said ‘I miss you Bro’,
I replied ‘I miss you Bro, back came ‘but I miss you more , I long to see you Bro’. ?

Elder granddaughter FaceTimed and showed me - my bedroom which is ready for me to stay with them, a view of the
sea too.

Haven’t done more yet with wheelchair, trying to workout how to change things in living room, try hiding a commode !

Doodle the church activities are not allowed back yet. Same with my volunteer work.
I only go out with husband if absolutely necessary as we have nothing to say to each other and the stress affects me badly. Also we have no interest in common except the family.
I walk most days for an hour or two to give me space .
I do all the gardening too.
I do cross stitch, cross words. Occasionally jigsaws and read a lot.
But these things do not change the way I feel inside.

Doodle good to hear your eyes are feeling better..
I’m keeping busy little man helps with that.. but had a few people wanting rag dolls, I won’t take orders can’t take the pressers that brings, I do enjoy making them at my own pace.
Hope everyone has a peaceful night sleep ?

Scaredycat still sniffling a bit but the glasses helped.
Just heard my other DIL has her jab booked for Friday which is good news. We had rain during our walk. Not too much but looks like more tomorrow. Hope you have a good weekend.
Ellie Anne for people who are used to being busy, the lockdown has been very hard. Now things are getting a bit better are you able to do more with the church? If you are not needed so much for childcare, could you take up a new hobby or perhaps a trip out somewhere with your DH?
Annie how have you been today?

I kept myself busy before lockdown with church stuff. Volunteering, seeing friends and helping family with children. I was out nearly every night so it was easier. But my sons wife was made redundant during lockdown and her new job fits in with the children so they don’t need me. Husband rarely went out before virus so his life hasn’t changed much.

Bluesky - DH fine today after jab thank you.
Doodle - There is nothing worse than worry about someone you love as you just want to make it better for them, There is a quotation ‘you are only as happy as your unhappiest child’ and I,m sure it applies to other loved ones too. I think you are wise to take one day at a time and hope things will get better for your young relative.
I hope you enjoyed your busy day yesterday and your walk and tidying today. Hope too the glasses did the trick for your eyes. Yes we ,ve walked each day and it is still chilly. I,m not so ‘bouncy’ today but very grateful for yesterday.
Nonnie- I,m glad to hear such wonderful positivity and that you are enjoying your lovely chaos. Long May it continue.
I certainly find BDG a support as everyone is so kind and understanding.
Annie - been thinking of you and hope you are enjoying your new found mobility.Was it possible for you to sleep in your bed last night? Will MT be able to visit soon - she will be so pleased to see you whizzing about!
Enjoy the weekend everybody

Nonnie so glad to hear you in good spirits. We can all have our ups and downs and it’s good to hear about the ups sometimes too. ?. I have a tidying bank holiday in mind. I am going to turn out all my sewing stuff and re organise. A walk this afternoon and then back to it.
Hello Joce . Hope you are ok. You have a good weekend too.
Annie have you whizzed off anywhere in your new chair yet. How are you getting in with it?
Although it’s a low pollen count today I seem to have a touch of the sniffles. Dark glasses when we go for our walk to shield my eyes and hopefully keep some of the dust and pollen out.
Have a good weekend all. x

Hi all x

How is everyone?